Age of Companion?

am-a-pleaser's Avatar
I am planning a 3 day trip to San Antonio in the future for a little R & R. I'm interested in having a provider accompany me. We'd be seen in public, site-seeing, eating together, etc.


If you were planning such an arrangement, what age range would you be comfortable with for this kind of companionship?


Would age be a concern?


Feel free to expand your responses beyond age.


I'd like perspectives from a variety of ages.
Fancyinheels's Avatar
Totally dependent on what the gentleman is comfortable with, cougar or cub. I'm 51 and have been out in the public eye on the arms of fellows in their 30's to their 80's. I long ago gave up on what people might think of May-December couples, Laurel and Hardy/skyscraper and single-level differences in sizes, or mixed race duos because much of the perception is cultural and differs from place to place.

As long as no one's making an inappropriate spectacle of their behavior, society has progressed to where nontraditional pairings don't rate the attention that they did in the past.
Naomi4u's Avatar
Hmmm I know this question is for the guys but I love older guys!!!! I'm in my 20s and truly enjoy their company. I have a 35 and older policy so the guys I see are 40 and up. I have also found that older guys are more into companionship than the act itself and I love it. I also love showing them new moves and wearing them out. It's too much fun!
shorty's Avatar
I prefer extended date's to be 26-40yrs old. I feel like I have more in common with them because of my age. This doesn't mean I wouldn't break my rule, Naomi.
CarolinaGent's Avatar
Age wouldn't be as big of a concern as making sure you will get along for 3 days. It could be a long and stressful 3 days if you don't enjoy their company in public as well as BCD. As far as age, that's a tricky one. Everyone seems to have their own preferences. I don't target any specific age group and I've found age and maturity are two different things. I'm 42, so it might look a bit odd walking around with a 20something hottie on my arm, but I don't really give a crap. As long as we have fun, that's all that matters
Cpalmson's Avatar
If spending extended time with a provider, I'd go with someone that has the same maturity age as me. You are going to want to be compatible with this person for an extended period of time. Ensure she has the same interests as you and that you can actually be alone with her for that many days. I wouldn't put a physical age more of a maturity age. You wouldn't want to be with a provider who doesn't have the same cultural tastes as you. Put it this way. If you are a middle aged guy who is into the stock market, fine dining, and U2; you probably aren't going to hit it off over an extended period of time with a provider who is into Snooki, fast food and Lady Gaga. If it were me, I'd go for a provider who shares my same interests who also looks like she belongs with me. For me, it would most likely be a gal in her late 20s to early 30s.
Sweet N Little's Avatar
Excellent Advise Cpalmson. It it were just bcd's then that would be different however 3days can be an eternity with someone you have nothing in common with since you are including obviously daily vacation style activities. There is a sea of beautiful, smart & fun ladies in TX! Have fun on your trip Pleaser! (and I'm sure you will )
Naomi4u's Avatar
you probably aren't going to hit it off over an extended period of time with a provider who is into Snooki, fast food and Lady Gaga. Originally Posted by Cpalmson
Hate Gaga
Can't stand Snooki
I am over fast food.
I do watch lifetime movies a little too much though . Oh well.
Chica Chaser's Avatar
I wouldn't worry about taking someone with you, just research and line up several different local ladies while you are there. The only way you should even consider it, is if you have had many meetings with the lady and you are totally comfortable with each other.

I am going to start making regular visits to SA soon and thats my plan.
Hate Gaga (me too)
Can't stand Snooki (we can make fun of her together)
I am over fast food. (perhaps sushi)
I do watch lifetime movies a little too much though . Oh well (I think we could make our own Lifetime movie). Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Let me see...I'm a 52 year old average white guy and you're a beautiful 20 something black woman....I don't think I would care one bit about being in public or on an "extended" date with you....If the OP is planning something with an extended term, I would hope compatibility is something that would be known way ahead of time rather than just focussing on age...that's only one component and there are many other things that could make or break a very nice time together.
If the age thing is a serious consideration then I would be out of luck as there are no providers in my age range and if there were I probably would not be interested. I do however tend to gravitate toward the older ladies.

That said age is not a consideration per se, it is compatability. Do not do an extended time with someone that you have never seen before. The person you choose should be one that you are drawn to.

