Starting to worry about myself-- :)

Cpalmson's Avatar
Maybe I've been reading way too much in this forum, but I'm starting to get a little worried about myself. I'm now beginning to contemplate experiences I never would in the past. Just recently, I've become somewhat curious about Strap-on play where a lady uses it on me. In the past, I viewed Strap-ons only as a toy to be used in a three-some and then only when one lady started fucking the other lady. I never envisioned just a one on one session where the lady would use it on me. It was one of my taboos. Now, I'm curious. The second off-limits activity is the golden shower. Now, it too is something that I find curious. I'd probably be less inclined to do the golden shower thing, but still I'd like to find out more about it. Just how does it work? Does it go both ways-- i.e. girl peeing on guy or guy peeing on girl? Does the receiver have to take it in the mouth, or is it just okay to get "soaked"? How do you deal with the mess? Is it done literally in a shower/tub? Is it done on tile in order to make for a quick clean up? Any replies and/or thoughts would be appreciated.
I too have found that my horizons have expanded since becoming active in the hobby. WhileI am not in the least bit curious about the same things you are, the advise Iwould offer is,.... do your research, If you find yourself in a place that you just can't go on in quenching your curiousity, stop, exit the situation and learn from it. If you are in a safe place and change your mind, all it will cost you as money. I believe that it is better to look back on an experiance and see it as a misteak than to wonder what it would have been like,,,jmho.
The Slut's Avatar
Totally agree with the thought and totally believe "Nothing ventured nothing gained" you only live once and life is not a practice round.
Have toys, will be gentle........ At first anyway! Just kidding!
It takes trust, for both parties. I'm not known for doing Realm type activities, but that I much I do know. Trust and communication.
I have pleasured a few gentlemen with my toys, and I am always careful and ask 'does that feel alright', because I'm somewhat new at that kind of activity. I would make a really bad domme....
cumalot's Avatar
For me entering the realm and the world of kink, there is no turning back. I would suggest reading the many reviews on the providers that specialize in the kinkier sextivities and see how those were played out in session. It opens up a lot of ideas and possibilities that only you and the provider share. Finding a provider that you can trust is in the many reviews of that particular provider. I would start with reading the reviews and put a bucket list together. We are only here for a short time so enjoy it before its too late.
If u can talk yourself into them u may thoroughly enjoy both. There is nothing wrong with experimentation and how would you truly know if u like something until you try it? I am not saying to try everything but if it something peaks your curiosity, then go for it and then u will truly know! Don't know much about golden showers except for a couple instances but if u do your research and find the right lady to show u how a strap on can really feel then u my friend will know why so many love it!
OP, stop worrying and just give it a try. If you don't like it...well, you tried it, and you know what your limits are. BUT if you *do* like it... ;-)

As for GS, usually in a tub, tile floor, or on a bed where a plastic sheet has been put down underneath. You can swallow if you want, or just have it directed towards a certain part if the body (face, stomach, cock, etc.).

Hope this helps, and have fun experimenting!
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  • 03-02-2013, 07:08 AM
For me entering the realm and the world of kink, there is no turning back. I would suggest reading the many reviews on the providers that specialize in the kinkier sextivities and see how those were played out in session. It opens up a lot of ideas and possibilities that only you and the provider share. Finding a provider that you can trust is in the many reviews of that particular provider. I would start with reading the reviews and put a bucket list together. We are only here for a short time so enjoy it before its too late. Originally Posted by cumalot

Totally agree.

Once I started experimenting a little, I found that I've become less and less interested in what might be considered a normal session, but the problem is its difficult to find truly qualified providers. I've about given up on ISOs. There are lots of providers that list services and claim they have experience, but are real amateurs. Good ones know its as much mental as it is physical. And the rarest gem? Someone who is skilled at kink and is also super hot. I've only found one in the last 10 or 12 years. (Might be because I can't get to Arlington or FTW. All the hot experts seem to be west of Dallas). JMO
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
Years ago, I would have NEVER allowed, or even contemplated doing, a lot of what I do regularly now.

It has less to do with "this" than it being an age thing. I want to try anything that I can, within my boundaries (which I do have several), before I get to an age that I cannot or just don't have the opportunity.

And this is what I'm finding out with my client base, which is getting younger and younger everyday! (Even the younger guys are wanting to try something, or someone, different!)

People are learning that sexuality is a real fluid thing which includes the ACCEPTANCE of trying new things.

This is why I LOVE this forum so much. By participating, everyone is actually helping others discover that they're alternative thoughts, and sometimes desires, are actually very normal.

And with golden showers, like anything else, it doesn't have to be one way. You might try it with one lady and not care for it. You might try it with someone else, and love it.

Same with other activities. There are plenty of topics here about strap on play (pegging was one of the topics, I believe) and golden showers.

I'm so glad that you started this topic! Once again, I'm seeing people just write about the things that they might wish to try and it just makes me smile!

Always,
Elisabeth
DallasRain's Avatar
OP, stop worrying and just give it a try. If you don't like it...well, you tried it, and you know what your limits are. BUT if you *do* like it... ;-)

As for GS, usually in a tub, tile floor, or on a bed where a plastic sheet has been put down underneath. You can swallow if you want, or just have it directed towards a certain part if the body (face, stomach, cock, etc.).

Hope this helps, and have fun experimenting! Originally Posted by 7071949597

great points! I always say that the HOTTEST aphrodisiac is an "open mind"!

{if ya like it do it...if ya dont,let somebody else do it}


maybe when i get back youir way baby...we can do some "experimenting" {wink/wink}
Ms. Athena's Avatar
Life is to short not to have fun............Why go through life with "What IF?" Cum on over to the kinky side and free your mind as your body will follow...........
I think you should give into your curiosity and find your limits. Strap on play is great with an experienced person behind it. Like someone else stated foreplay of your mind is the best way to start any kinky play. Best of Luck....
I'm with you C. I have a bit of a dominant side so GS's will have to be give and take if it ever happens. I haven't had a strap on used on me but I have have prostate massages with toys and fingers and it can feel GREAT when done right. I've only cum once from that in about five or six tries.

I say go for it. Hell, we have similar taste so if you find a lady is capable let me know and I'll do the same for you.
Just do it!!
levi tab's Avatar
My first golden shower went like this...

I had set up an appointment to see an out of town Provider after work and we were texting as we were both heading to the incall when...

excerpt from a review of mine:

At one point she let me know that she had pee really bad and if I was into that...I've always wanted to try that, so I let her know I was game for it. Her response was to hurry otherwise I just might not get it. I got to the place a minute or two before she did. I could tell it was her by the way she was doing the "Oh Gawd I Gotta Pee Dance" while she was getting her luggage. She checked in and I got a text with a room number and "HURRY". I jump out and head in, while in the elevator, I start to think about how it will go down and I start shedding my jewelry and wondering what else I can take off before I hit the room. The door is a ajar and I walk in and lock the room, she has a blouse on and panties and is hopping around putting away stuff and I start to loose my clothes. I'm naked and get in the tub and she comes in. Takes off her panties and we look at each other like how do we do this...She holds onto the curtain rail and stand on the bath tub as I'm staring at her pussy and lets loose...she pees on me...I slid around and get it on my chest, I'm looking up at her and her eyes are wide open and staring back at me. She pees on me for a good long while and when the stream slowed down it started falling directly on my cock. Oh the warmth was wonderful! The shower ends, I have her hand me my soap and I freshen up. Once I'm done and dried up I walk out and introduce myself...Hi I'm Levi