How your first sexual experience shaped you sexually

So I was thinking the other day as to how my first time shaped the rest of my sexual life and experiences.

Growing up I was inverted and especially shy around girls. I grew up in the 60 with a very free lifestyle but despite all the opportunities I had I was a LATE bloomer. In my late teens I started to train in martial arts. I went from day one to getting my black belt in two years. Normal it takes 4 years but I trained every day. After getting my black belt I moved in to the school as an instructor with the goal to get my masters (5th degree, no younger than 30yo).

So I was so concentrated on this goal that a girlfriend was only a distraction. Before I knew it I was 30 and a forth degree black belt. My mother lived in Las Vegas and I would visit from time to time. On my 30th birthday I desired it was time and I went to the bunny ranch to have my first experience.

When I got there I was nervous and outright scared. I sat at the bar and the parade of ladies came out and the madam said “pic one” I looked at them and my eye caught this very pretty brunette. She had long hair and was my dream girl. (Big mistake).

The ladies left and she led me to her room. She asked what I wanted and I said to have sex. She undressed and laid back on the bed. I was confused as she was expecting me to climb on top of her and fuck her, no forplay.

This did not work as I was so nervous and she was mean. Things were not going well. I asked if I could play with her tits and she said “you did not pay for that” it was getting worse. I was determined to get this done and she said for extra she would blow me to get things going to I got dressed and did the walk of shame to the ATM.

When I got back she started a weak CBJ and said it’s time to fuck. As I tried things went down hill and she said “you are not hard enough for sex” so I just got dressed for and left. Dejected I went back to my hotel.

I was determined to get it done. So I went back. This time I picked a more mature little bitty blond. She said “ I saw you here yesterday” I told her it was my birthday and I was a virgin and the other lady was so mean to me I could not perform. She said “don’t you worry I will take good care of you” and she did.

I went back the next day and by then the word had gotten around about me. I picked a nice brunette and we went back to her room. She was new and was very eager to do a good job. This was my first Daty experience. From there I was doing good.

So for me my first time was with a provider and from there 95% of my sexual Experiences have been with providers. This first time showed me that I could have the girl of my dreams even if for just a while. Being mostly with providers has made me confident and open minded about sex, probably why I’m so kinky.

Relationship after that were lack luster and sometimes sexless. So it is no wonder that my first had a big impact and sex with providers was my safe place.

How did your first time shape the sexual person you are now, guys and gals.

IB

My first time was a freshman in college with a sophomore gal from a class we had together. Went to her apartment, she was moving out as semester finals were that week.

It was a Thursday evening we had a quick bite to eat and then jumped all over each other. Did it mish on the carpet twice. Had carpet burns on my knees (true story). Now I wear kneepads everywhere I go - lol!

Now I’m shaped like a barrel chested old fat ass man who loves to DFK women and pleasure them in every way possible. But alas many times it begins with a sensual massage and tickling of each other’s e-rog-a-nus zones (Rog must have been a great lover). The knees are still strong and ready for a roll on the carpet anytime.

In the immortal words of Toby Keith:
And if you're up for a rodeo
I'll put a big Texas smile on your face"
I said "Girls..."
I ain't as good as I once was
I got a few years on me now
But there was a time, back in my prime
When I could really lay it down
If you need some love tonight
Then I might have just enough
I ain't as good as I once was, but I'm as good once
As I ever was

a couple amp gals have gotten me twice but they were very persistent and tickled me Elmo and not Uranus, but mine!

My 1st time was a disaster. I was in High School and she was a year younger than me. She wasn't will to give up the cookie, and night heading back to her parents house after meeting a group of friends She decided tonight was the night she would give me a bj.
I was so shocked I missed a curve and drove three a barbed wire fence, which scratched the heck out of the car. Worst BJ I ever had, but every time someone asked me what happened to the car. I had a great story to tell.

I'm assuming the blowjob was as scratchy as the barbed wire fence. LOL

i was aHS freshmam....she was twice my age...and she had a foot fetish...went on for several months....i still love mid 30s ladies(good bityoungerthan me mow)....and i deffhave a foot fetish lol

Can't remember that far back.

Growing up a group of us would have this “night club” when the sun just started down and we got to stay out a little later. We’d play you show me yours and I show you mine among other games involving something naked. Never had full sex with the girls then but we had porno magazines stolen from friends dads and we would look at them with the girls and they would mimic the poses and giggle for us. When I was older just turned 15 at my first job pushing grocery carts back in the store, I saw a girl my age and we started talking. I picked her up later that evening and in almost no time we were parked with her panties to the side as she was riding me. I kept fucking her all that summer and we had some hot crazy sex, she taught me so much about fucking. Hot summer nights! It turned out she was a bit crazy and messed in the head as she kept telling me she felt bad because she was using me to get pregnant. I didn’t find out all the story but she had moved to her grandparents right before we met and I think she had been molested by an uncle or father or someone for a long time. I didn’t know at the time but she would show me how her insides felt different than the other girls. I only knew hers to compare to. She would tell me she never felt anybody ever loved her and that a baby would have to love her. According to her she was told she would never be able to get pregnant due to her vagina being how it was. I could tell she wanted to be a mom, I don’t agree that early, but she was struggling a lot. I just tried to be there for her but it seemed like so many other girls I’ve learned since the more I try to chase them to help them the further and faster they run away. She just left that summer after school started, never heard from her since.

