Choking

So, I was having sex with my friend with benefits and as things were getting really hot, she wanted me to choke her. It threw me off my game…I’m like WTF. I didn’t want to commit a crime. I like being dominant in bed but I’m still learning.

My questions are:
Is this a thing for some women?
How do you choke a woman in a sexual act?
How much pressure do you apply without over doing it?

Very common. I've had 3 women that dated that wanted it. The first time I was taken back too. You can tell as they give you feedback, slight clues. They will turn a little red, the veins on their neck will stand out a bit. Most I've known close their eyes so no eye contact. You can start to read them just like when they are going to cum. Make it the same way. Women are like ocean waves, ride that and read that. It's a build up that you may have to ride the next wave. They don't want to really be hurt, unless she's into pain. One girl I knew could only cum with this.

That's so hot!
But scary
I'm into pull my hair & slap my ass & call me a nasty slut or wh*re!
Chocking is dangerous that would be strict YMMV .
The nerves & cells & blood flow breathing total YMMV & in moderation too .
It sounds like you had a blast !! sounds delish!!
There is trust that needs to be somewhat established?

That's really hot

Like rape fantasies..��

Look up things like breath play. You don't want to put pressure on the front of the neck; this blocks airflow. It's about pressure from the sides of the neck; this slows bloodflow. You really have to pay attention to your partner. Have a safeword or signal. Porn from Kink dot com is done really safely.

That's so hot!
But scary
I'm into pull my hair & slap my ass & call me a nasty slut or wh*re!
Chocking is dangerous that would be strict YMMV .
The nerves & cells & blood flow breathing total YMMV & in moderation too .
It sounds like you had a blast !! sounds delish!!
There is trust that needs to be somewhat established? Originally Posted by VENUSNOVA

Venus, you are a fu**ing champ! I have been looking at your reviews and I have been out of the hobby for a while. But reading some of them and seeing this, makes me want to jump in for one last ride with you.

See you Thursday..

XXX Tennis Champ

That's so hot!
But scary
I'm into pull my hair & slap my ass & call me a nasty slut or wh*re!
Chocking is dangerous that would be strict YMMV .
The nerves & cells & blood flow breathing total YMMV & in moderation too .
It sounds like you had a blast !! sounds delish!!
There is trust that needs to be somewhat established? Originally Posted by VENUSNOVA

It was never a turn on for me, except for the slight turn on of the control and playing them like a instrument. I'm glad that's not the wife's thing. She doesn't like pain and I'm ok with that. The only thing I do like is I like to bite. I like biting and orgasm denial with women. Alternatively pain and pleasure with giving them oral. That's too much for her.
But we are swingers and involved somewhat in the local bdsm groups. I like a lot of fucked up stuff. Love seeing hookers with her, we always do it together. Love public sex, spit play, cum play, group sex, sex with strangers, sex with female criminals, armpit licking, religious play.

It was never a turn on for me, except for the slight turn on of the control and playing them like a instrument. I'm glad that's not the wife's thing. She doesn't like pain and I'm ok with that. The only thing I do like is I like to bite. I like biting and orgasm denial with women. Alternatively pain and pleasure with giving them oral. That's too much for her.
But we are swingers and involved somewhat in the local bdsm groups. I like a lot of fucked up stuff. Love seeing hookers with her, we always do it together. Love public sex, spit play, cum play, group sex, sex with strangers, sex with female criminals, armpit licking, religious play. Originally Posted by Rooter

Rooter, you are the freak of the week. I luv armpit licking. most women I meet don't particularly like it. But my former S.O. luv it. I even made cum once doing this.

That's really hot Originally Posted by VENUSNOVA

VENUSNOVA, I wish I was located in your wet dreams. You are the type of Lady I would luv to shag.

This.

There is no reason to ever leave a bruise.

Look up things like breath play. You don't want to put pressure on the front of the neck; this blocks airflow. It's about pressure from the sides of the neck; this slows bloodflow. You really have to pay attention to your partner. Have a safeword or signal. Porn from Kink dot com is done really safely. Originally Posted by pathfinder420

That's so hot!
But scary
I'm into pull my hair & slap my ass & call me a nasty slut or wh*re!
Chocking is dangerous that would be strict YMMV .
The nerves & cells & blood flow breathing total YMMV & in moderation too .
It sounds like you had a blast !! sounds delish!!
There is trust that needs to be somewhat established? Originally Posted by VENUSNOVA

Trust is a big thing…it is earned, not implied or expected. Somewhat established is not adequate IMHO. It is part of a power exchange like any D/s situation. Trust must be established along with known limits and safe words/gestures. Safe words and gestures must be honored without question or hesitation. Safe gestures are like safe words but when they are unable to speak. As mentioned earlier kink.com has some great examples in their sex and submission section where they interview the performers before and after…setting hard limits for the session and reiterating the safe words/gestures. While I have a gal who submits to me and we have spent much time together, part of our ritual is to have her speak to me my rules and safe words after I put her collar on.

So, I was having sex with my friend with benefits and as things were getting really hot, she wanted me to choke her. It threw me off my game…I’m like WTF. I didn’t want to commit a crime. I like being dominant in bed but I’m still learning.

My questions are:
Is this a thing for some women?
How do you choke a woman in a sexual act?
How much pressure do you apply without over doing it? Originally Posted by Mr69Jones

When her face starts turning purple let up a little.