Am I wrong for being a bit pissed?

I had a date scheduled with a provider I have seen several times. It was a three hour date. One day before the appointment ( over 24 hrs) I woke up with a cold, trying to be respect full, I left it up to her rather than can cell or just show up anyway ( she wouldn't have known I was sick as it was just a fever and headache). She decided to cancel. After she said it really hurt her financially. I offered her slightly over half the amount if she would come and get it. She does. After I get better we begin planning another date. She then tells me that the "cancellation" fee, which she never asked for, I offered, cannot be used for any future dates. This was no $125. It was 6 hundred. Am I right in being pissed enough to cancel the next date? If this is how she does things I'm not sure I want to give her my busssiness any more. For the record I only asked that SOME of the money be used for the next date, not all.

I don't think you're unreasonable. I think $300 off the next is fair. Or you could pay the full amount and she could give you 2 hours for free at some point.

I had a date scheduled with a provider I have seen several times. Originally Posted by Big unit

Several time and built up a rapport, regular income, and comfortability with. Continue.......

It was a three hour date. Originally Posted by Big unit

A 3 hour date worth a grand total of 1200 dollars. I hope to goodness this chick is drop dead gorgeous for that much. Flawles

One day before the appointment ( over 24 hrs) I woke up with a cold, trying to be respect full, I left it up to her rather than can cell or just show up anyway ( she wouldn't have known I was sick as it was just a fever and headache). Originally Posted by Big unit

You would have been far respectful by just canceling the appointment. Even if she was touring to you. You know why, because you see her regularly and she should no doubt be in a position to give you canceling as the benefit of the doubt. It would be different if you were a first time client. You are a regular. Shame on her for assuming your cancellation would be anything unsavory.

You issue was leaving it up to her. Why would you want to have a session while you were sick knowingly. If anything she should be appreciative that you were thoughtful enough to cancel or postpone so she can make plans.

You showed respect ultimately but she didn't........more on this coming up.

She decided to cancel. Originally Posted by Big unit

Of course she did......if she didn't what type of person, situation, or session would she say no to. Scary

You were wrong in putting this decision in her hands. She ultimately wants the money. Don't get it twisted your health and you are just the afterthought to her...............especially when she does things like...........

After she said it really hurt her financially. Originally Posted by Big unit

After what? A minute? An hour? A day? After a tour? None of that is your fault. She's supposed to be high class with rates such as those and you mean to tell me she has no savings plan in place charging 1200 for 3 hours......palease.........

This was her excuse for seeing if she could milk you for money...........

I offered her slightly over half the amount if she would come and get it. She does. After I get better we begin planning another date. She then tells me that the "cancellation" fee, which she never asked for, I offered, cannot be used for any future dates. This was no $125. It was 6 hundred. Am I right in being pissed enough to cancel the next date? Originally Posted by Big unit

Again she isn't worried about keeping your business. Which might mean business is too good. All of the actions she took isn't how you treat a regular client. She wanted to "try" you......and try to take advantage. Your damn right you should be pissed. You should seek a new favorite regular. She has no compassion or business sense. Don't see her again. She will "try" you again.

If this is how she does things I'm not sure I want to give her my busssiness any more. For the record I only asked that SOME of the money be used for the next date, not all. Originally Posted by Big unit

All of the money should be used on your next date. Not part of it.....not a percentage...all. the problem both you and this lady didn't sepaerate was business. You tried to be nice and gentlemanly....but she showed you she was strickly about the money and business. Make your money talk by not seeing her anymore. That gentlemenly shit will get you nowhere..........but further into your pocket to give to her. The sugar of your first few sessions has turned to shit......throw her out........

First, six hundred for a cancellation on your part due to illness is high, very high. Two, her claim of financial injury is questionable at best, given that most girls in this realm lie convincingly on a regular basis. Additionally, her turning it around like you indicated and claiming a "cancellation" fee demonstrates to me she is someone that I would not want to see, but that is my opinion.

Your question of should you be pissed off, is no, you should not. This type of behavior is one that any guy in this realm should expect from a woman who does this. Some girls are better human beings than others, but in my opinion, you should not be pissed off.

Take it as a learning lesson whilst realizing that Denver has a lot of good women to visit. Therefore, I would suggest you spend your money and time with someone else.

I generally give the benefit of the doubt to the lady, but as you describe it I think you have every right to be upset. If it was a lady I had an ongoing business relationship with I can understand her wanting something at the time if bills were due, etc., but I would have expected ALL of it would then be applied to your next appointment.

I would be pissed!!

Don't understand, why not just postpone date, it wasn't like you was not ever seeing her again, you should be pissed but not at her you allowed yourself to be a "trick"

I think you were beyond kind and very generous. Instead of seeking a discount from her on your next session, you should never ever contact her again and find another go to provider that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

I had a date scheduled with a provider I have seen several times. It was a three hour date. One day before the appointment ( over 24 hrs) I woke up with a cold, trying to be respect full, I left it up to her rather than can cell or just show up anyway ( she wouldn't have known I was sick as it was just a fever and headache). She decided to cancel. After she said it really hurt her financially. I offered her slightly over half the amount if she would come and get it. She does. After I get better we begin planning another date. She then tells me that the "cancellation" fee, which she never asked for, I offered, cannot be used for any future dates. This was no $125. It was 6 hundred. Am I right in being pissed enough to cancel the next date? If this is how she does things I'm not sure I want to give her my busssiness any more. For the record I only asked that SOME of the money be used for the next date, not all. Originally Posted by Big unit

You were definitely more than generous sweetie. If you're already feeling this way and you did go through with a session, it would probably affect your session (and not in a positive way). If you're not feeling appreciated, find someone who will appreciate what you're bringing to the table and start having FUN again. That's what you're here for after all, Happy Hobbying!

I'd be mad....you were nice enough to tell her so she could cancel..shoot i wouldn't want to get infected and be sick myself...i don't see how it hit her financially...she obviously was not waiting for your date with her so she could eat..just find a new regular and don't make the same mistakes...consider the 600 a lesson..sorry to hear man

This is too funny. The money is gone. Accept that fact.

This is too funny. The money is gone. Accept that fact. Originally Posted by pyramider

You are sooo cold

I wish $600 was all I had wasted on a SPECIAL provider. I have pretty much quit the hobby game all together & the quality of the providers in my area has went to hell in a hand basket. Sorry for your lose it sux in a bad way.

If youre stupid enough to give away $600 you deserve to be screwed. And not in the nice way.

You have every right to be pissed. I would NEVER give a girl a cancellation fee if I gave her 24 hour notice. I know you might have some type of feeling for her if you have seen her several times, but damn, this is still a business transaction. Heck, I wouldn't even feel obligated if I gave her an hour notice. You got played.