Heavy - Part 2

Should a provider be notified ahead of time if the client is "heavy?"
Thus giving the provider the option to "opt-out"..... or is that the providers responsibility to disclose in the ad...such as no AA men, etc.?

Heavy is in the eye of the beholder.

I always give a brief description of myself prior to meeting...it's the least I can do, since most ladies post pics and they have no way of knowing what awaits them on the other side of the door.

Something like 6 foot tall, late 30's, clean shaven, 190 pounds, non smoker, full head of blonde hair, extremely handsome etc. (Not my description unfortunately, just an example...) That way, if they choose to politely decline, they have all the stats in front of them...

I think that is where a simple body shot pic can be a good thing. There is overweight, there is obese, and then there is morbidly obese. If you are more than overweight she needs to know.

She really needs to know if she had to lift your gut to get to your dick.

One thing that hasn't been addressed is massage appointments. When you're a bigger guy, your massage experience can be different and massage tables can be uncomfortable if the therapist hasn't planned ahead.

Let your provider know ahead of time if you're bigger or even if you're very tall (over 6'5") so she can make changes to her table that will make you more comfortable. She might want to add bolsters, pillows, an extension, lower or raise the table. Little things that make the experience better for you and easier on her. If her table has a weight limit under 500lbs, she might not be able to get up on the table with you and some other activities could be off limits completely. Some providers prefer to just not see big guys and have a hundred reasons for it.

I appreciate every one of my clients, tall, short, big, skinny, quiet, feisty, whatever. When I see someone new, I want to do whatever I can to show them that I'm happy to have them on my table. So yes, let her know.

Since we don't (generally) share pics, I often will describe myself in a pm to a provider if I have not met her socially before. That included an honest estimate of my weight, even when that was rather higher than it now is. If I was shot down, yes it was quite disappointing....but I would rather spend my money somewhere I am apprectiated, than realize the disappointment in a visit.

Guys can put their physical attributes on their P411 profile, including age and pics if you want...I do. And if you BS it, the word will get around.