Many more face photos are stolen by other providers than any other pics. So then everyone's confused, and what a mess! Take the time to meet her in person for drinks or dinner beforehand. Given this, they shouldn't have to screen much-- that WILL be the screening! I would get insulted about you asking for face pics, because I don't know who you really are or what your true intentions are for said pictures. Would YOU send a face pic?? If so, send one and ask for one back.
Also, classy providers are harder to find because we are at the top of the distribution curve therefore less of us which is already more difficult, then you insult us by saying things like, "but so and so would take a trip for free."
Negotiation might be ok, but I'm not so and so and I'd have bills to pay even though I'm on a trip.
I HIGHLY agree about your sentiment on the private parts pics though!! Originally Posted by iris.hart
Many more face photos are stolen by other providers than any other pics. So then everyone's confused, and what a mess! Take the time to meet her in person for drinks or dinner beforehand. Given this, they shouldn't have to screen much-- that WILL be the screening! I would get insulted about you asking for face pics, because I don't know who you really are or what your true intentions are for said pictures. Would YOU send a face pic?? If so, send one and ask for one back.Oh my, where do I start? I strongly agree with much of what you say:
Also, classy providers are harder to find because we are at the top of the distribution curve therefore less of us which is already more difficult, then you insult us by saying things like, "but so and so would take a trip for free."
Negotiation might be ok, but I'm not so and so and I'd have bills to pay even though I'm on a trip.
I HIGHLY agree about your sentiment on the private parts pics though!! Originally Posted by iris.hart
Oh my, where do I start? I strongly agree with much of what you say:I always love reading your posts. You are always very thorough and your posts always speaks the truth and with clarity.
--I think meeting for drinks or dinner first is a good thing from many perspectives.
--I cringe when ladies have identifiable face pictures in their ads or on their web sites. Even if they feel privacy is not critical NOW, it will become so later on for almost everyone. Eventually there will be a real world job, a serious boyfriend, children, etc., etc. And the web is forever.
--I also agree that comparing one lady to another as a negotiating tactic is exceedingly low-class on the part of a guy. Women here are each a unique experience, not a cookie-cutter commodity. It especially annoys me when some guys try and negotiate a refined 2-hour minimum lady down on her price by pointing to a BP lady who advertises 15 min appointments.
However, I seriously cringe when I hear ladies say a conversation over drinks or dinner is sufficient for quality screening. And psychopath can behave nicely in public for 20 minutes. He can dress well, be well spoken, smile a lot, and pull your chair out for you. And still be a psychopath behind closed doors. Please, all of you are unique and precious, and I hate to see needless risks. LE is not the worst problem out there. I have been to a funeral because of that. Once is one too many. Originally Posted by Old-T
Unless there's a tangent that I've missed, you've missed the point.
I am so glad you brought up the meeting in public for dinner or drinks to replace the "normal" screening process. I HOPE YOU GENTLEMEN READ THIS PART. You have no idea how many times I have had a gentleman ask me to do just that. Then they get offended when I tell them no and explain to them the fact that doesn't do anything to prove that they are a safe individual.
Hugs,
Juliette Originally Posted by Gfe Juliette
Unless there's a tangent that I've missed, you've missed the point.
My OP, and subsequent topics have not suggested replacing safety/security screening with dinner and drinks. You and your clients should find a mutually acceptable means of establishing your SAFETY with each other.
Remember that this is Diamonds and Tuxedos. Vetting someone's identify so that you can fuck them in relatively safety is not the topic.
A lady presenting herself in a classy fashion, being enjoyable to spend time with outside of a BCD environment - stimulating the mind before stimulating the body - that's what dinner and drinks are for - an experience of companionship - something that should be a MANDATORY INCLUSION in anyone who offers a GFE.
Imagine being on a blind date, or a first date with an incredibly attractive person, and over the next 10-20 minutes discover the definition of "All beauty, no brains." Someone that says things so vacuous that listening to them open their mouth and emit sounds makes you feel dumber for being in their presence. Personally, that's the end. Having been there, I would not care to repeat.
While every male interaction with a female might at some level be subconsciously conquest-oriented, I believe intelligent people desire mental and emotional engagement.
In fact - thinking about it further - someone who would pay to fuck someone just for the physical release is truly stupid. Masturbation offers the same thing, and if the particular physical sensations are what cause one to part with $150-$500, there are amply masturbatory aids that would accomplish the same, and be legal, from hand held fleshlights to full-sized interactive companions and everything in between.
Diamonds and Tuxedos - we're talking about the finer things in life. I suppose there are alternative methods of emotional and metal engagement with a prospective partner....but in THIS arena, it requires post-screening dinner, drinks, social interaction - non-BCD activities to connect and make it a memorable time. I'm not advocating that EVERY interaction needs those, but when two people are meeting each other for the first time, they absolutely do. Originally Posted by TravelingGentleman
Unless there's a tangent that I've missed, you've missed the point.Traveleing, you are correct about your points starting the thread, but Iris did add a comment that did take it on a safety related tangent. I am glad others caught her post and addressed it.
My OP, and subsequent topics have not suggested replacing safety/security screening with dinner and drinks. You and your clients should find a mutually acceptable means of establishing your SAFETY with each other. Originally Posted by TravelingGentleman
If you can get that much for a date, and take it as proof of being "classy" then more power to ya. I personally am all class by my own set of standards, which is that I dont try to convince myself or anyone else that I'm classy by a price only the truly wealthy can meet (believe it or not, some of the peasants I whore it up for are sweet, considerate, and generous aka...classy), and I absolutely never uh...for lack of a classier way to say...I never fuck anyone over or go back on my handshake. I never act.like I'm better than people who have less than I, and I have quite a lot for being so classless. Also, I never draw attention to myself in a way that implies cattiness towards other females. Just saying...It's not what you do, it's how you do it..... Awesome topic...intellectually orgasmic
By all accounts, it is said that Dolly Parton is a classy lady. Gracious, talented, down to earth, sweet and kind to EVERYONE. She would never say "where are all the people who are good enough for me?" Also, wasn't a hooker. Now there's an example of a classy broad... Originally Posted by B_Genderous