Client Crushes:When the line gets blurry.

Ladies:Have you ever had a client that became obsessive?Can you keep the business and keep your space?

Gentlemen:When the illusion of passion gets a little too real,how do you get back the fun and save the house and car?

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I agree Deann...

Actually, I am one of the girly-girls who "wiggle and giggle" at times; yet, I always keep the lines clearly defined. I enjoy being that "love affair", a couple hours at a time, but refuse to "play a guy" after our time together. Many guys are there for more than "just sex"... wanting to talk, cuddle and to feel appreciated....at least during our time together. I also enjoy that client who is looking for "just sex". I enjoy being their "rag doll/sex toy" during our time together. After all, everyone is different and has different "needs/desires" at different times, including me.

Boyhood "crushes" can be cute and add to the "illusion". In fact, I've enjoyed that experience with several. However, "obsession" that crosses boundaries of "illusion" should be avoided. Fortunately, I haven't had to deal with that in the three years I've been escorting.

... using a guys emotions and feelings against him in order to manipulate the appointments, lead him on and have him risking to much in order to see you is completely WRONG to do. A girl seeing a guy get to close shouldn't keep milking him, she should distance herself and lose the business, not play the "game" more Originally Posted by DeAnna Luv

I can't agree more!!!!


Kisses & Licks,
Shelby

What no guys?

Okay I have started enough threads now,Im gonna rest awhile.

What no guys? Originally Posted by Lookin4

I think I got obsessed with a provider just once (a local Memphis lady), so much so that we went on an honest to god date (a "freebie" in that I didn't pay for her time, though I sprung for dinner, drinks and the movie, and we did some giddy teenaged necking during/after the flick, nothing more). It was a fun time, but we had a personal falling out, and that's when I realized it was A Huge Mistake, and I'm not going to repeat it.

We've more or less paved over the personal falling out, but I've been hesitant to see her again (more's the pity, as she's an incredible time BCD). Right now my financially imposed hiatus has insured that I don't get tempted to make The Huge Mistake again, though once I have cash I'll have to agonize over whether I'm going to see her again at all (the thought of doing so is exhilarating yet very painful).

One of the best evenings I've had with a provider was a 4 hour date in Huntsville, AL with a provider there who actively encouraged me to fall in love with her, and sorta implied that there might be reciprocation. Fortunately, Huntsville is a four hour drive from me, so it's not like I've had much opportunity to make The Huge Mistake with her. Once I have cash again, I'm going to be tempted to make the mistake (the time we spent both in public and BCD was awesome). We'll just have to see which head I think with.

Cheers,

bcg

Gentlemen:When the illusion of passion gets a little too real,how do you get back the fun and save the house and car?

In this world or the real world it's the same, your dick doesn't care about the car. When the money is gone is when you awake from the illusion, because when the money is gone, she is too.

Foolproof way to take some blurry lines and make them crystal clear:

1. Ask provider to join you on weekend getaway, OTC.
2. Provider says no.
3. Problem solved

Unless... Provider says YES. Then your screwed, in more than one way.

Gentlemen:When the illusion of passion gets a little too real,how do you get back the fun and save the house and car?

In this world or the real world it's the same, your dick doesn't care about the car. When the money is gone is when you awake from the illusion, because when the money is gone, she is too. Originally Posted by Bimboknocker

I have made some really good friends in the past 18 months. When I was in ATL on a family emergency, it really meant a lot to me how many of my friends called to see how my family and I were doing.

I can (and do) become friends without 'great emotional' attachment. Doesn't mean I don't care. I had a great friend, a sort of mentor for me when I started, who has since retired and I still miss talking to him - as friends.

I think you guys may have it harder since the stereo type is men equate good sex with emotion while women are less likely to.

I have cut off/quit seeing regulars who I felt got too attached. If a client starts getting in too deep - I will stop seeing him. I don't risk my world - or anyone else's.

I have made some really good friends in the past 18 months. When I was in ATL on a family emergency, it really meant a lot to me how many of my friends called to see how my family and I were doing.

I can (and do) become friends without 'great emotional' attachment. Doesn't mean I don't care. I had a great friend, a sort of mentor for me when I started, who has since retired and I still miss talking to him - as friends.

I think you guys may have it harder since the stereo type is men equate good sex with emotion while women are less likely to.

I have cut off/quit seeing regulars who I felt got too attached. If a client starts getting in too deep - I will stop seeing him. I don't risk my world - or anyone else's. Originally Posted by babee

You make an excellent point, especially in the case of men who have not had their sexual attractiveness validated by a woman in quite some time, and suddenly there is a woman who APPEARS to be excited by them. It is easy for us to want to connect that with actual desire. That does not mean that a friendship cannot be enjoyed in the context of the professional relationship where the provider gives a service and the client enjoys it. I think the real minefield is the GFE, the current gold standard on the business. I never felt an emotional connection with a girl who offered no more than an hour of technical skill. If I feel too connected with a provider it jeopardizes real relationships,the hobby stops being fun and becomes a burden both financially and emotionally.

You know there is a fine line. I have some regulars who started out with me when I first got into the business.( I started out on the streets before I got smart and got on the interenet lol) Now 2 plus years later they are my clients and my friends. There is an emotional attachement to a degree. I think its possible to have an emotional connection to a degree as long parties understand its about the hobby and what you are getting from each other at the moment and you dont let it effect your "normal every day lives"

There's your minefield right there!

I still believe the emotional dangers of this thing of ours are bigger than the physical for us dudes. Gotta some how use protection there too.

men who have not had their sexual attractiveness validated by a woman in quite some time, and suddenly there is a woman who APPEARS to be excited by them... Originally Posted by Lookin4