Just rude and highly unprofessional...

ok I've been in this hobby world of ours since 2005 on and off again but Alot of other things related to it longer... I just came out of retirement.. never have had a problem with any Provider giving me any feed back on anyone.. especially no one being rude .. now I have this one lurker who keeps pushin to see me.. not happening if you dont play by the rules... so I contact this provider via PM and then by text since she noted to text her in a current ad,...that he Quotes says he has seen her .. gave his name and contact number and about the time he suppose seen her and all I get in return from this provider was .. a rude.. voice message and a text I received... wow what a nasty attitude... and I said this guys name was Keith and from pasadena ,and she replied with I havent seen no Kevin...but have fun BIT@#... .. wow this was a first for me.. what has happen to the class ppl.. and to ... looking out for one another... talking about cut throat..

sounds like slang dear... you see on TV where the fashion industry refer to each other as BIOTCHES... and its a new emerge thing going on with the younger, hipper generation. I have female friends that says "ho's" and we do it in joking manner.
Some might take it as a attitude issue and it DOESN'T sound classy when approaching a stranger..
Welcome to the 21st century of new girls.

no it wasnt said like that in the message either.. I wish...

ohhh yeah ..note I know real talk & slang.. plus this one is in her mid 40's ... so old school... lol... almost like I was stepping on her toes... hate that to be honest if thats the case just dont reply...

Slang or no slang...that's just rude, period...sorry you had to experience the frustration Jenanna. Sounds like she didn't even get the name of your client correct...you just have to pick and choose your battles and go to reference #2 and hope she's a little more professional.

I would also let the client know how you were treated in your ref check...he may/may not care, but he has the right to know NOT to use her ever again for a reference.

good point nikki..

One thing that has been brought up more and more lately are the girls that are not reference friendly. Getting worse and worse, men should be encouraged to write reviews as a part of the screening.

jeanna, I understand now what you mean.. she had malice in the message by the tone of her voice.
Some of these guys NEED TO CALL the provider to let them know another provider will be calling for a reference or some won't act like they don't know the guy. Some are afraid to answer due to the fact he didn't call. A safety procedure.

That makes me wonder if you should see clients who engange with women like that. Maybe something shady is going on between the client and this woman (he might have dated her, because her response seemed to "unprofessional" or whatever else, maybe its some ex getting back at her) .
Anyways,
if a client engages in shady things with women, or has women as providers who act a way that i find despicable, i would refuse to see the client too. Its the same with these people who engage in bareback services and then you get "their" clients and they think its totally ok to ask :-)) .

Good point Nina...there are guys that play the *I'll make her jealous* game! I've seen it happen...so silly, and a complete waste of the other provider's time!

Wow sorry this happened to you Jenna. I have had a couple of girls contact me for refs... and in the end made good friends with them, (Luv u Zada) as they have inturn refered me when they were not avl.... Henceforth... {{ You can catch more flies with sugar not salt!}}... Good luck next time love...

Thank you ladies for all your feedback... note this guy is a lurker to and has only one person he has seen so.. really not my cup ...but I still check all info.. just in case .. you never know when.. later this person will have a alert on ... we never know.. I just feel that we "ladies" who are true elite providers should always look out for one another.. and we make it easier for one another and the hobbiest in the long run.. some ppl are just trashy/ ghetto and may not even screen its just about the money and not about the well-being and safety.. and that makes it harder for us good elite providers in the long run.. I hate that some boards have these lurkers to .. I feel that every person that has access to these boards should have a handle and user ID.. and should have be required to post at least once in a while... thank you once again ladies

Wow sorry this happened to you Jenna. I have had a couple of girls contact me for refs... and in the end made good friends with them, (Luv u Zada) as they have inturn refered me when they were not avl.... Henceforth... {{ You can catch more flies with sugar not salt!}}... Good luck next time love... Originally Posted by harley3535

I'm so with you on that harley... some of my good friends and double partners at that... especially when it comes to soicals and get togethers.. its so much fun when you know someone...at that! ..

Alot has certainly changed these days, not with just the ladies, but the gentlemen also, time to evolve. Ladies safety always comes first!!!

Some ladies are professionals and some are not.I have sent reference requests from well-reviewed ladies who have sent me a response damn near cussing me out.Thankfully,this has only happened a couple of time the rest of time when I send a request the lady responds in a professional manner.Who knows why this lady responded to your request in the way she did?

She might be jealous the guy is interested in you and not trying to book another appointment with her and then there are some ladies who are not reference friendly and will not even respond to a request.
I know you mentioned she was his only reference but I would definitely never reach out to this lady you mentioned for anything.Unfortunately,there are some ladies in this business that are very unstable some try to hide it but if the person is crazy eventually it will come out.All you can do is be safe and look out for yourself.
What really gets me is ladies who require references but will not provide a reference to a fellow provider.Just doesn't make sense.

WOW! sorry to hear that. I won't do that to fellow providers. We are all in this biz and need to look out for each other. If I'm in your city I will have your back and you have mine. If you ever come to OKC look me up girlfriend.

Kat

Some ladies are professionals and some are not.I have sent reference requests from well-reviewed ladies who have sent me a response damn near cussing me out.Thankfully,this has only happened a couple of time the rest of time when I send a request the lady responds in a professional manner.Who knows why this lady responded to your request in the way she did?

She might be jealous the guy is interested in you and not trying to book another appointment with her and then there are some ladies who are not reference friendly and will not even respond to a request.
I know you mentioned she was his only reference but I would definitely never reach out to this lady you mentioned for anything.Unfortunately,there are some ladies in this business that are very unstable some try to hide it but if the person is crazy eventually it will come out.All you can do is be safe and look out for yourself.
What really gets me is ladies who require references but will not provide a reference to a fellow provider.Just doesn't make sense. Originally Posted by jaydalee

WOW! sorry to hear that. I won't do that to fellow providers. We are all in this biz and need to look out for each other. If I'm in your city I will have your back and you have mine. If you ever come to OKC look me up girlfriend.

Originally Posted by onlyonefeistykat35

@ Jaydalee
...............yes some are crazy and unstable.. I've seen it alot of time... especially at some socials and get togethers... I'm all for looking out for one another.. because if we cant look out for one another who will!...other then our self thats about it...

@ Kat

I got your back to doll <3 ... I have no problem looking out for you when you come to Houston!...

thanks ladies once again for the feedback... PM me or text me or so forth if you ever need any info...