Those deep dark fantasies

So I was reading the other realm in the national forum and the open discussions of various dark fantasies. I considered answering but hesitated.

This got me to thinking, a dangerous thing I know.

I hesitated and decided not to post for a layered set of reasons. I was nervous about tainting the image I have so carefully crafted for myself (classy and elegant) As well as uncomfortable peeking open the door and revealing my fantasies so publicly.

So curiously I ask...

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined?

Gentlemen have you found yourself holding back asking a provider to do something with you or for you because you are afraid she might reject the idea or fantasy?

Never hold back. Say what you want to say. Never worry about what others think. It's your life, live it. What's the worst that will happen....someone will think your loony and tell you so? Or you take a risk, ask and she is down and now you happy and wise!

Few things stop me from making a post. Usually it's because I try to live by the old saying "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all." However, sometimes I feel that a rude slap in the face is the best medicine - although I try to stay away from that and will hardly ever pull out that weapon with a stranger.

The other thing that will make me hesitate to post is when I don't know enough about something to put my thought out there. I guess that's because of all the school I've been through. I always shook my head when a fellow graduate student would make a post on our school discussion boards that was ignorant and unsupported by fact.

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined?

Depending on the topic, but I think you covered all the categories. Providers more so then hobbiests have an image or brand that they need to protect so they get the client base that they want. Therefore they need to be more careful with their posts.

I was always curious if there were hobbyists that had seen a TS, but would not post a review because they didn't want people on the board to know.

So I was reading the other realm in the national forum and the open discussions of various dark fantasies. I considered answering but hesitated.

This got me to thinking, a dangerous thing I know.

I hesitated and decided not to post for a layered set of reasons. I was nervous about tainting the image I have so carefully crafted for myself (classy and elegant) As well as uncomfortable peeking open the door and revealing my fantasies so publicly.

So curiously I ask...

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined?

Gentlemen have you found yourself holding back asking a provider to do something with you or for you because you are afraid she might reject the idea or fantasy? Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

Yes.

I don't usually bring up my dark fantasy as it would cost be quite a bit of money although I did mention it to a gal about 6 months ago who turns out had the same fantasy but the details were different so don't think it would work out....might be a good starting point though. I don't think I'll be able to find the right match so don't bother with it much though I might be a little more aggressive finding her if I had something other than an hour worth of funds. I would be way more inclined to tell a gal in the hobby than in real life...as it could/will easily scare them off.

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined?

Gentlemen have you found yourself holding back asking a provider to do something with you or for you because you are afraid she might reject the idea or fantasy? Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

I don't hold back posting things necessarily because of those reasons...I think for me it's mostly these things: the fear of being ridiculed or mocked, starting or contributing to any "drama", and feeling like I am not well versed enough to make an intelligent contribution to the discussion.

As far as asking a provider about fantasies, I think I do hold back...I don't really have a lot of deep, dark fantasies that I feel I haven't explored yet...but there are some I'd like to try someday possibly...I explored one with a provider that went well, but it wasn't too wild or anything

Hold back only a tiny bit since because my deepest dark fantasy I wouldn't indulge in via the hobby but with an s/o sure (and no don't ask me what it is).

I agree with the saying "If you don't have something nice to say it is better not to say anything". So since there are a lot of worthless subjects discussed I just do not comment
a majority of the time.
It never hurts to ask, if you don't ask you will never know.

So I was reading the other realm in the national forum and the open discussions of various dark fantasies. I considered answering but hesitated.

This got me to thinking, a dangerous thing I know.

I hesitated and decided not to post for a layered set of reasons. I was nervous about tainting the image I have so carefully crafted for myself (classy and elegant) As well as uncomfortable peeking open the door and revealing my fantasies so publicly.

So curiously I ask...

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined?

Gentlemen have you found yourself holding back asking a provider to do something with you or for you because you are afraid she might reject the idea or fantasy? Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

Yes.

Do you hold back posting because you fear rejection? loss of privacy? or your image being ruined? Originally Posted by JayceeRivers

I think it takes a great deal of comfort between any two people (provider/client or SO) to reveal and or indulge ones dark fantasies. If I have seen a provider multiple times and know they have a GGG attitude (good, giving and game) I'll bring up the conversation. If they feel good about it great! But I don't press the issue. Fantasies are best when you don't get to live them that often.

All that said, I have indulged my dark fantasies with providers in the past. And it actually brought us very close. Letting go of your internal restraint with anybody will do that.

I actually find it moderately easy to approach a fantasy in person. The darker the fantasy of course the less likely I will mention it. It is simply posting it in the forums openly that I become weary.

Thank you for the responses though at least I know I am not completely alone in this.

When you say dark and deep, do you mean like in a cave with no lights or something?

Just kidding, although I have always wanted to do it in a cave.
I do have such fantasies, and I've come close to acting on them but I am always afraid to do so. One fantasy in particular with a specific provider, but I can't even talk about it in a public forum for legal reasons. If you want to know Jaycee, you'll have to PM me.