First of all, don't take my complaining too seriously. I'm just in a grumpy mood. Although I occasionally enjoy full service, my normal MO is to find a FBSM provider I like and stay with her until such time as she either moves or retires. This predisposition has two results. Result one: At any given time I have only a single reference. Typically this is not a problem since I only see one provider at a time. Result two: When said provider leaves/retires, I am left with NO references. There's the rub.
I'm in my late 40's now and I like the "fantasy". You know..the one where we pretend to flirt with one another, starting when I contact my regular by email. She pretends I'm sexy and funny and can't wait to see me...and I pretend she's right. After an appointment, I say "thank you". She says "You're welcome". The devil is in the details. I still fail to understand why some providers won't respond with a simple email "You're welcome" after I email a "Thank You" after an appointment!
My first regular provider was Kayah. I loved her accent and I loved the way she would cuddle in my lap on her couch after a session. I am not sure whether she moved or retired. Let's just say that she had some issues and she needed to get her head straight.
I also saw Aspasia for quite awhile. I am not sure if she's still around or not. She was the only provider I made a decision not to see anymore. Aspasia was still pretty terrific. She also had a sexy accent (either I am attracted to sexy accents OR FBSM providers tend to have sexy accents, or both?) and I liked her services a lot, but we never quite hit it off. I always thought it strange that she spent so much time talking about other men in her sessions. She was all "artsy fartsy", I'm all "math/science". And her dog bit me...
For a while, there was Stephanie, who probably had the best massage. Then there was


And most recently there was Taylor Reed. Until last week. So now I am looking for a young, beautiful, flirty, value-added, FBSM provider, preferably with a foreign accent, who will acknowledge my "Thank You's". Oh, and most importantly, doesn't ask for two references!