This is Not the Boy's Locker Room

Your forgiven GlobeSpotter....

And thank you...!

....whatever the topic is. Originally Posted by GlobeSpotter

See what I mean LOL...topic posted below, again

For months I have been reading vulgar comments from some of the male members of this forum. You'd think this was a toilet stall inside high school boy's room.

If using garish language and calling women insulting and derogatory terms turns you on, save it for your appointments or use it in the Men's Lounge - maybe someone in there will be impressed. This is a public forum lets keep it civil and act like adults. Originally Posted by drax1

So, Drax, do you have any ideas about how to reduce the locker room talk?

I've given my suggestions from a female perspective. What can be done from a male standpoint?

Another of my own suggestions:

Try to ignore the tone of a post and look to see if you actually share a commonality. Then, start your response by agreeing. This disarms a person who is just trying to be an ass.

It's called a sandwich. You say something nice. Then you speak your piece. Then you finish with another nice comment.

It can be very effective on getting someone back on point and helping them adopt a better tone.

It also cuts down on the White Knight accusations.

Just another thought.

(Was that back on topic, DickMeDown?)

(Was that back on topic, DickMeDown?) Originally Posted by LilMynx69

Let's just say...1 user liked your post

Oh but lilminx the problem with that is that have to be responsible for their reactions to the post while they feel others aren't being responsible for what they are saying. Basically they feel its unfair that those others can say what they want while they feel they have to control themselves.

It's just totally unfair!!!! [stomping feet] lol

Seems like some will use the right to one's opinion and the right of free speech, to justify poor manners. This is the CO-ED FORUM. As Alyssa said, it takes both sexes to make it work.


Referring to women by derogatory labels doesn't make you a bigger man. Whether the lady is a provider or a valued contributor, like LilMinx, the words carry a negative connotation that has been a part of their experience since they understood the meaning of the words. Although, the ladies are unlikely to say anything for fear of alienating potential clients, your poor choice of words is no less hurtful and demeaning.


Many of you who advocate for the practice, offer no defense of the action, rather offer up your right to do so. Those are two separate issues. Just because you can, doesn't always mean you should. That really brings me to the point of the whole thread, which is the negative aspect of this whole Forum.


I value the ladies input to the topics we discuss here. I think it would be much better it more of the ladies would participate, but why would they? Why would they subject themselves to the negativity that some of the members of this forum are creating? If it weren't for the few ladies that contribute to this forum, it'd be just another Men's Lounge.


(And, for all you jackasses that questioned my right to be on this site, to dare question your right to be jerks, that called me a White Knight, that called me a hypocrite.... I am a Navy EOD. I'm not flinching.)

I don't think anyone is worried about you flinching, you also may be surprised at who may be more than willing to sit down face to face and have this discussion as well. Not everyone you think is a keyboard cowboy.

Question..... What do you say about those that say you have no business seeing women of this lifestyle?

So, Drax, do you have any ideas about how to reduce the locker room talk?

I've given my suggestions from a female perspective. What can be done from a male standpoint? Originally Posted by LilMynx69

The hope is that bringing the topic out in the open and letting everyone have their say that attitudes will change. Maybe we can't change everyone, but if we sway one or two, others might follow.

Thank you for your honest heartfelt contribution,

And thank you for your service, SpongeBob. ;-)

I do agree that it is a form of intimidation when males bully the providers into being scared to post and affect their business. That's part of why I post. I don't always agree with the provider side of things. I get a lot of flack for siding with the guys here many times. But, at least, it levels things a bit.

But remember, the way to change things is from within...so don't give up. There are many ladies who appreciate your thoughts. Guys, too.

The hope is that bringing the topic out in the open and letting everyone have their say that attitudes will change. Maybe we can't change everyone, but if we sway one or two, others might follow.

Thank you for your honest heartfelt contribution, Originally Posted by drax1

Now you're just flirting. And making me wet.

xoxo,
LMx

Let me clarify that I agree with your reasons for the OP. Many here can tell you that and if you looked thru my previous posts you might see that thru the thousands of them I've made lol.

The only issue I see in trying to make others do what you or I feel is right is pretty tough to do since you as well as I are going to do what we want even though very many outside of this lifestyle tell us it's wrong. In some ways it's like picking which verse out of a bible that suits your needs at the time and not paying attention to the rest of it. Not sure if that makes sense but I'm trying here lol.

I don't think anyone is worried about you flinching, you also may be surprised at who may be more than willing to sit down face to face and have this discussion as well. Not everyone you think is a keyboard cowboy.

Question..... What do you say about those that say you have no business seeing women of this lifestyle? Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

I say that sex is natural and we are biologically programmed to seek it out. The reason prostitution is illegal has no logical basis. It has been a part of society since people have been on earth. Some have religious reasons, but don't impose your religion on me. Some say it exploits women. I say it is a service like any other as long as the participants engage of their own free will. Don't athletes sell their bodies?

It's almost the same argument for legalizing pot and gambling. In other countries, prostitution is not illegal as it is here, US laws are out of date.

You can justify it any way you like. The fact remains you are gonna do what you wanna do regardless of how many people tell you it's wrong. Yet you are gonna tell others on here what they are doing is wrong and expect them to listen...

The only issue I see in trying to make others do what you or I feel is right is pretty tough to do since you as well as I are going to do what we want... Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

People being offended by an activity that is unrelated to them is very different from being offensive and mean to people you interact with directly. When did it become a right to be unkind to people?

You might say it's free speech - go yell fire in a movie theatre!

Actually you have no idea whether the activity is related to the people telling you that or not. It may be to some and may not to others. Even if someone in this lifestyle told you that what we are doing is wrong you'd still do what you want to do and you'd use the "it's natural" argument to do so.