Newbie here. What screening info is OK to give a provider?

Hey guys, newbie here. I'm eager to get into the hobby but just want to be very careful.

I think I've picked my first provider but as a newbie, she asked for a little screening info. She wants to see either a check stub, or to call my work place to see if I work there, as well as seeing my photo ID to prove it's me. She says it's to protect her from LE. As you can imagine, I'm not exactly enthused by showing her my real name and work place but I understand her concern and she is well reviewed and seems very professional. I'm just wondering if this type of info is normal to give out as a first timer? I'm probably 90% sure she's safe and legit but I don't want to be a delusional newbie. Any help is appreciated!

After all the recent drama why does this feel like a total setup?

Anyway in the event this is a legit request there is no OK. She can request whatever she wants and you can provide whatever you want but do so at your own risk.

Other people's opinions are irrelevant as it is your personal decision. If you've been reading the boards at all then you already know the risks which is exactly why this post gets the Spidey senses going.

kingman is this you? again

Join P411 or find providers that are newbie friendly!

Make an appt with TS~SL. She, he, it will send you on your way to a brighter hobby experience.

Ha! Well set up or no, il answer. First, newbie friendly does not mean no screening. It just means they will accept you with infoation other than references. If I were a gentlemen, I would find a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. Claire she blows springs to mind. Give her your info. Then, use her as a reference. If it's someone who is well known and well respected, nine times out of ten, this reference will serve you well and suffice for appts with other ladies. You won't have to give your info again. That's what I would do if I were a guy. I totally understand the hesitation of giving out info.

Make an appt with TS~SL. She, he, it will send you on your way to a brighter hobby experience. Originally Posted by playingnthedark

With a limp LMFAO!

First, newbie friendly does not mean no screening. It just means they will accept you with information other than references. If I were a gentlemen, I would find a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. Claire she blows springs to mind. Give her your info. Then, use her as a reference. If it's someone who is well known and well respected, nine times out of ten, this reference will serve you well and suffice for appts with other ladies. You won't have to give your info again. That's what I would do if I were a guy. I totally understand the hesitation of giving out info. Originally Posted by chelseabean

I am the newbie gatekeeper! Constantly TOFTT, lol.

Personal information is completely safe with me. I've found that if I have some of your RW info, you're ugh more likely to be a gentleman during our time together. And if you're not, well then, the police will know where to start looking.

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it.

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

I'm liking you more and more

H..... If I were a gentlemen, I would find a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. Originally Posted by chelseabean

I am the newbie gatekeeper! Constantly TOFTT, lol.

Personal information is completely safe with me. I've found that if I have some of your RW info, you're ugh more likely to be a gentleman during our time together. And if you're not, well then, the police will know where to start looking.

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

Every time we have seen a situation blow up over the years where a provider got reckless with a guy's personal information, the hour before she did so, she was "a provider with a solid reputation, been around a while, no alerts on her, great reviews, someone who has invested time and energy into her reputation. The hour before she did she had "NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info..... and she had previously "staked her stellar reputation on it. "

The one thing I would recommend is to ignore everything a provider has to say on the subject. It is not necessarily wrong, but their interests in screening are to protect themselves.

Invest in BCD and ask your questions in the private mens areas where you will get a few more honest and open answers.

Within a couple of weeks I'll be posting some step by step instructions on how to see ladies without screening as well as how to be references acceptable to most for screening without ever divulging anything of a personal nature.

It is very possible to build an on-line persona with references without ever sharing a thing about yourself.

It is also possible to build those references seeing 18 to 25 year old ladies with hott bodies and not have to compromise with ladies that offer minimal screening or a newbie friendly which also tends to mean older and/or less physically desirable to many.

I don't think it's true that when things have "blown up" was from a reputable provider with all the characteristics I mentioned above it. In fact, I have never come across instances of this "blowing up" before. What instances are you speaking of? This recent situation notwithstanding, because the information was shared to protect the other ladies from being ripped off. So not exactly a case of a provider using information for nefarious reasons. This information is shared everyday as matter of course and I have never seen it be an issue. I remember from another thread on screening that you were once burned by a provider giving out your info, so I totally understand your investment here. But, it was my impression that this was not screening related, but a situation that occurred due to a close relationship. It's Been a while, and I remember vaguely what you wrote, so please excuse if I misunderstood in any way. I personally think stating this an issue is negligible. At least, I have never observed it to be so.

