Ok, here's my thoughts on referrals...
I have been traveling a good bit and gentlemen who want to see me have given me referrals; that's great, because usually I recognize one or two and feel comfortable texting or pm'ing the provider for a referral. And Vice Versa; I promptly reply to their text or pm if I can honestly remember seeing them or have their number or email saved. I will continue to do so once I leave at my earliest convenience.
HOWEVER, lately since I'm moving I've been asked who to see now that I am leaving. It is very unfortunate that I cannot honestly recommend by word of mouth ANYONE here on the coast. It's truly sad. 3x recently I recommended a "friend" of mine who did not return their calls or did not follow through with the appointment due to nerves or whatever. I ended up visiting all 3 (luckily either I was close enough or the gentleman drove 80 miles to see me.) There is one lady I have recommended but she is not local but a nice Eccie member who I have met.
I guess my point is this: if you GENTLEMAN want to see a lady, contact her and if she contacts me, I will be referral friendly. Ladies, seriously follow through with those referrals, because I know men have "name-dropped" someone who moved and they did not necessarily meet her. This is another reason gentlemen that reviews are so important. They can see clearly here that you've had a date with me. I really wish I could explain this to the bp gentlemen but there's no time or space for that there.
If you ask me who to see I will not have an answer for you. If you ask me who not to see, I will gladly give you my opinions of who to avoid.
As you can tell from my statistics, I have been an Eccie ambassador since I have joined in the short year or so and have referred and they accepted membership more than some veterans here. (13) I even have done so in the Carolinas and will continue to do so. So I truly do believe in the site and the safety of it. It should stay that way, professional & friendly!