It’s a real problem that’s growing and it’s absolutely heartbreaking. I lost an extended family member to this several years ago as well as several friends that I knew back in college. One of them was a veteran. Such a waste. Thanks for posting.
Originally Posted by austin88998833
My first experience with suicide was my uncle when I was about 16 years old. He was rowdier, a veteran, introduced me to Kid Rock and Metallica, a child of an alcoholic and physically abused child, and unfortunately suffered a car accident that resulted in life-long chronic pain. It affected his daily functioning for sure, he often felt a burden to my aunt and cousin, relied/dependent on pain medication, and yet there was no relief physically for the pain he was in. He barricaded himself in the garage with a gun after overdosing on a substantial amount of medication. It was a hour standdown with the police who would not enter the garage without knowing the extent of weapons, etc. he might have had. Ultimately, my uncle passed away before the police were able to enter the garage.
My aunt and my cousin managed, I guess you could say... I think as a family unit we all suffered because we missed something. We knew, but maybe ignored or minimized what was really going on or the extent of his crisis. I think that is a big part of why suicide remains, despite the increase in mental health resources and better tools for clinicians. The stigma around suicide and the fear of what happens when you talk about it. I will step down from my soapbox on involuntary commitments, but really, it is very rare for a clinician to involuntarily commit due to reports of suicidal thoughts. If that were the case, we would likely all be locked up a time or two. There really has to be so much more than that, in addition to court petitions, and a Judge ruling for further mental health observation. So, I say that to say that there is no shame in talking about suicide, that because you have suicidal thoughts does not mean you are actively suicidal with means/intent, or that you are mentally ill, or that you need hospitalization.
You are so right, it is a waste. We can do so so much better! I am so sorry for the losses you have experienced as well.