I am still kinda green in the hobby and would like more input on references please. I have made it a habit to ask if a provider I have seen is ok with me to mention them as a reference, usually through p.m. after session. Is this something that can be respected, or wasting time? I only mean it out of respect. Any imput welcomed, thanks everyone!
Originally Posted by Nmguy
I don't think it's a bad idea to ask to use them as a ref. It's kind of best you do that so you don't use her as a ref when trying to see another lady just to find out she's not willing to vouch for you at all. Unfortunately there are lady who love to receive refs but not give them. So actually might be better to find out before you meet them if they are not only friendly in taking refs but GIVING them back PROMPTLY.
I don't particularly see how asking a lady after you've seen her if she'd be willing to be a ref for you is time-wasting unless you're doing it a million times in a row (I had a guy ask me 5 times in 2 months which imo is kind of ref abuse).