Lovestyles

Has anyone ever read the book called "Colours of Love" by John Alan Lee?

Here is what he discovered. Its a qualitative research about western forms of love. Its interesting because it is the first (and only) study that differs from this notion that there is "one" form of love to be the "true" one. The other scientific studies
do suggest there is only one form of "true" love.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_styles

Love styles are models of how people love, originally developed by John Lee (1973,[1] 1988[2]). He identified six basic love styles—also known as "colors" of love—that people use in their interpersonal relationships:

Eros – a passionate physical and emotional love based on aesthetic enjoyment; stereotype of romantic love

Ludus – a love that is played as a game or sport; conquest; may have multiple partners at once

Storge – an affectionate love that slowly develops from friendship, based on similarity (kindred to Philia)

Pragma – love that is driven by the head, not the heart; undemonstrative

Mania – obsessive love; experience great emotional highs and lows; very possessive and often jealous lovers

Agape – selfless altruistic love; spiritual; motherly love

Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick of Texas Tech University expanded on this theory in the mid-1980s with their extensive research on what they called "love styles". They have found that men tend to be more ludic, whereas women tend to be storgic and pragmatic. Mania is often the first love style teenagers display. Relationships based on similar love styles were found to last longer. People often look for people with the same love style as themselves for a relationship. These styles are akin to the Greek types of love.

These styles are akin to the Greek types of love. Originally Posted by ninasastri

You gotta be careful of the Greek style of love, love.

You might want to back into it.

Don't fall for the soap on the floor trick.

(lulz)......

They forgot narcissistic love.

And the sex for $$$$ love.

They forgot narcissistic love.

And the sex for $$$$ love. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Maybe ludus would include narcissism. Sex for $$$$ well...that`s not love (or maybe its included in Pragma love style ;-)..)

First of all, I don’t know that there is too much difference between Western cultural love and other cultures’ love. I would rather think it was a love study in and amongst the human condition rather than culturally localized.

Secondly, where it is possible that under the authors certain parameters, which are not defined, the research was qualitative, however one study ever does not a body of work make.

Thirdly, people naturally gravitate to like-minded, similarly acculturated and behaviorally similar people.

Finally, Go TECH!