Question for the guys: Can you tell?

I often wonder if my secret life as a provider is apparent to strangers. There is nothing about the way I look that indicates what I do; but sometimes I feel like there's a flashing neon sign above my head that reads, "HOOKER!" Many of you guys have been P4P for a while, and even have close friends who are providers. Since you know their escort and real life persona, do you think you can spot an "off-duty" working gal better than civilians?

If so, what are the signs? For me, I frequently go out, and even vacation, all on my own. Most girls roll in packs, but if I want to go someplace and no one else does, that does not stop me! So until I get my first drink in me, I'm pretty uneasy about the looks I recieve. I know I'm a young, pretty, single girl and those qualities are always noticeable... but I feel like everyone in the restuarant saw my ad on eccie and knows why I am really in town!

Am I paranoid? Or can you really tell?

your just a tad paranoid, you know what you do so that's how you wrap your head around things. From our perspective your a independent woman on your own so that intimidates some men. My advice? Keep doing what your doing, try not to dwell on your day-job and go pounce some lucky bastard... I hope it's me.

Not the truely professional females... like the ones we encounter here.

BUT, females on BP? Thats a completely different story. I have been out and about many times here in Austin and other places and have spotted females who have posted on BP. Dumb luck?? Who knows..And these sightings arent at strip clubs either.

I believe there is a certain "eye" that one can possess, but some are painfully obvious.

On a side note: I plan to go "hooker" watching today at UT.

I'm like you. The rare occasion that I feel like going someplace on a Fri evening, I call 2 ppl max. And if they are not up for it, I do my thing and don't think twice about being someplace alone on a Fri or Sat night. That's not to say that the thought does not cross my mind every once in a while "Do I look like a lonely loser or divorcée or whatever, sitting at the bar by myself ?".

As you said, girls go out in flocks (generally speaking). Since I don't like crowds, 6th St or thereabouts is not where I am likely to be seen. It's more probable that I'll be spotted at low key places where I can have a drink or two and untie my shoe laces. And that's when I like to do the ppl watching thing and play the "guess their life" game.

DISCLAIMER: I am not judging anyone for not being privileged or poor, but I'm going to use a proverbial term that my seem offensive. Rest assured I it's only meant as a proverbial term, and not intended to say all persons who are not financially well off are unworthy. In fact, in my humble opinion, the people who were not born with a silver spoon, yet overcame have the edge. They are generally less opinionated, more thoughtful, more willing to others' points of views, etc, etc. That tends to make them wiser, kinder and gentler than the average Joe/Debbie.

I don't do well when exposed to the ever-so-prevalent American "it's not my fault" or "I'm the victim" attitude. Get a few drinks in me, and give me an arrogant or a victim asshole, I'm liable to turn into one myself and tear them new one - just so they get an intimate exposure to my version of "reality check".

Rambling... sorry. Back on topic.

As I was saying...

Sometimes, I do see the occasional attractive female by herself or even in packs of 2/3. If I'm not talking to someone interesting, I may or may not be inclined to play the "guess your life" game. It can be a lot of fun (for me & not them; LOL) to watch, then maybe go talk to them, and build up the database of info - and them BAM ! Here comes the judge, jury and executioner !!! LOL.

The signs are all about how you carry yourself. It does not matter what you are wearing, how well you are manicured, or how many big words you have in your vocabulary. You just can't hide trailer trash.

So to me, the original question really becomes "Are all hookers trailer trash ?" (or perhaps you were not speaking generally, but asking those who have met you "Do I look like trailer trash ?").

ALL, ALWAYS, NEVER, are all-inclusive words that I try to drive them out of my thinking process - at least as much as is humanly possible by an average Joe such as myself.

I'm all-in. Who's folding, who's calling and who's raising ?

You are a stunningly beautiful young lady who dresses up-scale but not trashy. So guys are going to look and fantasize. Just flash them a smile and make their day. No need to worry about what they are thinking.

