I think a lot of it depends on the relationship (ATF or a one time meeting). I do not mind hearing "positive" things about the wife at all, but I agree with Holly that I don't particularly want to hear derogative or negative comments.
I believe that when negative/slanderous things are said it speaks volumes about the person saying those comments rather than about the person they are talking about. Just my opinion.
Originally Posted by ShelbySextonXXX
In the same vein,
I love hearing bad things about another person, because I get to learn about the person saying the bad things, much more than about the person who does the bad things.
Example:
"Steve(her husband) Is always just throws the used condom on the ground!"
You then can deduce things about steves wife from that statement. a lot having to be why she can't tell steve(or maybe she does) and her habbits
I see confusion in this thread,
A significant other talking badly about the person they fuck, or don't, is not the same as how a person treats a waiter or some other inconsequential person.
They are talking badly about a person who they spend a lot time/money on and likely get naked with. Why can they do all those things and not tell that person the truth and/or why do they put up with that person doing all those things?
My dad will say shit about my mom to me and not to her, mostly just to rant.,
as actions(like not tipping good service)
speak volumes and words are just words. My parents have been married 47 yrs and he fulfills her every desire, so is he bad for saying he gets tired of some things she does? nope.