Why do ladies think it's necessary to lie???

Vivian,

You're funny.

I don't have any illusions that I'm still not sure of what I'm doing behind closed doors. Three of my dates have been kind enough to teach me how to use my tongue down South. I try to look for involuntary physical responce as incontrovertible proof that I'm getting the my desired reaction---pleasuring her. It takes work because I'm more concerned about pleasuring her than enjoying having my face between her legs. I guess I'm not going to be convinced until that moment I get a squirt in my face. So she can lie all she wants, go ooh---ahh--oh my!--but until I get better at noticing her labia turn a burgundy wine color, for example, I won't be satisfied that I'm actually doing something right.

Honesty? No lies? She can bring any verbal tales she likes to the BCD sessions. I only ask for the truth when it relates to the task at hand - generating orgasms for the both of us. Preferably ladies first.

Hmmmm, How about a thread asking, "Why do you gents use avatars that in no way shape or form look like you?" LOL. Originally Posted by Marcus Aurelius

It's a good question...although the obvious answer to the proposed question is anonymity. At the same time, I'm not sure if I've seen a hobbyist avatar other than my own with the hobbyist actually in the image. At the same time, the bandannas (and the web porn lass in my lap) do mask my face, so there's obfuscation, if not actual lying.

I've really striven, within the bounds of discretion, to be pretty transparent as a client. As much as I know that a certain amount of disinformation can play a part in maintaining a provider's well being, I do value those moments that are truly genuine, even when they are not idyllic moments.

I had a session recently with a lovely provider who shared with me that a 2nd (what's the female equivalent of a "pop"?) O was not in the cards for any time soon, which I really appreciated. While there are no guarantees that a provider will get off, with activities that are normally mutually stimulating, I'd at least like there to be the possibility.

Another provider recently confided to me that she really doesn't like 69 (which we had done on several occasions during previous appts). I happen to like 69 quite a bit, but would rather pass on it with this lovely lady, knowing what I know now. Clearly not every activity in a session has to be a source of pleasure...there are no shortage of things we do simply to please our partner that aren't inherently enjoyable for us as we do them, but there is satisfaction to be had from pleasing someone else.

For me, the line is where I'm doing something to specifically please the lady and it isn't actually pleasant for her. Spinning back to the honesty track...I'd rather a provider share that, so we can move on to other more pleasant things...or even turn the focus to some specific things that are more directed at pleasing (finishing) me, so we can both relax.

Please don't bump thread more than 30 days old. Feel free to start a new one.

Some, if not all, of the following are lies that appear BCD. Why do ladies find it necessary to lie about these things?

1. "Your cock is so big/thick/long."
2. "You're such a good lover."
3. [She moans, moans, then screams as if she has an orgasm. Especially in DATY.]
4. "I should have brought a magnum."
5. "Oh, God, you're sooooooo deep in me!"
6. "Damn, you're good!"
7. [Pretends to love DFK/LFK.]
8. [She moans when you suck her nipples.]
9. [Other lies meant to build up your manliness.]

If you have others, add them on. Ladies, chime in if you have a halfway good defense. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Damn, you mean they've been lying to me. No way, I don't believe it. It must be you Charles. I think I've been told all of the above, I just hope they're not lying about me being good at DATY.

Whoops, bad me. Didn't notice it was over 30 days old. Shame on me.

I don't lie about any of that. If it is good I will tell you...Or just show you by cumming/moaning otherwise I don't say nothing about it and instead talk about what is sweet, attractive in you or what you do that turns me on.
I mean a fake orgasm/cumming moment is pretty obvious.

[oops old thread....;-(

Why does anybody lie?
Because you think its what the other person wants to hear!
Isnt this the reason we are all here..we want our egos stroked among other part of our bodies.
Its all about feeling good and last time i looked most providers get paid for just that ..making us feel good !
Hell lie to me !! make me feel good ..im not dumb ..i realize thats what it is but do we really want the truth?
As jack Nicholson said ..You cant handle the truth...lol

Yeah it would be great to please every woman you were with but each woman is different and need different things to turn them on so its almost impossible to please all of them.
In return we lie back and tell them you are the best , your beautiful..etc etc..
the only difference is when a man is having sex you are the most beautiful and the best ( that is at that moment ) so as long as its a little white lie it doesnt hurt anybody and might just make someone feel better about themselves.
So lie to me!!! lol

WOW Tiffany...a girl after my own heart! YES IT"S JOHNNY DEPP!!!!! I KNEW I liked you, girl!

After reading some of these responses over and over, I just feel like I have to make a statement. "All Lies"? I can ONLY speak for myself but I genuinely LOVE what I do! Maybe being a regular therapist helps me in that the fun stuff isn't like a "REAL" job as it is for some of the ladies here.

I can honestly say that I enjoy each and every session whether it is therapeutic or not! When a "fun session" comes around, it's ALWAYS fun! Do I click more with some than others? Of course! That is just human nature. Do I lie and do all kinds of fake stuff? No, my brain is way too tired for all that falsifying! LOL!

Okay, I'll not stay on my soapbox and rant but I really dislike being lumped into any category ESPECIALLY when it isn't true!

P.S. Kisses to you, Tiffany! Originally Posted by vnurse

Well I can honestly say you never told me I looked like Johnny Depp, but everything else you told me I knew you weren't lyin'. Words from an old Fleetwood Mac song come to mind..."Don't ask me what I think of you, might not give the answer that you want me to" Look for a call soon Darlin' I miss ya. A session with you & Tiff might be akin to an F5 tornado

Wait a minute. You mean they were lying to me? Originally Posted by omaha2dallas

Yeah, they were lying to you. But, not to me....nope.

Methinks Charles had a bad experience recently.

We lie because it's much more polite than snoring or vomiting.

If you want the truth, go to a dominatrix

*oops! Sorry, didn't see that this was an ancient thread!

Methinks Charles had a bad experience recently. Originally Posted by tennisbum

Actually, this thread was started over a year ago. I haven't posted in it (until now) since 2-16-2010.

As far as I'm concerned, this thread can be closed.