Would you spend time with a lady IF...

NO...i would not associate with anyone that has the notion to out a person in our community. blasting someone’s personal info, for anybody in the outside world to see, no matter what the circumstances, is just straight up wrong. that is a corruptive act, that in the end, becomes so detrimental to our community. the offenders responsible, imo, are just being vindictive, and unjust in their actions, and have no respect for the hobby. excessive texting, can be disturbing and wrong, for so many different reasons, but no matter the circumstances, should be handled appropriately, and avoid the outing of the culprits personal info for everyone to see. for obvious reasons, why draw anymore attention to the hobby than what is necessary?

ive had, what i consider, excessive texting, usually in the form of solicitation (no surprise), and at different times, almost on a daily basis. as a matter of fact, on one occasion, it was from a provider that is known for outing. it was sometimes annoying, but i just handled it with short, friendly replies. i thought about blocking, but didn’t feel that concerned about it. seems harmless, right? but had the situation been harsh and threatening, i would say my piece to them, be my typical smart ass, then simply block the person if they become disruptive. i would probably bring it up in the ML, but i wouldn’t go as far as blasting info about them that would only worsen the situation.

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The older providers are the ones that out the most(not saying all), the younger ones not so much . Originally Posted by JalapenoPopper

Really?!? Hmmmm.... then the ladies that OUTED ME must have been PRODIGIES!! LOL

I say mutual respect of privacy & if someone threatens to put u in harms way or is overly aggressive& asking them to stop & they dnt, then put a damn alert. No in just womens locker room.. Let ppl know of this disturbing behavior. Originally Posted by Secret Encounters

Beautiful & Wise!!!

I could not agree more.... I am all for posting an ALERT on overly aggressive or threatening individuals... What I am NOT OK WITH is a lady OUTING a gentleman because he TEXTED TOO MUCH...

[QUOTE=Leoman;1061191021]she has to state clearly to him 'only text me for blah blah etc' so heknows the boundaries.

It is always important to SET BOUNDARIES... Communication is key...


i can understand if he texts alot because there are few providers that actually interact with cliets in almost gfe manner and care to their clients to make it seem like its not all about business.

So, if you are texting a NEW PROVIDER and she decides that you have reached her QUOTA then you are OK with her putting your FIRST NAME, LAST NAME, TELEPHONE NUMBER & PERSONAL EMAIL ADDRESS all over the INTERNET?


i know a provider who is like that and is quick to respond to any text no matter time of day never gets mad and she is busy too but thats what makes clients love her and many on eccie and oh2 know her and will vouch she is one of coolest ppl ull meet but we all respect she wants her life private and not advertised on forums.

Hmmm.... So, if the lady is not big on efficiency and does not value time management then she deserves privacy? SMDH...

and she is UTR does not advertise gets her clients from word of mouth.

How a lady decides to advertise is irrelevant to this discussion... However, peer-to-peer advertising IS ADVERTISING... Think Avon or Amway... However, to me this is a very inefficient method of communication and it takes away from that ladies personal time with her family and friends.

Personally, I would not want to see a hobbyist who does not respect my personal boundaries... I NEED ALONE TIME in order to be who I am when I am with my adorable men...

The men who give me the best BFE EXPERIENCE are those that GET this about me and do not hold it against me... They understand that I do not have FREE TIME to do FREE THINGS...

Many of the ladies on this board have a real world personal life... Some have SO's, some have other careers, children, hobbies etc... When you guys start texting to discuss a FOOTBALL GAME because you are lonely then you are not being fair to your ATF...

i was texting her other day talking about cowboys game andnothing hobby related but thats why she has my loyalty and makes me go baçk besides fact shes super hot. then there are providers u know u can only text if its hobby related

I get it... You want and expect a lady to give you free attention... Who wouldn't want that?!? I agree... you should keep seeing her!!

Now, don't get me wrong... I have MALE FRIENDS that I have made on this board and THEY get a lot more time and attention than those men that I have never met... but they also understand that when I disappear for a few days that I need some time to unwind, relax and rejuvenate...

There are men that I have gone on trips with and NEVER CHARGED THEM FOR MY TIME but those men DO NOT EXPECT IT and they also understand that it is not a given with me....

A very good read ... Originally Posted by JalapenoPopper

THANK YOU!! That was an excellent read!!

