Kimmi x0 NCNS...glad I had a backup plan

Her page on ECCIE: http://eccie.net/member.php?u=159592

First off, I know it is Christmas eve, and I probably should expect diffuculty in scheduling today, and I did. Very few people have the schedule freedom that I have during this time. My first couple of options were unavailable. I contacted Kimmi thru her P411 on the 19th. We were unable to work a schedule out that day or the next, so I asked about her availability over the holiday. She replied that she was available anytime, both days. I knew there was some less than favorable reviews, which I asked about and received satisfactory replies. So, I arranged to see her around 2pm, today. We continued to exchange messages via P411 for the next few days about where we would meet.
This morning I started exchanging texts to solidify plans. She continued to be responsive throughout the day and we confirmed that I would go to her. Around 1:30 I texted that I was finishing up some lunch, and then heading toward her incall area....wait, wait, wait...15 minutes later she responds that she is with family, but will be done soon. I ask her to let me know when to head out...wait, wait, wait, wait...3:00pm arrives, and I send a message requesting an update, and she responds that kids are still opening presents. I ask when I should expect her to be free....no response...try again about 30 minutes later....nothing.
Thankfully I had a backup plan in place and went with those arrangements, and had a very nice time, Thank you Mia (review to follow).

Again, I understand the difficulty in timing during the holidays. What I cannot figure out is why someone would string you along for days, including the entire day of your meet, when she was given plenty of opportunity to say she couldn't make it. I know some guys make multiple appointments and then blow them off, but why do we have to have backup plans. Sometimes I feel like I need to make 3 arrangements to get one successful date. And I always try to use reputable providers. Hell, this girl is on P411....guess that is not the reliable site that it should be...

It is something in the water that makes some people do things like that or maybe the position of the moon. Was there a few time.

That sucks man. I will say that if she was with her family, it seems like everyone underestimates the time family stuff will take. Its easy to think you will just pop in and and then pop out, but it never works out that way. The decent people tend to figure out that at some point and say "Hey, Im going to be here longer than I expected so I think we should reschedule".

I agree with BR2222 but would like to add something. It's Christmas eve and she told you she was with family. You told her to let you know. Instead you text her a couple of times. Family trumps your play time always. Keep that in mind. Also remember if you tell her to text you that is then the plan. Not you texting her every few minutes.

I always understand family trumps, and I wasn't testing her every few minutes. It wasn't until our appointment time came around that the family excuse came in. Everyone does family time around the holidays, but it is rarely a surprise pop-up event. So, why was there no mention of family in any of our previous communication. She could have said this morning, "Oh, I forgot, I will be with my family for part of the day and that may cause scheduling issues...". I don't schedule appointments when I have family obligations, and I am sure most here don't.

sorry for your experience and thanks for sharing...

regardless of the time of year - this happens too much...

it takes 10 seconds to text explaining and rescheduling - or an apology with an offer to make it up to you...

no one is saying life doesn't happen - it does...

please just think about other people and extend little courtesy?

good to hear all was not lost tho...

I agree with BR2222 but would like to add something. It's Christmas eve and she told you she was with family. You told her to let you know. Instead you text her a couple of times. Family trumps your play time always. Keep that in mind. Also remember if you tell her to text you that is then the plan. Not you texting her every few minutes. Originally Posted by noleftturn

+1

I had to go to the bank to make a deposit on Christmas Eve, but it had closed at 2 PM. A lot of stores are closed over the holidays. that't the way it is.

JR

I had the same problem with a girl that gives Massages, but we were set for Tuesday Nigh at 5:30 I text her in the morning to confirm, she said no problem, so I arrived at 5:30 at her place.
she informed me she just got off work, and was on her way home, then she wanted to change to Wednesday Morning, I couldn't because I was leaving town. she set this day and time, remember she confirmed. then she texted me saying she had to stop by the store, then take a shower, and something else. I asked if 6:30 or 7:00 would be better. the last time I heard from her was at 5:35.
she never texted back or messaged me at all.
I can only guess she had another client and was doing an outcall and forgot all about me.
BTW she was pissed at me for showing up at her house, when I was supposed to be there at 5:30.
she told me she has a fulltime job now, I think something else is going on with her, because this isn't like her at all. she is not on this site, nor a provider on here.

+1

I had to go to the bank to make a deposit on Christmas Eve, but it had closed at 2 PM. A lot of stores are closed over the holidays. that't the way it is.

JR Originally Posted by JRLawrence

JR - If you called the bank on the 23rd, what would they have told you about their hours on Christmas eve? If you had made an appointment with the bank for 11am on Christmas eve, would you accept that they chose to close early that day at 10:30?

My point is that I specifically asked about plans for the holiday and was told she was available any time either day. Is it too much to expect people to say what they mean, and mean what they say....and if something changes, COMMUNICATE!!

Is it too much to expect people to say what they mean, and mean what they say....and if something changes, COMMUNICATE!! Originally Posted by hokiejay

Exactly! It's not like you demanded that she see you at a specific time. You asked and she said yes. That drives me nuts. I'll often offer a lady a range - ' I can be free from noon to six, you pick the time ' Even that doesn't seem to help a lot. I almost never stand somebody up in my professional life - sure as hell not a customer. Vendors less to so but I still give advance notice and try to be courteous.

TCB is a huge plus in my book. But just like IRL, I'll put up with a bunch of shit if I like a lady.