Fantasy or Reality?

I want to bring this subject up to guys and girls.....because its a fine line

Do you wonderful men of KC want to step into a hotel/apartment/house of a provider and feel like you are in another world? a fantasy world where nothing is as it appears? everything is very mysterious and the girl doesn't say much.....maybe a bit of small talk or flirting over a glass of ice water as you stare into each other eyes....

or do you want more of a reality situation? You come in and you can tell the girl is real. she may have a messy apartment or evidence of kids or pets....she tells you a little about herself and you have nice conversation before heading BCD.....

which is ideal? fantasy or reality? or does it depend on the girl??

Probably depends on the lady, but usually the more fantasy, the better. The real world sucks!

I know I am a provider so my opinion doesn't truly count as I am not the client. I love a clean place with no evidence of a life outside the hobby so the mind doesn't wonder much. I think the mystery of it all is sexy.

I love some small talk, but then to basically just bend over and get down to business. I love the rush it brings to just get fucked.. don't really know much about each other, just know that you decided to meet at the spur of the moment, fuck, and be done. It is one of my biggest turn on moments.

While I like some "boudoir" fantasy atmosphere, it certainly doesn't need to be anything extravagant. We all know providers have real lives. General untidiness and life stuff isn't a turn off - dirty clothes, dirty dishes and a generally unclean place is though.

For me the biggest part that takes away from a session is when it's made very obvious that a session is a job or is work. No man wants to hear that a session is "work" - we know the reality of the situation but I personally like to live the fantasy that the session is as much fun for the provider as it is for me. Hearing that is session is "work" takes me out of the fantasy.

I know I am a provider so my opinion doesn't truly count as I am not the client. I love a clean place with no evidence of a life outside the hobby so the mind doesn't wonder much. I think the mystery of it all is sexy.

I love some small talk, but then to basically just bend over and get down to business. I love the rush it brings to just get fucked.. don't really know much about each other, just know that you decided to meet at the spur of the moment, fuck, and be done. It is one of my biggest turn on moments. Originally Posted by DestinyInKC

I agree. A big turn moment for me as a client is when the provider is very much into it and can't wait to dispense with the small talk and clothes and just get down to what we both met up for - crazy dirty loud fucking

For me the biggest part that takes away from a session is when it's made very obvious that a session is a job or is work. No man wants to hear that a session is "work" - we know the reality of the situation but I personally like to live the fantasy that the session is as much fun for the provider as it is for me. Hearing that is session is "work" takes me out of the fantasy. Originally Posted by Bcdrummer

This is it exactly! A guy needs to think that the woman is having fun and is into it. Nothing kills it faster than when you know the lady is just phoning it in! Ho-hum...are you done?...next!

Probably depends on the lady, but usually the more fantasy, the better. The real world sucks! Originally Posted by Smoking Monkey

I love to be your fantasy girl baby

While I like some "boudoir" fantasy atmosphere, it certainly doesn't need to be anything extravagant. We all know providers have real lives. General untidiness and life stuff isn't a turn off - dirty clothes, dirty dishes and a generally unclean place is though.

For me the biggest part that takes away from a session is when it's made very obvious that a session is a job or is work. No man wants to hear that a session is "work" - we know the reality of the situation but I personally like to live the fantasy that the session is as much fun for the provider as it is for me. Hearing that is session is "work" takes me out of the fantasy. Originally Posted by Bcdrummer

my amazing time with you is not "work"....its a "workout" for sure! lol

but what we have is an amazing fantasy I wish we could take to a beautiful island!

You are definitely my fantasy girl, good-lookin'!!

I know I am a provider so my opinion doesn't truly count as I am not the client. I love a clean place with no evidence of a life outside the hobby so the mind doesn't wonder much. I think the mystery of it all is sexy.

I love some small talk, but then to basically just bend over and get down to business. I love the rush it brings to just get fucked.. don't really know much about each other, just know that you decided to meet at the spur of the moment, fuck, and be done. It is one of my biggest turn on moments. Originally Posted by DestinyInKC

I agree with Destiny. There is some of both this way.

I'd have to say that a clean secure place is a must. I like a little small talk and maybe a refreshment up front. This is why i normally prefer out call. I keep my place clean and have refreshments available.

Then it's fantasy time. Feeling like you are king for the moment. Being with the right person makes all the difference. I hope to find her soon.

my amazing time with you is not "work"....its a "workout" for sure! lol

but what we have is an amazing fantasy I wish we could take to a beautiful island! Originally Posted by Angel in KC

Haha yes, time with you is one very exhaustive but extremely pleasurable and satisfying workout haha
A trip to the Greek isles while on a beautiful isle?

It really depends on the lady and the nature of the appointment. Sometimes when I visit a lady's house or studio and she takes me to a room that is CLEARLY a boudoir set up for seeing clients, it doesn't matter how soothing or relaxing or otherworldly it is because all I can think is "This is her sex room. She has set aside this room for sex with clients. I wonder how many clients she has, if she can set aside a whole room of her house for this." I know it is illogical, but it actually takes me out of it. With those ladies, a more normal, "lived-in" look is preferable.

Other times, I want the fantasy. I guess that would mostly be when I have made the appointment well in advance and am going to a hotel room, or of course if I go to a bordello. In that case, bring on the fantasy sex room!

I'm not saying that I want clothes on the floor and dishes in the sink. But I'd like to be able to think that the room we are doing it in is not always draped in silks and candles and playing soothing music. If I see her pull out a new bedsheet, and light a few candles, and see that she is attempting to transform the room into something romantic, that's great. But the idea that the room is her "home office" kind of takes me out of it.

i see it a lot like KCQ.... if im at a girls incall apt or house i want to be in her bed not the set up entertainment room.... i like to see the dresser with a little clutter on it, the extra stuff in the room as it is lived in.... i think it ads to the gfe we are all looking for not the clinical wham bam room with a bed and a night stand with a case of cheep condoms baby wipes in it... yuck

Fantasy for me, although reality doesn't necessarily mean messy. I grew up with 9 siblings and 2 dogs and our house was always spotless, my mom ran a very tight ship so to speak lol.

But regardless when I am doing Incall I put all traces of my personal life away.

The bathroom counter cluttered with my face and hair care products? In the drawer you go. A bar of soap, disposable toothbrush and mini mouthwash in its place.

All those towels in the bathroom? Into the hamper you go. In it's place one clean and neatly folded towel.

My shoes and girly things on the floor? Into the closet you go, no need for all of that. .

Make sure bed is freshly made and condoms, lube, toys are readily available.
Since I know the date and time of a meeting it's just a matter of time management.

Now 2 things though, I don't host out of my home so getting rid of the "lived in" feel is definitely a lot harder and I can understand a bit of clutter. 2, I'm single with no kids so I guess it can be tied into number 1, it's just easier to take care of yourself when it's only yourself...These matters should definitely be taken into consideration.