What "Clicking" Tips Do You Have?

OK, everyone seems to agree that the best sessions occur when you "click."

But how do you find out if you will click?

Most ladies don't post (at least on ECCIE). Maybe they post elsewhere?

Looking at a lady's showcase, P411 or webpage generally doesn't give you a very good idea of what she is like, and whether or not you would click.

And most ladies won't put in a lot of communication time prior to meeting. This is not a complaint, it's a fact. They just don't have that kind of time, and I don't blame them.

So, what tips do you suggest for finding out whether or not you'd "click" with a certain lady?

Or, in the alternative, how do you find ladies with whom you might "click" who don't put their personas out there anyplace?

Finally, maybe I should ask: is ECCIE the best discussion board or are there better ones? I guess you'd have to PM me on this answer due to the rules.

I can normally tell if I will NOT like a person after only one phone call. Trying to determine if we will click, is a bit harder. I really don't put much thought into it for shorter dates, because even I can be cordial and engaging for an hour lol.

It's when I book overnights that I want at least 2 dates prior to that. I will never meet for longer than 4 hours with anyone, before getting to know them better.

I always always try to learn as much as I can about that person before we meet. Is he more dominant or submissive?, singe or married, Their tastes in clothes/shoes, likes & dislikes.. etc. Doesn't matter if the date is a month from now I will take my time to get to know him. There is nothing worse than getting there and having absolutely NO chemistry. I've been there and done that and it wasn't fun. I'm not a great actress so it's very hard for me to pretend.. If I don't like you, it'll show plain and simple.

One can't give you tips on how to click with another person. It just happens. You have to take the time to get to know that person. Sure I can always get through a one hour date with no problem but who wants to spend a night with a nutjob? I don't require that you see me for a one hour date to spend a night with me so yeah If I don't connect with the person after a few emails or a few phone calls then chances are there won't be a date.

...even I can be cordial and engaging for an hour ... Originally Posted by London Rayne

Originally Posted by pjorourke

Damn.

Originally Posted by pjorourke

I thought you might like that.

I don't really think there is a way to know for sure you're going to get on with someone. Granted checking out their website/blog/board posts/reviews should give you at least a general idea...

I am extremely outgoing in general, so there's not that many people I won't get along with, yes everyone is very different, but that's the beauty of it....I love meeting all sorts of personalities... One thing I have learned from this industry is never pre-judge a client as soon as they walk through the door, I always like to sit down and have a drink with my client when they arrive so I can get a feel of their personality and what they like, building rapport is very important to me, and makes the sessions much more enjoyable....

So I guess tips I would give guys would be to come in with an open mind, try not to be too nervous, and just enjoy yourself!

Valerie is right of course. Always take the time to talk to the ladies and get to know her alittle bit. Gents do need to be open minded all the time with the ladies. I doubt most ladies like it when the gent comes in and doesn't say anything and gets naked.

I don't really think there is a way to know for sure you're going to get on with someone. Granted checking out their website/blog/board posts/reviews should give you at least a general idea...

So I guess tips I would give guys would be to come in with an open mind, try not to be too nervous, and just enjoy yourself! Originally Posted by Valerie

There it is! Spot on post right there.........

And allow me to add, that in general overly High expectations will almost always result in a letdown in some form or another....... so there in lies the point of "come in with an open mind".........


JaD

Charles,

Me personally, I turn your question around and approach it as trying to avoid people I don't think I'll click with, based on whatever interaction I have with her or her advertising, etc.

That is there is no magic signal or sign that says, "Click," but there are a lot of behaviors that indicate high risk of not clicking. Nothing is perfect but by eliminating anyone I simply have a bad vibe about I have a pretty good success rate.

As far as "tips" -- talk to her on the phone -- even if just for 5 minutes to book the appointment. There is no substitute for real time communication.

So I guess tips I would give guys would be to come in with an open mind, try not to be too nervous, and just enjoy yourself! Originally Posted by Valerie

That's pretty hard for a shy, nervous guy like me to accomplish.

Charles,

Me personally, I turn your question around and approach it as trying to avoid people I don't think I'll click with, based on whatever interaction I have with her or her advertising, etc.

That is there is no magic signal or sign that says, "Click," but there are a lot of behaviors that indicate high risk of not clicking. Nothing is perfect but by eliminating anyone I simply have a bad vibe about I have a pretty good success rate.

As far as "tips" -- talk to her on the phone -- even if just for 5 minutes to book the appointment. There is no substitute for real time communication. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

Atl--That's a really good point.

Charles..shy? Say it isin't so.

I am actually shy meeting new people too, which is why I like to play first ha ha. For some reason I am not shy when my clothes are off.

I can normally tell if I like a person after only one phone call Originally Posted by London Rayne

For some reason I am not shy when my clothes are off. Originally Posted by London Rayne

No worries Rcoop...you made that cut last night lol.

OK, everyone seems to agree that the best sessions occur when you "click."

But how do you find out if you will click?

Most ladies don't post (at least on ECCIE). Maybe they post elsewhere?

Looking at a lady's showcase, P411 or webpage generally doesn't give you a very good idea of what she is like, and whether or not you would click.

And most ladies won't put in a lot of communication time prior to meeting. This is not a complaint, it's a fact. They just don't have that kind of time, and I don't blame them.

So, what tips do you suggest for finding out whether or not you'd "click" with a certain lady?

Or, in the alternative, how do you find ladies with whom you might "click" who don't put their personas out there anyplace?

Finally, maybe I should ask: is ECCIE the best discussion board or are there better ones? I guess you'd have to PM me on this answer due to the rules. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Hmmm TIPS to find the ones you may click with; Answer "RESEARCH"

First read all reviews Good & Bad, read between the lines. meaning;
Look for the ones that enjoy the activities that you do, and more (that covers activities and you won't have to ask for anything)

on bad reviews research the reviewer also (if it appears they have problems with others then the issue may be with them and not the provider).

If they have a posting persona read their posts, that may show you if you have a common view point. (and how intelligently stimulating they are)

After that if you still have questions, at that point PM and ask

If you have none of these options available then it's Pot Luck