Another etiquette question

Recently I tried to set up a date with a well known provider and basically I asked about services and she stopped responding. At that point I reached out to another provider and after similar questions about services she also stopped responding. These were both higher end, independent dates. My question is - these dates require a substantial financial investment and I'm looking for certain services in return. Nothing crazy, or out of the ordinary. I've gone on dates in the past without verifying and was disappointed. So, what am I doing wrong here? I'm being polite, and trying not to be crude, but I want what I want...

You should never discuss specific services or sexual acts with a whom you have not yet met. It is a red flag that could indicate you are LE.

Remember even paying for a HJ is an act of participating in prostitution.
So smart providers will stop responding.

You should never discuss specific services or sexual acts with a whom you have not yet met. It is a red flag that could indicate you are LE.

Remember even paying for a HJ is an act of participating in prostitution.
So smart providers will stop responding.

Originally Posted by myren1900

Along the same line, I don't need or want any provider to ask me how long I want to stay and then tell me what the rate or donation will be. I either already know from something you posted or have a pretty good idea from reviews. I haven't seen a higher rate person yet who doesn't post the rate.

I get that, but what? Discuss activities upon meeting? And if I'm not happy, waste everyone's time? Is there a "code" or anything?

This is not like ordering a la carte at a restaurant.
If an escort has an ad or website that mentions services, go with that. Otherwise try to use reviews. YMMV. If several of her reviews mention cbj and only a few bbbj, count on just getting a cbj.
You will know even less at AMPs. Imagine calling the AMP and ask if they provide FS or BJs! You know the answer will be “no” even if it’s available. In fact, several years ago I looked at the reviews of an AMP (since closed) and every reviewer stated that only HJ was available. Yet, every time I went there I got FS. Sometimes you get lucky.

The best thing to do is to get comfortable with the provider. Talk to her a little first and then tell her you want to ask about services and ask how would she be comfortable talking about that. I see your point, you want to know before meeting, and I understand. I also see their point of view as well.

You have to go off reviews or what she lists on her website for services. If you want something specific that isn't in a review or listed on her website your only bet is to meet up, build a trusting relationship, and ask if she can do it next meeting. If she refuses then its simple, don't see her again and try someone else who is willing.

Providers open up alot more after you go to see them

Providers open up alot more after you go to see them Originally Posted by Ballistixz

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Was this before or after they screened you? Some providers will not discuss anything at all, period, others are more open to discreet discussions after you check out.

I don't leave anything to guess on services, but most providers prefer not to list that at all. Since I don't see many people, I try and let guys know exactly what I provide, because older reviews are no longer accurate.

It was after screening.

I guess in the future I'll just have to take a leap of faith.

Or you could find a provider that tells you what you’ll get so you aren’t disappointed. Don’t get hung up on some desired provider and possibly waste your money.

It was after screening.

I guess in the future I'll just have to take a leap of faith. Originally Posted by 2418hemi

I don't think I would have had a problem with that, but many do. It's just one of those things. Not all people are the same. I've had guys flat out ask stupid crap that was already answered and they were very very explicit, so that was a bit irritating, especially since they texted out of the blue, but I don't have an issue spelling things out if I know the guy is ok.