A penetrating question?

Next week I will be having my first experience with a well respected provider. I am very sexually inexperienced. Four, yes (4) experiences in my whole life. Two with providers one with women BFF's. Two weeks ago a BP prvider and I were together and noticed I was not really erect enough for penetration (CG style). But non-penetrative function was ok. I really only go to about 75%-80% which seems fine for non-pen. activities. But meeting with a great privider and never really having this kind of experience in 20 years I want it to go well.

I saw a Physician Assitant and she gave me 20mg of Cialis. I have tried it twice on some practice runs and it increased things to 95% and with straining and flexing to 100%. But the pill makes me feel like I have the flu.

The question to both guys and providers is {what is your experience and providers waht have you seen? }

So the question is can a male perform with a stiffness of 80%-95%?

I really need input, because the nerves will probably make things worse.

Also to take the pill or not?

Please help

I know from experience that a guy can cum w/out a full erection.
I know from experience that a guy can do fs w/out being fully hard.
I know from experience that Cialis and Viagra both can make a man NOT be able to cum.
Those are my experiences, but I have no real advice to give. It will all have to be up to you (and possibly the provider) whether or not to take the pill.
Good luck!
Misty

A "well respected provider" has the skill to handle that sort of activity. Just talk to her, put yourself in her hands, relax and have fun.

A "well respected provider" has the skill to handle that sort of activity. Just talk to her, put yourself in her hands, relax and have fun. Originally Posted by thumpusa

This......

Yep, what Thump said

When I was married my wife worked as a Pharm Tech. Somehow she was able to obtain a sample pack of Viagra. She gave it to me mostly as a joke really. I experienced a similar reaction as you did. I felt flushed and pressure around my temples and my eyes felt a little itchy and watery. You may experience a high degree of anxiety when seeing a provider. The experience at first maybe a bit different than someone you are involved with and have true feelings for. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra all these drugs may raise your anxiety level. If you must take something take a low dosage maybe even cut the pill in half. Don't drink any alcohol either. Its really hard to advise people on this subject, but just try to keep cool and act like you've known her for a long time. If you appear relaxed she will too. If you appear overly nervous she may also. Hope it all goes well for ya.

Buzz I understand your nervousness but sounds like your over thinking things, just go have a great time, she will take good care of you I'm sure
Have fun sweetie

Thanks folks for the info and encouragement. She has in the numerous emails been kind and giving with her time regarding the emails setting up the date and has encouraged me to talk about myself. If I only had friends like this. She has been really nice to me.

It is funny, I spent 12k -14k self-pay, out of pocket for counseling by a female counselor years ago and she was never happy about returning a phone call, sessions always ended at ten minutes till, if not earlier, and never once a reassuring word in 5 years of seeing her. I should have considered this "hobby" and eccie instead of counseling.
Thanks again!

Its all in your head. You have to get to a comfort level with a lady, and once that happens your issues will disappear. Once you pick the right lady for you, that will happen quickly. Nerves will get the best of you every time.

Its all in your head. You have to get to a comfort level with a lady, and once that happens your issues will disappear. Once you pick the right lady for you, that will happen quickly. Nerves will get the best of you every time. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

Worrying will only make it worse. Establishing a comfort level with a lady will do wonders for your performance.

Thanks folks for the info and encouragement. She has in the numerous emails been kind and giving with her time regarding the emails setting up the date and has encouraged me to talk about myself. If I only had friends like this. She has been really nice to me.

It is funny, I spent 12k -14k self-pay, out of pocket for counseling by a female counselor years ago and she was never happy about returning a phone call, sessions always ended at ten minutes till, if not earlier, and never once a reassuring word in 5 years of seeing her. I should have considered this "hobby" and eccie instead of counseling.
Thanks again! Originally Posted by buzzworm86

Guess that is what they mean about getting more bang for your buck LOL

Buzz, put yourself in the hands of the lady you have chosen ; obviously you have done your research, so relax and let nature take its course.

There is no one there to impress; be yourself and have a great time...

And a note about our "providers" on this board....

The ladies get beat up on the board, misalighned, juggle appointments, incall problems, outcall problems, late arriving dates, no shows, etc....

And they are still here to listen to us when we need an ear...

When we need the stuffings hugged out of us....

A calming touch when you are about as nervous as a schoolgirl on prom night....

Let your Lady guide you; have fun, and hug the stuffings out of her afterwards....

yes and can get off with less

I've taken Cialis several times when I knew I was getting a wild ride, or was on a long weekend or vacation with the wife and my services would be in high demand. I had some side effects, too - muscle soreness and stiff back in the middle of the night or next morning - and this is my advice: take the pill a few hours ahead of time so you are not even thinking about it and let the provider take over to get things started. Believe me, if you've taken Cialis and you are the least bit relaxed, you are going to be like a marble statue for as long as you need, as many times as you want. I have found that if I take the 20 mg dose each day I stay rock hard even after a marathon session and huge climax. You may want to split the pill or take the 10 mg dose. Get up in the night or early in the AM to stretch a little and get rid of the soreness. And then get back on it. That stuff is AMAZING.

Sounds like you have a good start already, but if things dont workout with this lady remember there is more lovely ladies out there. Don't forget you are paying for her time in other words dont think you will get a call in the morning. Good luck and have fun.