How Did you Enter the Realm?

Willen's Avatar
I've gotten to wondering how we discovered our kinkness?

In my case it's a multi-stage process.

First, as a teenager I I found myself aroused by very non-vanilla stuff. Those of you old enough, or with a knowledge of "adult" history, will recall the book "The Happy Hooker." I'll say no more. For you youngsters, did you stumble across something 'disgusting' that left you excited?

For me, stage 2 resulted from a chance encounter at college. A well-lubricated night occasioned a random intenesly erotic physical connection, which led to an unbelievable night of passion. In the midst of said night, I went down on her--the first time I'd done so on anyone. The night was spontaneous, we both were overwhelmed by lust, so she'd not cleaned herself (nor had I, and she consumed as much of me as she could, with as much unbridled appetite as anyone could). As I approached her tunnel, with its ample shrubbery, her musk was overwhelming. I was at once repelled, but also aroused, and serviced her anyway. The 'repulsion' added to my arousal. [This was climax #2 of, to the best of my shakey memory, five that night. Had I died the next morning I'd have gone happy--as I think was true for her as well.] The key is that doing something 'dirty' excited me even more than sex itself.

The final stage of entry into this forbidden realm cameyears later when my SO and I disccovered that I was intensely aroused when she abused my nipples, and that she was aroused by my arousal. I knew by that point I Was kniky; I learned then that for me being hurt was the ultimate turn on.

What's your story?
Mokoa's Avatar
  • Mokoa
  • 03-29-2013, 08:49 PM
Yes, I remember that book. Quite an eye opener, really.

However, my interest in some of the kinky stuff did not manifest itself until decades later.
Cpalmson's Avatar
As a teen, I was a fan of the old Buck Rogers tv series. There was an episode where Buck was taken prisoner on a planet full of women and they were in charge. From that point on, one of my deepest sexual fantasies was born-- being a sex slave to a young, nubile princess.
I started having bondage fantasies when I was in my early teens. No external stimulus that I can recall, just my freaky imagination. I've gotta say though, my kink level is pretty mild compared with some of you!
thecooldude's Avatar
In my teenage years my girlfriend and I finally had a chance to have sex at her mother's house while she at work. This was the first time I would actually do penetration. Up to that point in my young life, all I ever did was dry grinding. We tried vaginal intercourse first, but for some reason I problems getting it in the hole. Now that I look back at that situation, I'm glad I couldn't because we had no cover. We were very uneducated with the risk of her getting pregnant, or at least I was. At that point she suggested I do her in the ass. Apparently, she had done this before and really enjoyed it. She layed on her stomach and I enter into her anus. My penis went right in like she was already lubricated. It was the best feeling I ever felt in my life. The tightness of her anus kelp me from coming to soon. We went for about 20 minutes in total ecstasy. I had entered the realm.

I find very few women who really like anal sex and I don't do men. However, I do get lucky from time to time finding a lady who enjoys it as much as I do.
icansmile's Avatar
The start of a continuing streak of good fortune began in my freshman year of High School when the Senior girl next door needed someone to tie her up. I think I was more of a convenience than a desire to her, but what did I care. Absolutely the best year of my life. She went away for the summer and then to college, and I have been scratching the itch ever since.
DallasRain's Avatar
I have alwasy been an open minded person.....I was raised strict baptist so I had to rebel!
savak's Avatar
  • savak
  • 03-30-2013, 11:26 AM
only until recently...

everything was always vanilla up until I discovered this whole escort thing.

I had been watching tons of bdsm porn all throughout my senior year in highschool and college. I wanted to ask the gf to try it, but I was afraid she would say no, so I never asked.

now a days i have to make my sexy kinky and weird in some sort of way, even though it tires me out.
I am a Pro Domme.
I have known FOREVER I am KINKY.
For me is was the hobby world. Someone I met long ago in Toronto first introduced me to it through roleplay. Then another nameless person in Dallas continued my education. Now I enjoy continuing to stretch the limits and see what happens next.
mm-good's Avatar
Great question...I think it has always been there my first memorable was a 25yr old elementary school teacher, I was 18... (not @ same school, though back then I would not have cared).... She was a total sex queen. Loved to party and try to wear me out..lol...no brains or skills back then but good for a life size dildo! She really liked candles and got into the hot wax and dropping it on my nipples and balls while blowing me with ice in her mouth...
1 person got the realm stuck int eh back of my head only to surface later in life:

WONDER WOMAN - with her lasso. her tying someone up and with her being dressed the way she was really got me all worked up.
As long as I can remember I've had fantasies of being kidnapped, tied up and what not. When we played with neighbor kids, I was always the one who wanted to be caught and tied-up. In my dating life, I have always been drawn to dominant men.
I was told I needed anger management.
notanewbie's Avatar
I slipped and fell on a bottle of conditioner..strictly by assholedent...er...accident.