Ladies Orgasm!!! - ECCIE Worldwide

Choose the right position. There is no right or wrong position for reaching orgasm. Some women prefer having their legs wide open, while others need to keep their legs close or even pressed together to reach climax. This preference is related to your early discovery of sexual pleasure and how you first learned to orgasm. As you get better at reaching orgasm, experiment with different positions to find what works best for you. You can learn to climax in different positions with practice. More on self cultivation later.
Use what works. Keeping in mind what leg position works best for you to climax, use a position which incorporates your leg position preference. For example if you orgasm easiest with your legs wide open use the missionary position or woman on top positions. Added benefits of the woman on top position besides having your legs open as you straddle your partner is your ability to control the movement and the ease of stimulating your clitoris by you or your partner. If the best positions for you to climax is on your back with your legs close or pressed together use the cross position (sometimes called the t-square or lazy afternoon position). In this position your partner lies on his side with his legs together while you lie on you back at a right angle to his body, bending your knees over his pelvis and resting your feet on the bed. He then enters you from behind. In this position you can keep your legs pressed close together or as wide as you prefer. It also makes is easy for your partner to caress your breasts or either one of you to stimulate your clitoris.
Keep breathing. Some women have a tendency of holding their breath when they begin to feel their pleasure building towards orgasm. This can have the effect of interrupting or diminishing their orgasm. Not only is orgasm an intensely pleasurable sensation, it also involves a series of muscular contractions at the critical moment. It is important to keep your muscles well supplied with plenty of oxygen to keep your arousal building and to enjoy a powerful and satisfying orgasm. So keep breathing as the sensations build. And don’t worry if you become vocal. Your partner will enjoy hearing you gasp, moan and cry out in pleasure. Vocalizing can heighten your own enjoyment too.
Get involved in the action. Don’t make it your partners responsibility to give you pleasure. Rather use him to increase the pleasure you get from the experience. Get involved in the action: move your pelvis, wiggle your body, and shake your booty. Caress your breasts and vulva. You’ll rock your world and his.
Play the part. Fake it to help you make. I am not saying to fake orgasm to fool your partner. Use play acting and over exaggerating to increase your own arousal and make climaxing easier. Imagining you feel highly aroused and going through the motions of having an orgasm can make it happen. This is based on the principles of Neuro Linguistic Programming.
Use the power of his tongue. I don’t mean “that” (although “that” is good way to stimulate your clitoris). I mean asking your partner to whisper sweet nothings or talk dirty to you. His words can heighten your level of mental and emotional excitement and send you over the edge. Hearing him tell you how beautiful and sexy you are to him and how good you make him feel can give you the psychological boost you need to rocket you into orgasmic orbit.
Be a good coach. Every woman has her own way of reaching orgasm. And this can vary from one session to another. You may prefer slow rhythmic thrusting by your partner. Or you may enjoy fast and hard action. There may be times when you want or need something different from your usual pattern. It is important to let your partner know what you need without sounding critical. This is important because men have fragile egos—especially in the bedroom. Most men want to please a woman in bed. Use this to your advantage and praise him into pleasing you. Don’t tell him what you don’t like. Instead, tell him, or show him, what you want him to do and then tell him how amazing it feels when he does it (this is where moaning and being vocal can be used). This may be awkward a first, but the payoff will be well worth your effort.
Don’t neglect your pleasure center (clitoris). Most women need clitoral stimulation to climax. Half the women who can climax vaginally say they also need clitoral stimulation. Clitoral stimulation is crucial for female pleasure and orgasm. Make sure your partner is aware of this important fact. If he isn’t, find a way to enlighten him. This is an education you’ll both enjoy.
Use breast foreplay. Try this little know secret before having sex to super charge your orgasm. Take your top off, lay across your partner’s lap and ask him to caress your breasts for several minutes. Have him pay particular attention to your nipples and the surrounding area. Stimulating your breasts in this way causes your body to release the hormone oxytocin. Some of the things this hormone does are to increases feelings of emotional bonding and it stimulates genital contractions during orgasm—emotionally and physically supercharging your orgasm. To get him really turned on and charge up your orgasm even more, invite him to use his mouth and tongue on your breasts and nipples after several minutes of hand carressing.
Get fit for orgasm. Physically an orgasm is a series of muscular contractions of your pelvic floor muscles (PFM). These are the muscles surrounding your vaginal region. If these muscles are weak your reaction to sexual arousal will be weak and so will your orgasm. This means climaxing will be difficult and will often require very intense and prolonged stimulation. This can be very frustrating for a woman and her partner. Properly exercising and strengthening your PFM will keep you fit for orgasm, making climaxing easier, orgasms more intense and make sex more enjoyable for you and your partner! (See Fit for Orgasm ariticle for more information on strengthening your Pelvic Floor Muscles and making orgasm easier.)
Use the power of your mind and fantasy. During sex use erotic thoughts to tune out distractions and get in tune with the sensations of your body. Women often find it difficult to concentrate and focus on the pleasures of the moment during sex. This lack of concentration can interfere with arousal and orgasm. Use fantasy to disconnect from reality so you can enjoy the pleasure of sex. If you find this difficult to do on your own you can pick up some erotic books or magazines. Most grocery stores carry a selection of Romance novels written for women and are full of steamy sex scenes.
Use self cultivation for better sex and easier orgasms. Sex therapists often recommend self cultivation (masturbation) to women to help them learn how to climax. Women who can orgasm by themselves are able to orgasm more easily when they are with their partner. Knowing how to pleasure yourself allows you to teach your partner how to pleasure you. Studies show women who self cultivate have more sex; have a more satisfying sex life and relationship.