Mid 60’s. Europe. Came into puberty earlier than most. Coming of age but still young enough to require a baby sitter in place of my absentee parents. High school girl. Caught her blowing her older, soldier, BF on the couch one night. Had no clue what I was doing but he was obviously enjoying it so, being the little shit I was, extorted one from her. She must’ve really enjoyed giving them because it continued every time she babysat. Eventually her family rotated stateside but it set the tone for the rest of my life. When I married it was to an Italian who was multi orgasmic in 5 minutes of fucking and then preferred to blow me to sleep, wake me up 3am with another, and then send me off to work with one. Still the best bj I’ve ever had.

First experience doesn't really count because it was extremely
lackluster dull.

First adult sexual experience and relationship was way more
memorable.

I ended up becoming a FBSM and great at massage in general
because of him. He would give me amazing, full body massage
from head to toe after I would fall asleep in bed next to him.

In the early 70s, I was in hs and she was 20 something- a friend of a friends sister. I was/am a complete dork when it comes to talking to women. I must have been exactly what she was looking for because she deftly guided me through flirting, weed, and ultimately my first sexual experience. I told her it was my first time and she wasn’t surprised at all. She got me off the first time in matter of minutes. Before I could apologize for being so quick on the draw she… we got that out of the way, now let’s have some real fun and we did. I was an eager student and she was a patient teacher..A number of ladies who have enjoyed my oral skills have her to thank. How it shaped me was that I learned from day one that sex was a journey not a destination and that if your partner is digging it, the more fun you have.

One of my first experiences out side of straight sex was when I met an older lady on CL that was a Domie and enjoyed pegging men. I have never done anything like this before. We met for drinks and talked a bit about the experience I was about to have and if I was sure I wanted it, I said yes. So we headed back to my place and she washed me out with the red bottle in the shower. That was hot. She then had me stand bent over holding my ankles in the living room . She grabbed my balls and started to give them a hard massage squeezing and and crushing them with her fingers. She told me that I could not move. She did this as I quivered. It was a new felling for me and I liked it. I could see a thick stream of clear liquid oozing from my cock. This was my entry to BDSM. She then put a bunch of wood clothes pins on my balls and cock.

After she had them all on she pulled them off one at a time. I gues this sparked my desire for CBT. Next she had me bend over as she fucked me. I was tight and never fucked before. It felt good even though it hurt. She flogged me and then sat back and had me eat her out to the O. She had me sit on her cock as I bounced up and down. Next she put on a thicker one, probably 8” she started fucking me as I was on all fours. It hurt and she made me take it holding me down. She pushed me down flat on the floor and turned me on my side holding me tight agents her body talking in my ear say that I was her bitch. It hurt and I was moaning loudly as she covered my mouth and hitting my ass as hard as she could. Stopping only to comfort me then back at it as she moved me back on all fours as she fucked me hard and deep holding me down telling me to take it. She told me I could not cum and next time she would make me eat my cum.

The next day I was sore and really turned on. This flipped the switch to kink for me.

IB

Like many, I was a total dork, had few dates 2nd base was as good as it got. I was focused on my school and during my MS degree it kept building til I couldn’t handle it! Mid 90s in El Paso so I look to the back of the sports page found couple places that did private dances. I went on a Sunday pm and met Lace. I told her my dilemma, she was a hot brunette. Very kind. She sat in my face and gave me pointers, that led to a bbbj where I felt things I never had! I blew in her mouth. They gave you a table shower after which she jerked me off. Came 2 times within 20 minutes to be mid 20 again! Next month I went back, for several months it got more and more intense we ended up bbfs mutiple times. It was easy and convenient. Moved once I graduated and almost every civilian I hooked up with lacked in many ways compared to my first. I ended up marrying a girl who was pretty much a whore she fucked anything had multiple partners etc, the closest thing to a pro I could find. After 2nd kid sex drive dried up in her, so I revert back to what I know best. Seemed like most civilians don’t have the skill of pros, even som of the seeking ones I found. So my first skewed my expectations

I grew up in a poor southern Baptist household w 8 kids and a trip to church every time doors were ooened..

Butttt I was a natural born sex fiend lol

I was the fal who got caught on the hayride at church camp wit my hands diwn a boys pants!

My first actual sex act time was thanksgiving day in a cemetary called Pilgrims Rest..in small town of Bellville tx..in front seat of my mom station wagon...with the guy who has been my hubby for 40 years now!!! we still celebrate every thanksgiving!!!

I grew up in a poor southern Baptist household w 8 kids and a trip to church every time doors were ooened..

Butttt I was a natural born sex fiend lol

I was the fal who got caught on the hayride at church camp wit my hands diwn a boys pants!

My first actual sex act time was thanksgiving day in a cemetary called Pilgrims Rest..in small town of Bellville tx..in front seat of my mom station wagon...with the guy who has been my hubby for 40 years now!!! we still celebrate every thanksgiving!!! Originally Posted by DallasRain

Awesome story!

Good question. Well my first experience was to say the least, not a very enjoyable one. The 2nd and 3rd made up for it.

I was 26 when I hooked up with this really cute, sexy older, bbw from work. A group of us used to go out for drinks after work. Finally, one evening, we where the last ones still there. As we where leaving I walked her out to her car. I went to give her hug. The next thing I knew I was pinned down on the hood of her car and she had her tongue in my mouth.

When she finally let me come up for air. She said. "You have no idea just how fucking wet you make me. Playing hard to get." We set up a date night. I got a hotel room and we spent the night together.

My 3rd experience was again, with a very sexy, lovely, older lady. 10 years older than myself. It started "innocently enough". One thing lead to another and we are still together to this day. She's the one that really "opened" me up, helped me, and encouraged me to explore my own sexuality. She and I have done all sorts of really hot, crazy, sexy things. (Including a trip to Amsterdam) But not quite everything as there are things we are not interested in trying.