When to Ask What's NOT on the Menu?

I know there's another thread lurking around that is similar to this but my searches didn't turn it up, so apologies in advance.

Basically the question to the providers is this: When is it appropriate for the hobbyist to ask you what's on or off the menu?

Many of you (and nearly all the UTR's) specifically state in their ads that "....explicit language will cause you to be blocked" or some such. And yes, when I've asked if certain things were on the menu, in almost all cases the girl stopped communicating.

I for one would like to know before I drive across town and plunk down two bills that I'm only going to get a CBJ, and the girl doesn't allow DATY. Is that too much to ask in advance?

I realize there are a lot of unknowns in this biz and maybe girls would rather discuss these things face to face after they've taken the "measure of the man". In one case where I asked the girl face to face if DATY was OK, she said "No, because if you're asking, then it means you have something and you're trying to give it to me!"

WTF!!!???? How BSC can you get???? And OK there's a lot of BSCness with the "ladies" of Listcrawler, etc. but stillllllll.......

There's gotta be a better way..... Ladies, please show me?

Unless she's new. I just do my homework. Works for me.

right after you get rates, especially if they're high. use escort acronyms tho and shortcuts like gfe, versus saying do you offer bareback blowjobs, etc. (that will scare most gals off.)

right after you get rates, especially if they're high. use escort acronyms tho and shortcuts like gfe, versus saying do you offer bareback blowjobs, etc. (that will scare most gals off.) Originally Posted by pxmcc

Yea, but px, some of these girls that you & I both see don't have a clue what these acronyms mean..... But thanks for your input. Let's see what the providers themselves say......

Tbone, I agree, and it works with the girls who are p411, etc. but I still consistently run into this issue and I've been in this game since well before many of these providers were born

right after you get rates, especially if they're high. use escort acronyms tho and shortcuts like gfe, versus saying do you offer bareback blowjobs, etc. (that will scare most gals off.) Originally Posted by pxmcc

I see what you did there, thanks for being considerate lol. I enjoy reading your "rebrand". But "GFE" doesn't always mean bbbj but for the most part, it does. But GFE can be considered a service but it definitely sounds better than BBBJ lol.


Yooooo, this past year I have learned so many different acronyms. You guys are really creative. I laugh almost everyday.



But in all seriousness Oldrogue, I wouldn't mind answering questions if I didn't have to worry about being arrested.. at least for this lol. Some girls get turned off, some girls think your the cops, and some girls think your time wasting, and some girls just don't have time to respond and deal with the back n forth, but some don't mind... I just don't respond because I'm not trying to take that risk.. I can even be arrested for telling someone my rate so thats why I put it in my signature line but I know some guys don't even know what a signature line is so I let it slide. I say just read the reviews... if they are new.. see if they are at least verified as far as age, just to protect yourself.


But most of us are not doing CBJ... we not licking plastic. but some do... what I usually see on here are guys are enraged by it so they troll the girl.. search her name, take a risk and visit, ask her for links to other ads, or ask about services, she will either answer or not.


What should worry you is.. what if it's a set up and they have text from you asking about services? Then your picture is on the news, wife is mad, job then finds out, and now you have to redeem yourself.. that is just worse case scenario lol


I just feel like what's most important, is keeping the community as safe as possible. I have heard stories, very few, but still, of people getting caught and to fix it, they have to set someone else up.. it could possibly be a domino effect and I don't want to get caught up like that lol. Moral of the story, people snitch sometimes.


Don't put yourself in a compromising position by doing something you could have avoided. The only thing that is worse than being caught is being caught after someone tried to tell you how not to get caught lol. But at the end of the day, if you get caught, you get caught. Every time a service is brought up, I just write it off as a cop lol

Tiffany, thanks for the insight from your side. You're a real sweetheart for sharing. I guess there is no good answer or solution here, especially when trolling for the bottom feeders on LC or equal.

It just sux to waste 2-3 hours going across town & back, plus the time & money wasted on a provider who will only give a CBJ and won't allow DATY (which is a real showstopper and mood killer for me)

Yeah, that is like the main ingredient to this but I don't like commenting on other girls boundaries lol. No problem & thank you for the compliment and making this post!

It just sux to waste 2-3 hours going across town & back, plus the time & money wasted on a provider who will only give a CBJ and won't allow DATY (which is a real showstopper and mood killer for me) Originally Posted by Oldrogue

You know what sucks more?

Getting arrested.

What I suggest is making a statement about what you like in your personal life.

"I really enjoy DATY and BBBJ." Don't be dense and ask if she's good with that. If she isn't, she'll let you know you're not a good match without saying something incriminating.

Thx B3, I'm sure in all the time I've been hobbying I've probably tried that or something similar, but it's certainly worth another try.

What I suggest is making a statement about what you like in your personal life.

"I really enjoy DATY and BBBJ." Don't be dense and ask if she's good with that. If she isn't, she'll let you know you're not a good match without saying something incriminating. Originally Posted by B Three

You know that's one of things I really liked about P411, that the men had a profile on there and some of them would list out the type of things they were into. One guy even had some links to a few videos, so basically if you weren't cool with his videos then don't bother meeting him.

I don't know if P411 allows it anymore, or if the guys still have profiles. I haven't looked in a while. But it was nice to be able to read a man's profile and check to see if we were a match without having to ask difficult questions.

It would be nice if men had more informative profiles on here.

Lots of guys say something similar, but then screw it up by wanting you to confirm. That is the problem.

CVK - the guys can put profile info in, but most don't!

Lots of guys say something similar, but then screw it up by wanting you to confirm. That is the problem. Originally Posted by B Three

So true.

CVK that's a good idea, but for those of us who are bottom fishing for the UTR's, most have never heard of ECCIE, and probably wouldn't have access to profile info anyway.

I read her reviews. Most of the time I get a fairly good idea of services by reading the ROS section of the reviews.

When I want to know more information I usually call a week before. I am pleasant, quick and to the point as I don't want to waste anyone time.