I get a small power trip from DATY. Her pleasure is under my control. It's also a puzzle to solve and I enjoy the discovery. There are dozens of techniques and no two women are the same. I want to find the one that she enjoys and I love when a woman will actually give directions or guide me to what she enjoys. But I enjoy the act and have the stamina to discover on my own if that's more fun for her
I know they could be faking, but I would honestly rather the lady simply tell me she's not interested in DATY if she doesn't like it (or isn't into me or whatever). I would appreciate the honesty and then move on to the selfish phase of the session