That being said, there is some stock in investing time and energy into your online persona for screening purposes. Using this board alone for a first time experience though would be difficult though. But, sounds like you have ideas, and I'm sure you will share;.

This information is shared everyday as matter of course and I have never seen it be an issue. Originally Posted by chelseabean

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

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Oh, I see what you mean. I meant shared via gentlemen to provider, not shared by the provider with any third party.

Depending on where you work have her call a third or fourth line and have her ask for Mr Drummit have whoever answers the phone or preferable answer it yourself be informed that you are are expecting a call for a Mr Drummit and just tell them that you are acting as a middleman for a friend or family member (or whatever you feel comfortable with) in a e bay sale that went wrong. Ask her to get the caller ID when the call comes and transfer the call to you. You could even have her answer with a different company name or do what this guy did. http://prostitutereport.blogspot.com...ca3536c49b5876

I have second thoughts on real names being used in the hobby but as a newbie just ask if there is someway she would be satisfied with my DL picture without any personal data being given? She is not showing you her photo ID is she? I wouldn't show her mine. You shouldn't either. When a solid reputable provider goes BatShit crazy you do not want your DL on her phone, on her hard drive, or printed off in a notebook. You have more to lose than she by being outed to your friends family and bosses. I know BatShit crazy and you do not want to meet her, believe me.

I think asking for a cup of coffee before the appt. maybe a good idea, Just don't let her get your tag number as she is not going to let you see hers, Show her your DL with your thumb over you name and address and dl number. I would think you both would be comfortable trading DL's as an act of faith but you never know. and as far as work goes, only one person other than yourself knows about Mr. Dummit and would only remember what you told them.

The other think I think you should do is to name the provider or PM members who have seen her or maybe post a link to her profile or web site as you will get more data from.

Just remember you are the customer and yet this is one of the most unique buying experiences you will ever encounter. Just remember that your paycheck stub, your Photo ID, and anything you may tell her about your real life could come out to bite you now or in the future so it is best to not have a trail in any form that can come back to you, ever!

I believe that if you are not able to find a computerize that you should simply ask the following question: In able to see you with no real world info. about me being disclosed what do i need to do? Do I need to have had sessions with other providers so that I have references? Do you think after seeing them that I may not be interested in returning to see you?( you probably won't but...)

Remember when you have an argument with a woman she brings every negative thing you ever did into the field of play and they NEVER play by the rules!!!!!

Good luck with your situation but do you really want to be handed divorce papers, a pink slip, a blackmail demand, or worse have a detective knock on your door when the BatShit crazy hoogar gets evicted, for seeing clients at home, starts to fly? I heard of a guy who was blackmailed into renting an apartment for a hoogar deposit and 2 months rent. When she didn't pay the rent they sued him, his wife got involved and there went that marriage. You should have the right to not have to your life turned upside down because it is to the benefit of someone else to do so. Just don't give in to giving real world info.

That is how I see it and i hope I have given you something to consider, if not Fuck it!!!!!!

I am the newbie gatekeeper! Constantly TOFTT, lol.

Personal information is completely safe with me. I've found that if I have some of your RW info, you're ugh more likely to be a gentleman during our time together. And if you're not, well then, the police will know where to start looking.

I've NEVER shared a gentleman's RW info with another provider (or anyone else, for that matter). That shit is sacred and I stake my stellar reputation on it. Originally Posted by Claire She Blows

Friendship between women: A woman doesn’t come home one night. The next day she tells her husband that she had slept over at a girlfriend's house.
The husband calls his wife's 10 best friends. None of them know anything about it.

Friendship between men: A man doesn’t come home one night. The next day he tells his wife that he had slept over at a friend’s house. The wife calls her husband's 10 best men friends. Eight of them confirm that he had slept over, and two claim that he was still there.