[QUOTE=tx2for3;1061196988]Maybe I’m interpreting the message incorrectly. If a creep uses a masking app and can bypass a block, then it turns into harassment. That type of behavior has to feel threatening.

I agree... There are times with aggressive texting can feel very threatening... However, that is the wonder of SMART PHONES... If someone, be it male or female, is behaving inappropriately then it is possible to eliminate them from your life without resorting to hurting them by posting all of their personal information with their hobby information all over the internet...

Of course if simply blocking a pest works, then I agree- outing is out of bounds.

I agree completely...

NO...i would not associate with anyone that has the notion to out a person in our community. blasting someone’s personal info, for anybody in the outside world to see, no matter what the circumstances, is just straight up wrong. that is a corruptive act, that in the end, becomes so detrimental to our community. the offenders responsible, imo, are just being vindictive, and unjust in their actions, and have no respect for the hobby. excessive texting, can be disturbing and wrong, for so many different reasons, but no matter the circumstances, should be handled appropriately, and avoid the outing of the culprits personal info for everyone to see. for obvious reasons, why draw anymore attention to the hobby than what is necessary?

ive had, what i consider, excessive texting, usually in the form of solicitation (no surprise), and at different times, almost on a daily basis. as a matter of fact, on one occasion, it was from a provider that is known for outing. it was sometimes annoying, but i just handled it with short, friendly replies. i thought about blocking, but didn’t feel that concerned about it. seems harmless, right? but had the situation been harsh and threatening, i would say my piece to them, be my typical smart ass, then simply block the person if they become disruptive. i would probably bring it up in the ML, but i wouldn’t go as far as blasting info about them that would only worsen the situation. Originally Posted by HedonisticFool

I could not agree more!! Thank you for your contribution Sweetheart!!

I am just AMAZED that there are 4 PEOPLE on this BOARD that are OK if a provider POSTS ALL OF THEIR PERSONAL INFORMATION ON A SITE LIKE THIS just because someone TEXTED THEM TOO MUCH...

It makes one wonder if they are using their FIRST AND LAST NAMES as their HANDLE on ECCIE and other sites?

Isn't she GORGEOUS?!? Lovely Evelyn is always a favorite of mine...

Outing another person is such a horrible thing to do to someone in our world... Whether the person be male or female...

Which also raises the QUESTION of how much TEXTING is TOO MUCH? Plus, if we are going to say that this is ALLOWED for the women...then should the men be allowed to OUT US if we perchance TEXT TOO MUCH as well?!? Originally Posted by Slave Guinevere

How would any man be upset at too many texts from a sweetheart like you??

😎

I agree Evelyn! Safety should be the main concern, not annoyance. You're looking amazing as usual by the way! Hope to see you soon. Originally Posted by Strongside45

Thanks baby cakes! Hope to see you soon as well!

Isn't she GORGEOUS?!? Lovely Evelyn is always a favorite of mine...

Outing another person is such a horrible thing to do to someone in our world... Whether the person be male or female...

Which also raises the QUESTION of how much TEXTING is TOO MUCH? Plus, if we are going to say that this is ALLOWED for the women...then should the men be allowed to OUT US if we perchance TEXT TOO MUCH as well?!? Originally Posted by Slave Guinevere

Aw shucks Slave. Thank you gorgeous.

I would guess that's relative.. whats chaos to the fly is normal to the spider.

Do it like the old days: each text message will be billed so much to the sender upon visit. Originally Posted by Precious_b

I like how you think. Shall we charge per 5 min increments?

One provider gave me shit for cleaning up the text messaging on my phone in her driveway after an appointment. She was afraid her neighbors would be suspicious. But outing--that has never happened that I know about.

She gave me bad marks on a phone app and has not seen me since--but I did review her here.

We should treat every encounter as if we are going to be outed. Simply do not share any personal information and she won’t have anything to out.

Hola.... just for texting too much there are different options like sleep mode or blocking when it gets annoying, but it’s a different thing when you receive threats. This is a world of choices and it’s up to each one of us to decide if we want play or pass.
Have a good afternoon, and enjoy this wonderful weather.

Personally, I’m with The Slave ALL THE WAY!!
Not only is she a beautiful, fun woman. She’s
Probably smarter than 95% of those of us on this
board. I can say this safely, because I include myself
with the lower 95% of the board!! SHE ROCKS!!

NO WAY IN HELL. If I even hear a rumor of outing she is off the list of ladies to see.