No Secrete, but what is a providers thought on the subject!

For whatever reasons it happens to most of us (men), we get embarrased, nervous, tired, stressed, or we get to that AGE that we...... "can't finish, come, eject", or whatever you may call it. What is a providers thoughts or feedback on this subject matter.

It happens to alot of men for various reason. Alot of the time when I get some one is because they are nervous.

I think it is much more common than a lot of guys will admit. I know that my nerves does it to me. There's nothing wrong with my hardware, but the software upstairs sure does get in the way. I don't have a problem with someone outside of the Hobby, but I have a very hard time finishing when I'm with a provider. I think it's the excitement/rush that I get with a provider that I usually don't feel with an independent lady that does it to me. Usually relaxing/not over-thinking helps me out. Also, having a few drinks can relax me quite a bit. But too much can make it hard to get it up at all! LOL

Unfortunately there's no magic button to fix it in the moment. If the gent still had a good time and I know I did my very best, them it doesn't bother me. If he gets frustrated with himself & shuts down then the appt ends on a sour note for me. The worst is when they spend 40 mins saying "I'm almost there, I'm almost there" or are completely silent with no feedback on how to "get him there". Also, sometimes taking a short break or switching to gentle caresses can get things back on track.

I agree with atx. If i know he had a good time and i gave it my all. I understand. But if I don't get any feed back I feel like i failed the guy. Which will only make ne try harder the next time... I like challenges

It happens to me from time to time. When it does, I usually still have a good time with the person I'm with whether it's good conversation, dirty talk/erotic stories, porn, making out or just spending the rest of the time in daty. Also, chemistry seems to play a big part in me finishing.

It does happen to me occasionally, and I make sure my partner knows it is not her that is the issue. Sometimes I just don't get to finish, but that does not mean I didn't enjoy myself!

You do have to give your date some feedback, let her know what works, take a break, etc. It happens for many reasons, and the big one for me is dehydration.

Sometimes a lady will have to settle for extra DATY time!

I has happened to me --- Usually happens when I have had an extremely busy couple of weeks -- Im USUALLY always good for some head but its when the rubber goes on that it dosent work to well when I am having issue -- there has been a couple of times where it just waved the white flag, I know its not the womans fault and always let them know

Everyone knows there are a lot of medications that can cause ED. There are also a number that can cause inability to ejaculate or retrograde ejaculation (cum in bladder). Google your meds to read about possible side effects.

It's a part of life!
There's MORE to intimacy than just intercourse/BJ/HJ. So if your body simply won't allow for your cock to stiffen or express itself. Then learn to enjoy/pleasure & be pleasured by/ with your partner in other ways. And your sure to have an enjoyable time.

Focusing on the function of your cock will ruin the moments you spend with a woman. As a woman (not girl) has a bit more understanding of said natural things that happen to ones body.

For whatever reasons it happens to most of us (men), we get embarrased, nervous, tired, stressed, or we get to that AGE that we...... "can't finish, come, eject", or whatever you may call it. What is a providers thoughts or feedback on this subject matter. Originally Posted by tmaxgarcia

I dont think theres anything "wrong" with not being able to finish.
sometimes, its all about the chemistry.between the two & having patience

I have a few secrets I've picked up being on set. but I'm not telling! lol

Heck, I've had it happen multiple times, with different ladies. I'll include it in my reviews when it does happen. Sometimes the ladies think it's them but for some unknown reason I'll loose a good stiffy. That doesn't deter me from enjoying myself and going for more DATY or letting the lady work me over trying to revive the lil guy. I don't always have to get my nut to enjoy myself, especially with a great lady! And you ladies know who you are! ;-)

Well said Ms PK! I like the Chemistry and having patience.

tmaxgarcia, are you talking about being able to perform but just not being able to cum, or are you talking about loosing the ability to perform during the session and not being able to cum?

Darling, it's all about the ride!

Everything from your communication to the ambiance of your date is supposed to set your mind at ease.

Sometimes our minds and bodies are in conflict. Our mind loves the short time frame of calling someone, and meeting within hours, and with some this produces the desired effect and it makes quick rendezvous better. Mutual unsurety doesn't help with making the mental relaxation that you may need.

I would also recommend focusing less on the end, and more on the means. Enjoy everything that's happening to you instead of how close you are to finishing.