References

Good morning everyone!

I've always been very courteous and timely when responding to reference requests and I've always been very accommodating. But lately gentlemen have been expecting references without asking and without giving me advance notice and wondering why I don't respond.

I'm sure that other providers are encountering the same, so for the gentlemen who are seeking references, here are a few points that may expedite the process.

• Asking for a reference once is not a blanket request. You would do well to ask the provider or give her a heads up prior to each request. ie: I received a request a few days ago from a number I did not know, from a provider I had never heard of. The client did not ask for the reference and did not give me any type of advance notice that she would be contacting. Chances are she's a legit provider, but she could be a scorned girlfriend or wife trying to glean info from me. (I am not going to take my time to Google her number or form a search party to find this info out). A quick "Hi Liz. Blank will be contacting you for a reference. Would you mind?" Would do wonders!

• My time, as well as many other providers, may be limited. I may not be able to answer a reference request quite literally in the hour that they sent it. Be patient and again, giving a provider advance notice so that she can look for the message may help.

• Please don't expect that a good reference will be given (especially if you did not ask for one.) There are two sides to every story and your provider may have a different opinion of how your session went.

• Please don't demand that that we answer reference requests just hours after they are sent (again, especially if you didn't ask for one.) Demanding that I (or any provider) respond to a reference request is not going to make me (or them) do so. Telling me "Answer her texts because I need a good reference" is definitely not a good way to get me to do anything. Be kind and ask politely

• Please don't think that I will give an infinite number of references for you if you have been to my location just once, three or more months ago. I don't have a problem giving references, but asking for 3+ references from one visit is a bit much. I don't put a number limit on references, of course, but if you've seen other providers, use your most recent providers for references, not a provider from 3 or more months ago.

I'm sure most of you don't need this, but seriously, don't assume anything from your provider. We all have lives outside the hobby and may not be able to respond as quickly as you would like.



All this being said, if you would like a reference from me in the future, please email as text will no longer be an option.


Also, my time will be EXTREMELY limited for references, appointments and hobby-related brouhaha (I love that word!). Please don't get angry if your request goes unanswered perhaps for days. In a few weeks, the hobby will no longer a priority for me and as much as I've enjoyed it, I have something more meaningful.


Thank you to all the gentlemen who visited me & my girls. We've had a lot of fun!

With all that being said, why start this threAD now?

With all that being said, why start this threAD now? Originally Posted by Howdy Do Me

I was thinking the same thing. "I'm leaving now, but thought I'd chastise you one more time on my way out the door....."

With all that being said, why start this threAD now? Originally Posted by Howdy Do Me

I was thinking the same thing. "I'm leaving now, but thought I'd chastise you one more time on my way out the door....." Originally Posted by Taskmaster

Apparently you both have a hard time reading. As I said above, "I'm sure that other providers are encountering the same, so for the gentlemen who are seeking references, here are a few points that may expedite the process."

It is a courtesy post, and as I said, if you don't need the information, don't use it. Why respond with asinine comments to nearly every post that a lady has?

AND, see in red? Where it says gentlemen? That obviously isn't you, since you both love to insult and degrade women in these forums.

I kind of feel sorry for the men on here that do nothing but insult each other and the ladies. Your lives must be so full of hate, scorn, and self-loathing. I hope you find something in your life that makes you happier.

Apparently you both have a hard time reading. As I said above, "I'm sure that other providers are encountering the same, so for the gentlemen who are seeking references, here are a few points that may expedite the process."

It is a courtesy post, and as I said, if you don't need the information, don't use it. Why respond with asinine comments to nearly every post that a lady has?

AND, see in red? Where it says gentlemen? That obviously isn't you, since you both love to insult and degrade women in these forums.

I kind of feel sorry for the men on here that do nothing but insult each other and the ladies. Your lives must be so full of hate, scorn, and self-loathing. I hope you find something in your life that makes you happier. Originally Posted by TheRedMonroe

Well that is a rather snarky and offensive retort from one who claims to be a lady and expounds upon attributes of ladies and gentlemen. It also shows a blatant lack of reading comprehension of my prior posting history, and Howdy's too from what I can recall of it.

Oh, and no self loathing here Ms. psychobabble. I'm the happiest I have ever been. In fact, that gives me the free spirited nature to post unfettered by your proclaimed rules of posting conduct.

Your lives must be so full of hate, scorn, and self-loathing. Originally Posted by TheRedMonroe

Hey, now!

Ok, let's be fair to both sides here.

Her post, i believe, is even more relevant given her desire to devote less time to the business than she has up til now. She never said she was leaving altogether. At least i didn't hear it if she did.

And on the other end of it, the guys who TRM dressed down are not the problem childs around here. Though perhaps a little harshly worded, they simply gave what they believed to be an honest opinion on what, i believe, was a slight mis-read of the original post.

Whew, trying to play peacemaker is so far outside of my comfort zone that i'm now exhausted.

I hope you find something in your life that makes you happier.

You and me both, sister!

Well that is a rather snarky and offensive retort from one who claims to be a lady and expounds upon attributes of ladies and gentlemen. It also shows a blatant lack of reading comprehension of my prior posting history, and Howdy's too from what I can recall of it.

Oh, and no self loathing here Ms. psychobabble. I'm the happiest I have ever been. In fact, that gives me the free spirited nature to post unfettered by your proclaimed rules of posting conduct. Originally Posted by Taskmaster

That was quite a belligerent and obstinate statement from TRM.

I don't insult ladies here AND I am quite sure (Task) hasnt either!
I think the ladies on here can speak for themselves, they don't need you to make an out the door comment.
Are you the self professed spokesperson for the ladies on this board?

I hope your new adventure doesn't require customer service.
I don't think your people skills are meant for that.
I hope my insults, which, according to you, I/we always do with the ladies here, don't offend you.
If you choose to make insinuating comments, be prepared to back them up!!
Continue with your threAD.

I kind of feel sorry for the men on here that do nothing but insult each other and the ladies. Your lives must be so full of hate, scorn, and self-loathing. I hope you find something in your life that makes you happier. Originally Posted by TheRedMonroe

right now ...plastic man ...has a toaster on the edge of the bathtub

...sweeeeeeet

Ladies????? On a hooker board! Thats a pretty fucked up reach!

Ladies????? On a hooker board! Thats a pretty fucked up reach! Originally Posted by shreekingghost

Nothing about "gentlemen"?

Ladies????? On a hooker board! Thats a pretty fucked up reach! Originally Posted by shreekingghost

I guess it depends on what type of respect you have for somebody.

Taint is the center of understanding, I suggest TRM to embrace her taint.

There's happiness beyond hate, scorn, and self-loathing?

Nothing about "gentlemen"? Originally Posted by Doove

I hope she never mistakes me as a gentleman girl

In a few weeks, the hobby will no longer a priority for me and as much as I've enjoyed it, I have something more meaningful. Originally Posted by TheRedMonroe

Homie aware of the mileage, or did you whimper when he put it in?