What would you do or expect if caught?

My children have to finish school so it's a few years before I do anything for myself other than rid our home of an extremely poor example of a man that pretended to be a father.

You are all so far off of the reality of the situation. It is no surprise to see the quality of people he chooses to associate with these days. Should he choose to do anything other than crawl away and try to keep his family and coworkers from knowing anything more than we split up perhaps it will be something you read about somewhere else.

I have absolutely no intention of being bitter about any of this. I am looking forward to resolving it all. When it is done it is done and whatever relationship he chooses to have with his children will be what the court allows and what they make of it. They are old enough and mature enough to judge for themselves as well as decide what they want.

I know how they were raised and believe I know how they will react.

In the long run perhaps he will have what he wants with all of you here although he will probably not be able to afford it as he has. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears

Hey you should post some pics in the welcome wagon...hell, you might make a few bucks and actually find out that you like it.

You strike me as a gang bang kinda girl, and we always on the look out for another engine to pull a train.

Let me know if you need help taking the nude pics, I'm pretty good with a camera...

Let's assume the SO in question chimed in, shall we????

Yep. I did it. I did all these prostitutes and paid for it. Why? Because it is easier than going on Ashley Madison and looking for a fellow cheating spouse to bed. This way, I go in, get it done and go on with my life. And if I feel that itch again I find another. You've known in the 20 plus years of marriage that I've been a freak. I have dropped hints several times to the point that you caught me once with a two girlfriends. I found the error of my ways and reformed. But I did it for the children and in retrospect it is abundantly clear that haven't changed. I'm a closeted sex addict.

Take me to the cleaners. Tell my family, tell your family but the only regret will be with our children. Eventually they will find it their hearts to forgive me. They'll see me with another woman whom THIS TIME I'll get it right! I'll find a woman who won't judge me on my sexual depravity (as you call it) and one who is willing to explore our sexual senses without feeling guilty. Hell! The first and only time we did it K9 you cried!!! How the hell do you think that made me feel? But its not just about the sex. We have grown apart and we don't share the same ideals for society and the same goals for our children or our future. There are times that I wonder what we would be like once the kids left the house? I don't know if I could live alone with you because we really do not get along.

I don't blame you. You didn't make me do this. I chose to do this. I can blame it on the addiction but I sent the email and the text and logged on to this site to find a hooker. We've been nothing but roommates raising our children with sex every now and then. Take the house. Take the boat. Take the vacation homes in Colorado and Key West. You can get full custody of the children but that will NEVER EVER stop me from being their father. Quite honestly, I don't need your forgiveness because your forgiveness comes with strings attached and that string will be a rope around my neck constantly reminding me of this mistake. The only forgiveness I need is from my children and my God. After I repent one will forgive and the other two will soon follow.

I wish you well. I know we'll still be in some sort of contact because of our children but take this ordeal as an open door to the rest of your life without me, and I'll do the same. Originally Posted by illuminati

+1

First off, y'all are one hell of a defensive bunch. I'm guessing it's because many of the people here have made enough justifications over the years to feel OK about cheating. It's cool, though. It's easy to make fun of a vegan in a steakhouse. I've made plenty of justifications myself for fucking married men. I've learned 1) assume everyone is a cheater and therefore 2) to look for something outside of monogamy when I'm looking to settle down. Some call it jaded, I just call it being realistic. It beats having my optimistic world shattered in the future (see Miss V's post). Hell, I could be a cheater myself, I just haven't gotten the urge to while within a monogamous relationship. ANYWHO...on to this shit:

...rid our home of an extremely poor example of a man that pretended to be a father. You are all so far off of the reality of the situation. It is no surprise to see the quality of people he chooses to associate with these days...[our daughters] are old enough and mature enough to judge for themselves as well as decide what they want. I know how they were raised and believe I know how they will react. Originally Posted by faithfulforyears

With all due respect, the women here have a better idea of what the typical client looks like than you. Your narrative is based off shitty media representations, some Puritanical and Victorian shit floating around in our culture, and possibly some "Jesus befriended the worst in society, you know, the prostitutes." The funny thing is, once a girl learns to cash in all that charm she's been programmed to have, she realizes it ain't that big of a deal at all. Sure, being murdered/raped/arrested/whatever is bad, but those aren't inherent to hooking, they're inherent to how society views sex workers, a society that is influenced by all of the things you've been influenced by (see above).

Aside from telling you that pussy is easy to sell, I'll also tell you this: it's real fuckin' easy to spot buyers. Sweet college professors who will someday be mentoring your daughters see hookers. So do those esteemed judges who will be presiding over your case, those money hungry lawyers who will be taking your case, and your brother-in-law who will feign surprise when you out homeboy to the family. The cute earthy girl in your yoga class who seems to have her shit really together? She's a hooker. So is your nurse when you head to your PCP to get that STD checked out. OH...and your doctor, he sees hookers. Your psychotherapist, she pays hookers to fuck her husband while she watches in the shadows. Ummm...the men raising the boys who will be dating your daughters see hookers. Your religious leader might not see hookers, but he does send us threatening emails about fornicators burning in hell whilst jacking off and sniffing some used panties he bought from us off CL.

Point is...it's a long list. Although it looks real fucked up from the outside, it's way more tame, vanilla, and eye-opening from the inside. I'm not saying it's good or bad or whatever, I'm just saying it is.

FWIW, vegans are easy to make fun of regardless of location.

I have only read a few posts at the beginning of this thread and just caught the quote above.

To the OP - you mention that your children will know what kind of man their father really is.

I assume by that statement, you have or intend to tell them about their dad's SEXUAL proclivities and cheating?
I don't know if you have shared their ages but, that isn't important with regards to the point I want to make.

