Take the plunge?

I ve been lurking the forums for nearly a year...still a newbie!
Wanting to pop my newbie cherry,but find it difficult to actually do it. I am happily married ...you could say..but I am in need of some variety. How did you folks cope with " the first time guilt" ? Any advice?
Tomorrow is my b-day and was hoping to finally celebrate myself...but dont know if i should.....

If you're happily married then why bother? ...don't open pandoras box. Delete your account and work on your marriage.

Married and happy? I agree with SNL... but cover your tracks if you do!

If your uncertain and worry about guilt or regret....then the hobby is not for you....

If you are happily married fucking run away and do not look back. If you need variety put a wig on the wife.

If you really are itching for some variety sweetie, maybe try some RW dating first, there are plenty of us out there that prefer some part time lovin in the RW. That way you can pace yourself mentally and emotionally. Good luck and Welcome aboard if you choose to dive in Oh, and Happy Birthday!

If you really are itching for some variety sweetie, maybe try some RW dating first, there are plenty of us out there that prefer some part time lovin in the RW. That way you can pace yourself mentally and emotionally. Good luck and Welcome aboard if you choose to dive in Oh, and Happy Birthday! Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO

Then he would really be in for trouble...most RW civilians are not going to want to date a married dude part-time. And even if she said it was ok...there is a good chance she would drop dime and tell his wife at some point. If he keeps up a charade the other girl will eventually find out...they always do (kinda like 6 degrees of separation).

If he's going to cheat - better to do it with a professional. Providers don't want relationships with married guys...they already know the married hobbyists are some other girls problem...

I ve been lurking the forums for nearly a year...still a newbie!
Wanting to pop my newbie cherry,but find it difficult to actually do it. I am happily married ...you could say..but I am in need of some variety. How did you folks cope with " the first time guilt" ? Any advice?
Tomorrow is my b-day and was hoping to finally celebrate myself...but dont know if i should..... Originally Posted by rice6869

Seems you feel guilty just thinking about it. I had a massage therapist tell me that some guys cry and are despondent over simple hand jobs. The guilt eats away at them.
Lmao. You may want to start with a FBSM to gauge your guilt level. If you can go home kiss your girl, tell her you love her, and sleep like a baby after fingering another woman you may be on your way to guilt free success.

Rice6869, its very simple. If u love your wife, don't stray. Keep fucking your wife. If u don't love her no more, then dive in and start having sex with all the escorts u want.

In a sense, you've already cheated by being here and lusting after providers. You might as well get some pussy now.

What SNL said. not more. not less.

Rice6869, its very simple. If u love your wife, don't stray. Keep fucking your wife. If u don't love her no more, then dive in and start having sex with all the escorts u want. Originally Posted by good1

Lol. What's love got to do with it? You can love someone to death and still cheat. Love and cheating aren't mutually exclusive.

Start with porn and then work your way up.
If guilt kicks in, add liquor.

Don't listen to any of that.

You have not cheated by being here...you've just been curious. Men all have a natural curiosity and desire (at times) to want another woman - it's just in our nature.

***Like you said yourself... You're happy so MAN UP and stick to the commitment you made in your marriage***

You're word and your balls are all you have - don't break either of them.

Communicate with your wife...tell her you want to spice some things up...cheating is the easy way out man.

Thank god I'm single....

Tell your wife you need some variety and start a discussion about how the both of you can accomplish that. Chances are she'd like some variety too.