CC has a good prespective. Check out the local SA talent.
If spending extended time with a provider, I'd go with someone that has the same maturity age as me. You are going to want to be compatible with this person for an extended period of time. Ensure she has the same interests as you and that you can actually be alone with her for that many days. I wouldn't put a physical age more of a maturity age. You wouldn't want to be with a provider who doesn't have the same cultural tastes as you. Put it this way. If you are a middle aged guy who is into the stock market, fine dining, and U2; you probably aren't going to hit it off over an extended period of time with a provider who is into Snooki, fast food and Lady Gaga. If it were me, I'd go for a provider who shares my same interests who also looks like she belongs with me. For me, it would most likely be a gal in her late 20s to early 30s. Originally Posted by Cpalmson
Excellent Advise Cpalmson. It it were just bcd's then that would be different however 3days can be an eternity with someone you have nothing in common with since you are including obviously daily vacation style activities. There is a sea of beautiful, smart & fun ladies in TX! Have fun on your trip Pleaser! (and I'm sure you will ) Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

+1

You are definitely going to spend more time with each other doing whatever you are doing than spending time BCD. If I were doing that, I'd pick someone that lived during some of the same periods that I lived. We would have music, current events, history, American culture all in common. There would be a lot to talk about even if we didn't agree. It's different to talk to someone who has only read about college during the 60s than it is to talk to someone who experienced college during the 60s.

It's the difference between listening to Elvis Presley songs when they were released and listening to them as a soundtrack to "Lilo and Stitch."
  • Leta
  • 04-13-2011, 12:53 PM
If spending extended time with a provider, I'd go with someone that has the same maturity age as me. You are going to want to be compatible with this person for an extended period of time. Ensure she has the same interests as you and that you can actually be alone with her for that many days. I wouldn't put a physical age more of a maturity age. You wouldn't want to be with a provider who doesn't have the same cultural tastes as you. Put it this way. If you are a middle aged guy who is into the stock market, fine dining, and U2; you probably aren't going to hit it off over an extended period of time with a provider who is into Snooki, fast food and Lady Gaga. If it were me, I'd go for a provider who shares my same interests who also looks like she belongs with me. For me, it would most likely be a gal in her late 20s to early 30s. Originally Posted by Cpalmson
I couldn't have worded it better myself. I think that's exactly the way a decision such as that should be made.
am-a-pleaser's Avatar
The last lady I did this with was 20yrs my junior. We had a good time together. Age itsself doesn't seem to be much of a factor. Interests are. I have found enjoyment in mutual conversation and extended sessions with ladies 25yo and up.

A while back, I met an 18yo who was surprisingly quite mature. Because we enjoyed similar things, I would have no problem with her on such a "date". Before she quit the business (because of some bad experiences) she and I had talked about going off. Our schedules just never worked.

General consensus - It depends on the two people. But is there and age difference at which it would bother you being seen publicly together?

Is 30yrs too much age difference? How about 40yrs difference?

I wonder what 18yo's think?
The last lady I did this with was 20yrs my junior. We had a good time together. Age itsself doesn't seem to be much of a factor. Interests are. Originally Posted by am-a-pleaser
Completely agree. As long as you have common interests, enjoy each other's company, and have compatible vacation styles (or at least flexibility and a willingness to compromise if one is go-go-go and the other is let's-sit-by-the-pool), why let the age of either of you get in the way? I do think it's more difficult to find that in someone with a large age disparity, simply because you are more likely to have been raised with different perspectives and have had different experiences, but ruling out the possibility before you even try to get to know someone is silly, I think.

A lovely lady once told me a gentleman friend of hers had expressed interest in meeting me, but had never taken the initiative because he was concerned I was "too young". This was when I was 28 or so, and as someone approaching her 30s for the first time, I found it both flattering and silly. Guess it goes to show that there's always going to be someone out there who considers you too young for them, no matter what your age is.

But is there and age difference at which it would bother you being seen publicly together?
Nope. When I was 18, would it have bothered me? Probably. But a lot of things bothered me when I was 18 that don't now, so I don't know if it's because I've gotten older or that my personality's changed or both. I definitely care a LOT less what other people -- particularly people I don't know -- think of me than I did then.