KLK you certainly have no reason to be paranoid at all. Let me use our own experiences together to illustrate. When I first saw you I was still blindly plodding my way through my new hobby and was knee-deep in the hit-or-miss BP (and Craigslist) wasteland. It was really dumb luck on my part that I stumbled upon your ad in Cityvibe and that our schedules worked out. When I arrived at your incall in Tyson's Corner you were so immaculate and well-dressed that I thought there had to be a catch. The "catch" was me learning that there are fantastically gorgeous women like you who have a very sexy, secret persona. If I had seen you out in town that day I would have been looking, fantasizing, and thinking to myself, "why can't a girl like that be the one who I'm answering the ad for?" Now I know better.

When I saw you about three weeks ago in Austin I was armed with much more experience in the hobby. I'd also learned the ropes of the better resources (ECCIE, P411, etc). As such, my BP days are very few and far between. Even so, when you arrived at my hotel you were even better in appearance than I remembered. Any man who saw you that evening had to have been hoping he would see you out on the town that night. If I didn't know already I would never suspect - and that's true for you and a lot of other amazing ladies I've met pursuing this hobby. As for you KLK? I'd be seen with you anywhere, anytime, any place and would be the envy of all.

Now after all this I'm worked up thinking of you. Can you figure out a way to visit me in Iraq? Perhaps on my private USO tour?

I feel that way too, sometimes. Actually a lot! Especially when it comes to married civilian women. Its like they can smell us coming! I roll solo a lot too. I think a certain amount of paranoia comes along with living a double life. Maybe it's a twinge of guilt, or not being able to be to be accepted for what we do?

Holy shit! This is a great topic. I will collect my thoughts about this and report back later.

The answer is YES.

No one can tell; you are being paranoid

So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell,
blue skies from pain.
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?

The secret is to be completely at ease with yourself

Interesting question. My own feelings... Beauty and perception are in the eye of the beholder. And it depends on setting.

Whenever I'm at ABI and I see a really hot girl in her 20s or early 30s traveling alone, carrying herself with lots of confidence and keeping to herself, whose make up and hair are perfect and clothes are sexy (not trashy) and expensive, and obviously isn't a business traveler (no laptop case, not wearing "business attire") I automatically wonder if she's an escort and how much an hour she might be.

That's because I'm a hobbyist. This happened just yesterday at the airport.

Guys I'm with mostly stare and nudge me to look at the smoking hot piece of ass walking by. I doubt the thought process goes much farther than "holy shit look at that I'd love to fuck her oh my god there she goes look at that ass wow okay she's gone I wonder if my plane is here yet".

I ran into a girl from the board at the airport a while back. She was dressed casually - t shirt, sandals and shorts I think - not dressed to impress. She made chit-chat conversation with people around her. Our eyes met and we both turned the other way. I doubt anybody would think HOOKER!!!

Now if I was at a resort/beach/restaurant and saw a super hottie such as yourself alone I'd just assume it was because you wanted to be alone. Getting over a breakup so took a trip by yourself. Husband upstairs in the room hungover or out playing golf. That sort of thing. If you checked in to the Motel 6 and jumped up from the skank pool every time your phone rang so you could buy condoms at the 7-11 next door I might think differently...

So to answer your question no I don't think anybody would ever look at you and think you must be a hooker. I think they'd look at you and hope you were a hooker.

A girl does not have to look trashy or dress trashy. I can always tell when I see a girl if she will accept an offer of money for sex. First, I introduce myself and begin talking to her. If I think she will accept 20 or 30 bucks for a quickie, I ask "so..... are you looking to.... make some easy money?" and no, I have never been slapped, because I can always tell.

I think guys that are hobbyist can tell but non hobbyist probably have no clue. It not how their dress or anything special. For me it just from memory, I have seen your face numerous times from pics. It wil just pop in my head, oh thats what her name. But that is only for local providers who ad I have seen.

A girl does not have to look trashy or dress trashy. I can always tell when I see a girl if she will accept an offer of money for sex. First, I introduce myself and begin talking to her. If I think she will accept 20 or 30 bucks for a quickie, I ask "so..... are you looking to.... make some easy money?" and no, I have never been slapped, because I can always tell. Originally Posted by D Fens

lol. Humpty, that banning was fast.

lol. Humpty, that banning was fast. Originally Posted by NewWave

Oh that was the infamous Humpty. Why does he get banned so fast? I didn't see anything wrong with what he posted, I think it's kinda funny.

Sorry KLK, you asked the guys! Its such a good topic that I wanted to chime in.