I'd agree that the worst combination is a camera phone and bathroom mirror. If ladies are taking their own pics I always advise investing in a camera with a remote. These days they're cheap enough (probably equal to a 1 to 1.5 hr appt.) And YES... don't give away the candy store. Fantasy is the playground of the imagination, so leave something for it.
Sometimes a mirror can round out a pic (or a butt).
You can always get comfortable with a toy a well.
Hopefully this may help you.