That girl in the 2nd photo looks like Amber from that TV reality show "Teen Mom"(LOL)
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
I don't watch that show, so I have no idea what you mean, I stick to TV where I can
learn something, IE honeyboo, any show on MTV.....
--nah, just messin..
It was just some random pic...I think it might be her?
Why would people assume that all overweight or heavy or thick people are unhappy?
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
-I know tons of people who are Not thin/skinny, and they love their lives. They are happy people..
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
That's great, I am not commenting on people's happiness nor saying people need to be thin/skinny.Nor am I saying being fat means you'll be unhappy. Those are abstract concepts, I am speaking about science of disease(cancer/CVD) and what being fat does to your hormones. Also how society treats a person because they arent attractive.
Why would people assume that a person eats too much just because they are overweight, heavy or thick?
-Some people just have a naturally bigger frame. Some people have a thyroid that doesn't work properly, etc..etc. It wouldn't matter what kind of crazy diets and exercise programs they took part in... they would still be big. It's just who they are. Skinny people telling them they aren't good enough all the time is not the antidote. Sympathy, Kindness, Support and Respect go a hell of a lot further than someone who belittles others only based on their body size. .
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
-There are lots of reasons a person might be fat.
Diets almost
always work,**
It's proven people overestimate how much they move/calories burnt and underestimate how much they eat.
When you toss anyone into a lab and track in/output, they lose weight.
Yeah, even people with thyroid conditioning, which just means they burn fewer calories.
(I don't recall seeing fat kids in africa nor fat people in WW2 camps)
**2 medical conditions that might be relevant are total leptin resistance and Prader-Willi syndrome.
I agree with what you bolded, but so? I am not talking about changing people, I'm talking about how people are, not if people are right or wrong.
Am I wrong?
No, I am talking about how society is and how diseases work, not about morals.
It's humorous to me that back in the 18th century, if you were overweight it meant you were rich, high class and of the aristocracy. Now everyone seems so cruel, disrespectful and intolerant of others choices. .
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
Yes, times change, Wasnt that the time period when the average age was ~35yo and people have slaves?
yes it is.
In cavemen or aztecs/mayans, days being big was deemed attractive also because it showed someone had wealth/lots of food.
It seems times have changed because food is cheap, so its easy to become fat and harder to stay lean. so those who are lean show off better genes, or something like that.
When will people stop trying to control everyone's lives and choices? In my opinion, what they should be doing is solely paying attention to the man/woman staring back at them in the mirror? We all have our own unique vices. Some vices are exposed outwardly which society attacks, while others are hidden all nice and quiet inside where only God and that person know. A vice is a vice plain and simple. It is usually most advantageous for us all to give Grace so that when we need it, Grace is returned..
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
Why don't girls date me even though I don't groom or shower? why are they so intolerant!
That's what you sound like.
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again, I am not trying to control anyone by making this post, In fact, the 1st post spells out why I made this post.. The fat girl is mad because Louis doesnt find her attractive and she blames it on her being fat.
Then I meander into the choice she makes. If it bothers her that much, why doesn't she stop being fat? Otherwise, the lack of attraction Louis feels isnt his fault or his choice, so why is she mad at him?
It should be none of our concern whether someone is big or not. It is our human right to make any choices we want to make. Are there consequences for our actions? You bet your ass there are, but we should at least be able to make our own choices whether they are harmful or beneficial. We are not robots on autopilot. Thank God for that! I would rather make 1000 mistakes of my own doing than to follow the orders of another. Choices: That's living Life to the fullest..
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
Have you ever been really overweight? I have and I know people who have. and they don't always live
life to the fullest when they eat whatever they want, are 30+lbs overweight, have high blood pressure, can't tie their own shoes,much less keep up with their families on vacation,
But hey, they eat whatever they want, is that "living life to the fullest"?
Again, people can chose to do whatever they want, But they dont get to choose how anyone else feels about their choice.
The point of this thread has nothing to do with fat
people needing to change. I just pointed out if the fat girl is mad because someone doesnt like her being fat, why doesnt she change OR why does she blame them for their
choice of free etc?
This is like the providers don't see black men thread, when everyone said how Providers can see whomever they want,
freedom of choice, etc.
We even had a few guys chime in about their own cases where they couldnt be seem because of their color, I don't recall you or anyone else getting mad and throwing a fit that providers need to change
I honestly could care less if you do not like big/fat girls. That is your Right to Choose... Free Will. However, I do care that there was a careless and heartless post started in poor taste. Especially after a certain thread in the (Co-Ed) section. Just Sayin', Now Flame Away...
Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia
I suspect you mean, "couldnt care less"
JUST SAYIN;!
This has nothing to do with saying anything abstract, or my feelings about fat people.
This thread is about exactly what you are talking about, freedom of choice."
Why does this fat girl get mad at about Louies
freedom of choice. The fat girl has no right to be mad at Louie for making his choice(or people making their choice to prefer not to date fat girls.)
Why don't you date guys who wear dirty clothes/don't shave/don't shower?
That makes sense to you, not to date a "smelly" guy. right? Do you think people were very clean as cavemen/ most of history til we all indoor plumbing/showers/razors?
The difference is being clean VS being in shape is a lot easier, You can go from a mess to clean in a short time, with minimal effort.
Yet to not be fat, takes a long time and various amounts of effort based on genetics/environment.
The other thread is about science and also not about abstract opinions. Both threads might contain some personal opinions, but that is NOT what they are about and has you have repeatedly pointed out, I am allowed to have opinions.