Providers and their S.O.'s

Just curious. Many of you have wives and gfs and have no qualms of telling us. But is it a no no for us ladies to admit relationships? Does it turn you off? Do you assume it must be a pimp or less of a Man who deals with our job? Does it ruin the fantasy of the gfe?

I personally have no prob with a provider having a S/O in her life provided "he" is aware of what she does for a living. Wouldn't wish to have a Problem getting between the two of them.

As I am a single guy, it is easy.....:-)

GREAT topic hon! Of my years in the hobby, I've learned that it takes a VERY special individual to accept this occupation. I've also learned that many of my clientele didn't really want to know the truth because, I'm theirs during the time that we spend together. You asked a question in another thread regarding people actually searching for a relationship on here, I believe that people most definitely are. Whether it be out of loneliness or for more financial gain, it's there, I've been reading it for awhile now in co-ed. However, back on topic, I do feel that openly having an SO would affect some clientele; from my experience

I could care less. Any woman who is willing to fuck and suck at the drop of a hat is always going to have a man in her life.

I hate to bring real life into the fantasy. When I hear of a boyfriend of SO i immediately think of exploitation. I know its a stereotype but most stereotypes are based on some level of truth.

GREAT topic hon! Of my years in the hobby, I've learned that it takes a VERY special individual to accept this occupation. I've also learned that many of my clientele didn't really want to know the truth because, I'm theirs during the time that we spend together. You asked a question in another thread regarding people actually searching for a relationship on here, I believe that people most definitely are. Whether it be out of loneliness or for more financial gain, it's there, I've been reading it for awhile now in co-ed. However, back on topic, I do feel that openly having an SO would affect some clientele; from my experience Originally Posted by Alyssa XOXO

Those are some of my thoughts. Some are paying for a fantasy. Not just the act itself. But does it help keep the parameters clearly defined by remaining off the girlfriend market? Or is it vocational suicide? And yes some women here find boyfriends rw and some here. To each their own.

Not sure that I would choose to even pose the question during a session, as it doesn't seem to really matter much. We all have private lives and in most cases I feel that line of fantasy/reality should be a line not crossed.
Although, I've had conversations with some providers claiming they don't really engage in "civi sex".
But at some point, don't we all need a S.O. ???

Yes, im not saying walk in and state, just so you know, I have a boyfriend or husband. Just when asked, when asked to spend date nights, vacations, ect.

I hate to bring real life into the fantasy. When I hear of a boyfriend of SO i immediately think of exploitation. I know its a stereotype but most stereotypes are based on some level of truth. Originally Posted by peabody

Thanks for the honest answer. Could see some one making the assumption.

Just curious. Many of you have wives and gfs and have no qualms of telling us. But is it a no no for us ladies to admit relationships? Does it turn you off? Do you assume it must be a pimp or less of a Man who deals with our job? Does it ruin the fantasy of the gfe? Originally Posted by Sonya

Have I ever mentioned how sexy you are? If not accept my apologies. ;-) My world view has changed after having lived in several countries and even though I respect the right of a provider it's likely I would think that if a provider has an SO that knows her occupation then he's likely a pimp or believes in the open relationship concept. Swingers come to mind as well. It won't bother me any so as long as the provider is not batshit crazy and has a great IOP.

I would find it stimulating if I knew a provider had a husband or boyfriend.

I know of one well known provider here that is married. She said he knows how she is bringing $ into the family and it's a don't ask don't tell situation.

I have had an open relationship for over 29 years..............we enjoy our lifestyle and find that it works great for us!

Those are some of my thoughts. Some are paying for a fantasy. Not just the act itself. But does it help keep the parameters clearly defined by remaining off the girlfriend market? Or is it vocational suicide? And yes some women here find boyfriends rw and some here. To each their own. Originally Posted by Sonya

Honestly, you just have to feel it out because each client relationship is different. For the ones that actually find true love, I am so happy for you. Everyone deserves happiness, no matter where it's found. I dated a client and honestly, (even though I put his arse through the ringer and he wanted to choke me half of the time lol) I really enjoyed the fact that I didn't have to lie and hide my occupation from him. He became a great supporter and friend as well. Hope this helps some

There was a great provider in Dallas a while back who saw people in a back bedroom of her house. She was clearly married and only saw visitors during the day, presumably because he was at work. I asked her about it pretty much right up front because I can imagine the mess if I was the one she finally got caught with. I accepted it, but wondered if that was the truth. Figured it was true enough when I realized one day that she left the door cracked. I didn't think anything of it until we were through that day and noticed movement of feet that I had not noticed beneath the door. It explained why she had been extra vocal that day...she had left it cracked so he could hear better.