NCNS? WTF?

So, as some have noted, I have had a string of NCNS lately. This has not been one, two, or three providers, but many more, Enough to where I have asked a few if I have done something wrong, provider- wise. Did I piss off the wrong person? Was I rude? (Doubtful, Momma raised me right)

This as I spoke to a provider in chat last night who told me what a horribly slow time of year it was!

I started this post in the mens lounge, and was encouraged to move it out here. I knew providers would be pissed, but ok.

Ok, Define a NCNS? I made a appointment, I got into a car, I drove there, and nothing? Is that it? Or is it the time and planning of the event and then nothing? NCNS, in my opinion, covers all manners of time wasting, If I have set up a time with you, starting Monday,for Thursday, and then you stop answering your phone Thursday morning, you have wasted 3-4 days of mine. Best I can do Thursday is a bad backup plan, which I don't do well.

I have had providers ditch last sec, try to reschedule last sec, hold me an hour late or more and then be rude to me.. but the worst? NCNS, and then pm me later with your availability/ specials. No less, NCNS on me several times and pm me with this. This is potentially the most idiotic thing I can imagine. So you have f*** with me several times, and you want to have another go at it? I asked a provider yesterday what would make her think I would go beating my head into a wall again?

I even contacted one, who told me she had left the biz, and only stayed on the boards to keep in touch( she was, and does, put up ads daily) only to contact me a week later with specials.

I have had girls string me until the parking lot, we all have, But I have had recently one tell me she is "Setting up her incall" and never respond again.

This is not a complaint about one girl- but several. Name names? Would love to! But won't.

Question? Why are NCNS reports here in COED? Rather than on actual reviews where they would be helpful. Look at a girls reviews- CW for example, hers are are stellar, but dig deeper and find she is a grade A flake,

I have literally seen 2 providers more than once. Rather than speak badly of the ones I haven't, the ones I have have their shit together. I work in sales. Time is money, and I willingly pay for time. This, at the bottom of it, is a business, and ladies need to act like it. You want money, we want time and for our own time to be respected. Ask a lawyer who charges $350 an hour if waiting around for days for you to figure out when you can meet is viable for him.

Sorry about the rant.

Be gentle

I totally agree with you I had an appointment for 8am and I hate waking early got up at 7am got showered and dressed nothing he text a couple hours later saying he sorry he was hungover and gonna get ready wtf didnt even ask if I was available so no I didnt see him.

Nerdy, this is a great thread and hope that both providers and clients run with it...

Let's see how honest folks are as opposed to "drive-by shots at the jimmies"...

BTW, "Jimmies" are gender neutral descriptions that can be applied to both X-X and X-Y chromosome types...

You have every right to be frustrated..
Common courtesy is not over rated.
There comes a point when you realise that it all
really boils down to the Golden Rule..really,it's quite simple.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you...

I also agree that NCNS's should show up in your reviews..it would certainly help one make an informed decision on who they would like to book.

I'm sorry you've had bad luck sexy.
You come over here..Ill make you forget all about em....

Dayum miranda...the EXACT same thing happened to me this past week.
2hour date, morning appt...ncns.
said he "forgot"
(Ive seen him a couple times prior, so hopefully this was an isolated event)
Totally sucks though

How can you forget when you about to get your world rocked by a beautiful lady hmmm... its rare I get NCNS but what bothers me is when I have to wake up freaking early for nothing and I was in a good sleep too but its ok I got a date like a hour later so it worked out. Sorry that happened to you MsPrittiKitti... guys complain about girls not doing this but it goes both ways.

Hmmm....to me (and if course this is only my opinion)it would only be a NCNS when you have a set time, a specific location, and both parties have confirmed the meeting. If either side lacks any of these things them the appointment was not made, and it would not be a NCNS. Is it still irresponsible, usually. Rude? Depends on the situation. But often the blame seems to be spread between both parties. As with most things hobby related - and often in real life as well - COMMUNICATION is key.

That being said, it sucks that this keeps happening to you Nerdy123. It is the providers responsibility to check back with you gents if a tentative time/possible appointment had been discussed. That's on us not you; also known as common courtesy and customer service!

Yes. It totally goes both ways.
Im glad the topic is brought up bc ive been wondering, who loses out more?
The guy...bc his "time" is generally considered to be more "valuable" & his window of oppurtunity is most times limited.
Or the lady...bc generally its the monetary aspect that she misses out on...and in cases, her play time is just as limited.

Its just something ive wondered.

MPK Dahlin'... you make a great point... it goes both ways (so to speak!)

And it gets down to the central theme... is it about client's time, provider's time or money?

Frankly, that's where I believe the lines get blurred... in this NCNS discussion (which I believe Nerd has a point...), we lose sight about what this is about...

It's not about time and money per se, but rather a woman's willingness to offer her time and companionship to another human being... I love the "Firefly" series with Inara who is a "Companion" and the commodity isn't money but rather her intensely personal time with a client!

Not to sound rose-colored but that is kinda REALLY COOL!

Hmmm....to me (and if course this is only my opinion)it would only be a NCNS when you have a set time, a specific location, and both parties have confirmed the meeting. If either side lacks any of these things them the appointment was not made, and it would not be a NCNS. Is it still irresponsible, usually. Rude? Depends on the situation. But often the blame seems to be spread between both parties. As with most things hobby related - and often in real life as well - COMMUNICATION is key.

That being said, it sucks that this keeps happening to you Nerdy123. It is the providers responsibility to check back with you gents if a tentative time/possible appointment had been discussed. That's on us not you; also known as common courtesy and customer service! Originally Posted by Kit_Kat

I have to disagree with you on one point. Once a date and time and length of appt has been set and not necessarily the location, its an appt. Some of us like to or have to plan ahead and requests appt days in advance and providers in general don't give out the location till the day of or day prior to the appt and even then the room or apt # is not given till we get there. I understand this is for safety reasons. Its not fair to leave us hanging those few days when we could be contacting other providers instead. If you can't plan a few days ahead just say so and we'll move on to the next one or if something happened then it takes less than a minute to text or pm "Something came up. Can't meet with you."

You see, I have never NCNS on a lady, therefore have never impeded on her time. nor have I made an appt and called it off without much notice. No one has ever lost time or money over me.

I do have to say that none of the ladies who have spoken are less than responsible, by that I mean, that each and every lady who has posted so far are ones who are known to not be guilty of the NCNS.

I have yet to see the guilty parties ring in, nor do I truly expect that to happen.

Oh, I forgot to mention the provider that took over a month to check my references, and encouraged me to do it for her!

General question for the providers. I call on Monday and agree to meet on Friday at X time at your incall. You will give me the incall location then as is usual. Do I have a confirmed appointment? If not why not?

General question for the providers. I call on Monday and agree to meet on Friday at X time at your incall. You will give me the incall location then as is usual. Do I have a confirmed appointment? If not why not? Originally Posted by Laz

Honestly, it should, but if there wasn't a day before confirmation, I wouldn't call it a No Show. Rude, yes, NCNS, no.

Whenever a gent is interested in a lady, he should also pull a search on her name through post, and also see her statistics. There, any NCNS can pop up and also you can see her board persona. Good luck hun.