Ladies Who Require a Hobbyist's Real Life Information

Ok, Brandy's newest issue of her "Bedroom" has an article on screening (see the thread at http://www.eccie.net/showthread.php?t=73240).

The screening article suggests that escorts should collect real life information on every hobbyist, even those who have "Date Check" Oks (I assume that would be the same for P411 OKs).

From the websites I've seen, it appears to me that most upscale escorts (for lack of a better definition, I define that as escorts that have a 2-hour minimum that starts at $800-$1,000, and goes up from there), do require real life personal information in addition to any P411 or DC OKs.

In a different thread, long, long ago, I was advised to see more upscale providers since I had such terrible experiences (I judged that only 15-20% of those I'd seen had resulted in a satisfactory session).

So, I did some searching. Most "upscale" providers required multi-hour sessions, especially with first time visitors. They also seemed to require real life information for screening, and even if they took P411 or DC, they still required the RL information.

While any lady has the right to require the screening information they like, I'm curious as to whether or not hobbyists are willing to give up this kind of information in order to see an upscale lady? I'm also curious as to whether or not hobbyists might give up this kind of information to see such a lady when they wouldn't otherwise give up that kind of information to other escorts?
  • MrGiz
  • 07-16-2010, 06:08 PM
Whenever a girl in the hobby asks for 'real ' , 'full ' name and possibly more.... I ask if she's willing to exchange the same with me! How often do you think that request has been granted? Why not?

Giz
Chica Chaser's Avatar
While any lady has the right to require the screening information they like, I'm curious as to whether or not hobbyists are willing to give up this kind of information in order to see an upscale lady? I'm also curious as to whether or not hobbyists might give up this kind of information to see such a lady when they wouldn't otherwise give up that kind of information to other escorts? Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Not a chance, Prince! If my impeccable references and many P411 OK's are not enough for a lady to clear screening I just move on. No difference if its an "upscale" lady or a "downscale" lady. Agreed, the lady is perfectly in her rights to require whatever info she requires for her comfort level; on the same token, I am perfectly within my rights to give up my personal information to my comfort level.

As deep as the provider pool currently is every area of the country, it's not hard at all to find someone that will screen to your comfort level and still show you a great time.
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  • oden
  • 07-16-2010, 06:57 PM
Would you even consider a cleaning service without being bonded? Only exceptions would be impeccable references that I trusted, or that there was nothing in the house that I cared to lose.
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I've never given my RL info to get a date set up...and I can't ever remember being turned down for such. But I agree it's the gal's right to ask for whatever she wants.

That being said, if you spend any time with them...out for dinner...in hotels...in a bar having drinks...etc...any of them who are, at least, moderately observant, are gonna figure out your name. Maybe its when you throw your credit card down. Maybe its just giving the valet your name to keep your car up close. Maybe its just you slipping up when you're telling a story.

Once they have that, they can find out a lot if they want. Do they? Some probably yes...some maybe not. Unless you're planning to just do the one hour...wham-bam-thank-you-mam type meets, you might as well accept the fact that some of 'em are gonna know who you are. Most who you want to spend any time with are not dumb bunnies...and they are as curious as the next person. A little curiosity gets a lot of information in today's world.
I have found that most potential clients will actually volunteer that information even when you don't ask them for it.I have no problem with screening in a way that does respect their privacy, but long before I can inform them of that they have emailed me their full name, occupation, SSN, and mothers maiden name( OK I am kidding about the last two)

On the other end I have given my full name to a couple of clients when there is a reason for it. If it is someone I trust it is really not a problem.
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I don't really worry much about it. The casual conversation questions "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?", if answered truthfully, would give them everything they need to be able to dig up my personal info. Since I'm not willing to lie about those things, I just assume that any provider I see who wants to find out will do so. Having accepted that, giving the information myself is a very small step.
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I give out my name, couldn't care less if they know it.

Follow up to RK: spend enough time with a gal and their real name comes out as well; might be a luggage tag, a conversation where they tell a story about themselves and use their real name, and so forth. I can only think of one lady that I have spent at least an overnight with that I don't know her full name.
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Most who you want to spend any time with are not dumb bunnies...and they are as curious as the next person. A little curiosity gets a lot of information in today's world. Originally Posted by Rudyard K
Very true Rudyard. After I have met a lady and spent some time with her (and determined that I would like spend time with her again) I have no problem disclosing much more info. My earlier post referred to her first-meeting screening requirements. My only concern is from an LE aspect. I am single, which eliminates most of the further concerns other gentlemen may have.
I give out my name, couldn't care less if they know it.

Follow up to RK: spend enough time with a gal and their real name comes out as well; might be a luggage tag, a conversation where they tell a story about themselves and use their real name, and so forth. Originally Posted by discreetgent
very true
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While any lady has the right to require the screening information they like, I'm curious as to whether or not hobbyists are willing to give up this kind of information in order to see an upscale lady? I'm also curious as to whether or not hobbyists might give up this kind of information to see such a lady when they wouldn't otherwise give up that kind of information to other escorts? Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Nope.
I have found that gentlemen that send me a thoughtful introduction to them selves volunteer, like Becky said, their real world information either in their introduction or somewhere in the exchange of email prior to us meeting whether they have references or not. That said, I don’t ask for real world information unless there is just no other way to screen them. If they want to give it to me, fine; if not, I can’t see them based on an “I promise I work for Exxon and I’m a nice guy.”
“I promise I work for Exxon and I’m a nice guy.” Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
What if it's Enron???
If they want to give it to me, fine; if not, I can’t see them based on an “I promise I work for Exxon and I’m a nice guy.” Originally Posted by OliviaHoward
Before I got some good references I gave out some personal information to secure time with a few providers, and they saw me based mostly on that information. I'm not sure that I would do it again though. Our personal information is all over the place in the world we live in now, so if someone wants to find out about you they can. Most well known and respected providers don't cause me much worry. The girl that doesn't ask for any references is the one to watch out for, and I've gotten smart enough not to see them.
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  • gamma
  • 07-17-2010, 05:01 PM
What if it's Enron??? Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Probably depends on if she is from Cali.