It sure is a to each his own! I don't haggle or negotiate. I don't except discounts for reviews. If a provider after we originally meet offers services not normally offered and offers a discount on future meetings I'll be all over that like a chicken on a June bug.
How about YOU gleemonex? Do you haggle or negotiate? Even the ones that are already OPEC friendly in their pricing?
Originally Posted by Still Looking
You are missing the point, you have repeatedly called mongers who do haggle names to call out those that do. Further, you have even more repeatedly, as whispers was saying, stepped up as the uber WK to protect the defenseless providers. You still haven't answered the direct question asked 3 times now of why you feel the need to defend them so much? Because from the outside looking in, someone demanding that a girl get top dollar and calling anyone who tries to change that names and/or calling them out, well, as Toyz signature says, "if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck..."
I don't know how this got turned around on me when you were the one avoiding direct questions, but since I have nothing to hide, I will answer. I don't know what you consider to be haggling, so based on the broadest definition of the word:
I rarely discuss rates at all with a provider if she is OPEC friendly. There have been a few visiting or new providers who had non-OPEC friendly rates listed. I mentioned OPEC and suggested that for a lot more business here, it would probably be smarter to be OPEC friendly. I even suggested that perhaps she make it a "review special" if she didn't want to say she was lowering their rack rate. Sometimes the provider has listened and has said that she would lower her rate (perhaps for me, perhaps for all, I really don't know or care), sometimes they haven't. In either case, that was the end of it, it wasn't any type negotiation.
There have only been two exceptions to discussing rates even with someone OPEC friendly...
1) Once it was after a NCNS on the provider's part. She finally responded back the next day apologizing and asking what she could do to make it up to me. I suggested a discounted donation for when we could actually meet. She offered a price for the discount, I accepted.
2) I had scheduled an hour session for a fairly new provider. When I got there, she wasn't ready, so it took about 15-20 minutes before she sent me her room number. Once we did start, about a half hour in, she looked at the clock and started freaking out because she had scheduled back to back sessions and said that she needed to get ready for John #2 (my words, not hers). Because she was fairly new, I thought I would give constructive feedback. So I texted her telling her that this is exactly why a provider shouldn't schedule back to back sessions. I was being very friendly though and making it clear that this was just constructive feedback. She took it that way, and we proceeded to text back and forth later that day for a while about stuff. In the end, she wanted to make it up to me. I told her that she had essentially given me a half hour session for the hour rate, so I think it would be fair if she gave me an hour session for the half hour rate. She agreed that seemed fair as well. This whole situation I think really helped both of us see each other a little more clearly, and TBH, she is one of my ATFs now. We continue to text each other at random even about non-hobby stuff.
So now SL... how about you try answering the question that has been asked of you multiple times with no answer?