incall vs hotel

I am new to the hobbie and looking for some advice. Safety is a big issue for me as well as discretion. So incall is attractive as there are no paper trails... however, I am not in control of the location...

What is your suggestion for a newbie to started. Use Incall or get your own hotel room?

I prefer to see women who do their incall in a hotel. No paper trail for you and while you don't have total control of the situation, it's much better IMO than a private home/apartment. Also use common sense once you're in the room. Ask for a tour if it's a new provider. Make sure adjoining doors are locked, etc. Good luck and stay safe.

This may seem counterintuitive, but look for a provider who will do a lot of screening on you. In general, a provider who shows lots of attention for her own needs for safety/discretion is more likely to pay attention to your needs for safety/discretion. (A true professional shows interest in safety/discretion that far exceeds what a stranger you hook up with a bar is liable to have....)

Good question. Have fun, but be safe. Always listen to your big head rather than your little head.

I like incalls in a hotel/motel.

Im still new to this so from what I did was to get p411. I started there and researched from kingdom come. Then when I found the one with good reviews from here I pulled the trigger. If you can find a well reviewed lady here thats newbie friendly then go that route. I suggest you get p411 it makes it alot easier to find someone. I have to do incall visits so the SO doesnt see anything funny on CC statements. Oh yea be safe and research.

Yes... Im P411 verified... and the gal is also a P411 provider and that is how I contacted her... through P411... She has several reviews on here that are good that are fairly recent.

Her response to my questions about incall was "I have a place I do share with a few ladies but we never book appointments at the same time.. if you rather get a place that is fine too" is this normal... would you book your own hotel. I like that because I can make sure only one person is there...

Yes... Im P411 verified... and the gal is also a P411 provider and that is how I contacted her... through P411... She has several reviews on here that are good that are fairly recent.

Her response to my questions about incall was "I have a place I do share with a few ladies but we never book appointments at the same time.. if you rather get a place that is fine too" is this normal... would you book your own hotel. I like that because I can make sure only one person is there... Originally Posted by fourgotmyname

I would book my own room If I could. I dont know if its normal but some providers travel together. Im getting a prepaid debit card today theres a couple ladys tha i want to see that don't have a incall.

HT that was my next question... how do you all eliminate the paper trail?

In addition, to ensure your safety and privacy, get a cheap throw away phone - one where you do not need to sign up, etc. There are discussions in the Security section. At the minimum, Trac Phone, etc. hobby phone (keep away from home, etc.), get a hobby e-mail account and do not check/access at work and if at home, use care to delete history, etc., use a proxy service (again, Security section has discussions.) Be safe and remember, big head over small head...and research, research, research... Have fun...

Yes... Im P411 verified... and the gal is also a P411 provider and that is how I contacted her... through P411... She has several reviews on here that are good that are fairly recent.

Her response to my questions about incall was "I have a place I do share with a few ladies but we never book appointments at the same time.. if you rather get a place that is fine too" is this normal... would you book your own hotel. I like that because I can make sure only one person is there... Originally Posted by fourgotmyname

Even P411 doesn't do it.
With just a few dollars I can get 10 okays without seeing any of the ladies.

At some point you just have to trust each other and with reviews that should do it.

Even P411 doesn't do it.
With just a few dollars I can get 10 okays without seeing any of the ladies. Originally Posted by waverunner234

How do you do that? I thought you had to see a P411 provider to get an Okay? But there is an easier way? Please share.

HT that was my next question... how do you all eliminate the paper trail? Originally Posted by fourgotmyname

One thing Ive done is before I made the first plunge I saved up for a long time and when I say long I mean long. Kept the money hidden so the wife couldnt find it. Im also looking into getting a prepaid CC to load with cash so I can book my own hotels for outcalls. I saved up I can hobby a couple times a month if I want to.

This may seem counterintuitive, but look for a provider who will do a lot of screening on you. In general, a provider who shows lots of attention for her own needs for safety/discretion is more likely to pay attention to your needs for safety/discretion. (A true professional shows interest in safety/discretion that far exceeds what a stranger you hook up with a bar is liable to have....) Originally Posted by bucketlist

OMG +1 times a million....you are the bomb...I love a hobbyist who gets this.

Thank you for saying it. I have been trying to educate hobbyist to this for years. But It has so much more validity coming from you.
To ad to the point providers who ask no questions and don't due their due diligence don't care who you are if they are gonna have their boyfriend waiting behind the door to take you wallet. They just want you to hurry up and get over there so they can move on to the next mark.

To the OP..... Personally I have never heard of a hobbyist getting in trouble by seeing a women at a private residence incall. Just saying I have never heard. Hotels she was working out of however..... many many many time...that is how most stings go down. You are safer to book your own room. If the lady has no incall ....the I suggest this....The hotel will take a CC to hold the room but you can pay cash when you check out and have no CC charge on your bill.


and .... YES ....Waverunner...Do share
We would all like to know that since our saftey is involved. I am sure Gina at P411 would like too know too.

I feel a bit more comfortable seeing a provider at either her place of residence or an apartment set up for incalls. I just feel a little on edge walking through a hotel looking for a room number. I also feel that a lot of providers feel more comfortable in familiar surroundings. When both parties a more comfortable it usually leads to a better session.

I always use different hotels for my in calls. It's very dangerous for a lady to use a permanent location such as an apartment, that's a pattern of behavior in one place. Neighbors tend to take notice. I'm also very low volume so I dont have a lot of traffic to the room. You also want to avoid a room that escorts are sharing, that's twice the traffic or 3 times (if it's 3 girls), etc.

I do have an ad on P411 however, I NEVER use them for screening. They allow gentleman sign up under aliases. If a gentleman has been abusive to a provider, is black listed and has created a horrible reputation for himself, all he has to do is sign up on P411 and providers see him.

Here in Wisconsin, LE has taken over P411 accounts of gentlemen. There was also a provider working with LE on there. P411 was informed of this and they did nothing about it. That provider is still on there.

I've heard about LE taking over accounts of reputable providers and gentlemen in other states on P411 like they did in Wisconsin however, I have no first hand knowledge like I do in Wisconsin.