Regardless of your feelings or beliefs about what he has done - Our children are NOT EQUIPPED nor should they ever be forced to deal with sexual information re: their parents.

Children are not emotionally mature enough (even at 18, sorry) to process/think about the sex lives of their parents.
Add to that the trauma of a)separation/divorce and b) one parent divulging that information (TMI)

For what?? garnering support? justifying your position?? demonizing the other parent in the child's eyes over something our kids are not equipped to grasp??

Whether your kids are 12 or 16 (or 30), it borders on abuse to burden them with," I am throwing your father out and divorcing him. I caught him having sex with prostitutes-those are women who take money to have sex with men...well, I caught him doing that and he might have given me a sexually transmitted disease. Do you know what that means? Your dad is a horrible man! (regardless of how you feel about him, kid) But, you will have to decide if you want him in your life after I make sure to alienate him from your life and poison your thoughts!"
I can't imagine any adult child hearing this and not wanting put his/her fingers in his ears!

End of that rant...

My other snippet that I wish wives knew is that MOST women/wives THINK they give their husbands enough sex. They expect the husband to be satisfied (he might be perfectly happy w/ the marriage) w/ the amount of sex.

Many women talk, condescendingly, about men having only one thing on their minds or a wife freaks out if she finds her husband masturbating. I did, once upon a time.

Then I learned that biologically - a man is hardwired to 'want/need' (subconsciously) to impregnate MANY/all women. It doesn't mean a man can't be monogamous BUT, if civilization is wiped out...you guys will have to get after it - hehe.
Therefore, a man makes 1,500 sperm PER SECOND. It has to go somewhere...there has to be a release valve and so many women don't get that!
You guys aren't that sexually focused for no good reason - it is a biological imperative.

Does that cover all the bases re: sexual addiction and reasons for marital affairs? No.
I just wish more wives could understand that the power to keep the man, at home, is in HER power. Not by cooking/cleaning and having sex a few times a week (that is a start) BUT, start by understanding his sexual needs and not shaming him.

He may love you and want to grow old w/ you...but, he found a place to release the pressure valve. He didn't go and fall in love w/ another woman's heart and mind.

Ta!

A

Leaving things up to a judge.... lady, you have no idea how the family court system works. I implore you to study the broken family court system. You are buying into that lie just like the lie of marriage. You should take a look at yourself. You are ignorant. Not stupid. But naive. You've been living in a bubble. Hey... I have been there. I used to think like you. That's why I say this. If it possibly saves you and your children some grief, I'd say it a million times over.
I hope your children don't have to go through the things you talk about. It's a crap shoot. You can not predict what will happen. You are placing your children's future in the hands of a stranger who will hear a 2-3hr snippet of your family's life--then decide what's best for you, them and your husband. Do you really want to go through that?

A man can beat the shit out of their wife and guess what? They aren't deemed bad dads, just bad husbands. A judge doesn't care about your husband's sexual proclivities. A Judge's job is to make decision on what they think is best for the kids based on what's represented to them....NOT what he did or how you are hurt. They don't care about either of you. They will tell you as much.
Don't hurt your children, because their father did something that hurt YOU. Btw- judges don't like parental alienation behavior from either parent. It IS abuse. You may as well save for therapy for them now, because the way you talk that's where they are headed.

I know I sound really cruel, but honey this is reality. Your husband cheated on you. Welcome to the real world. It fucking happens. Okay fine hate him, but the truth of the matter is you will deal with him for the rest of your life. You think marriage is hard? Divorce and Co parenting with the bastard is sometimes worse than staying married! You can divorce, but you will never really escape him nor him you. Be the bigger person. Think about your children before yourself. You will thank yourself later and save your family from bunch of misery.
Men are what they are sexually. IT'S NOT PERSONAL. He did NOT do it to hurt you. I can guarantee you that.

End of my soapbox. Alot of us deviant people here have given you some great advice. I hope you take it. If you are, in fact, real.

Respectfully,
Scarlett

Interesting having a conversation with a man acting like a woman and knowing nothing about women, Cary on.


IB Originally Posted by Iron Butterfly

Ackshully, Ah think it culd be a high school boy in tha drama club thet wishes he wuz oldt enuff ta see hookers, foundt eccie on tha innernet, and dee-cided ta troll old folks his parents age fer shits 'n' giggles.

It's either...

A fake profile (likely) trying to get responses
An angry woman doing what they do & wanting to destroy a man for getting some nookie.

Either way, deserving of your disdain.

Ya'll are fools if you can't see that this is Whispers.

...it's a long story...

Ya'll are fools if you can't see that this is Whispers. Originally Posted by FGarvin

But thar ain't no big fonts wif bold bright cullers. Ah don't think ol' Whisperola kin keep hisself frum a-usin' 'em. It'd be laik askin' 'im ta write left handed.

Are you seriously gonna WK for lawyers? Whose next poloticians? I hear those asshloes ... Originally Posted by Usual suspects

I enjoy a good game of polo, don't you?

Tomorrow's the big day. Woohoo! There will be no excuse to keep posting here as the scorned wife who already confronted her husband.

I suspect come the weekend we should have another new controversial face popping up.

Need any good ideas for the next one?

Hmmm how about the poor monger who just woke up from a 10 year coma after being badly beaten by some evil whore's pimp?

How about as the midget provider who was forced to cash and dash clients by her four pimps waiting outside in the clown car?

How about as the midget provider who was forced to cash and dash clients by her four pimps waiting outside in the clown car? Originally Posted by Windinhishair

Gotta link to her profile?
What's her rates?

Ya'll are fools if you can't see that this is Whispers. Originally Posted by FGarvin