The problem is the knuckleheads that would show up and get stupid and lack the ability to be discreet...Maybe someone from there should host one here and show us how to do it.
Originally Posted by BigDeal
We used to host regular socials, but it became a real hassle. Some people were really indiscreet, as BD says. Ladies showed up to a local bar&grill wearing lingerie, guys brought unscreened ladies, people got drunk and loud... it was a mess (but fun, if you ignored the looks from the rest of the customers...)
Some of our best M&Gs were held at a hotel bar. They were casual and intimate and a terrific way to meet a bunch of local providers (and for providers, meet clients). The problems came when the group started to get too large for the space, plus we had some people who weren't thrilled about paying hotel bar prices for drinks and appetizers, and then there were guys who didn't want to be seen going into a hotel in their home town.
We had some great events at bars, but guys always complained about the locations ("too far north", "too public", "too crowded") and no one could agree on the best place to meet. We always had people asking us what kind of a group we were. I mean, mostly older guys hanging in a group with a bunch of young, hot, flirty ladies? We used to make up all kinds of stories for the servers. All in all, it was really suspicious. We also had issues with what people wanted from the M&Gs. Some people just wanted to sit and chat and meet each other. But then others wanted to PARTY and do body shots and lap dances.
I went to one of these once and it was fantastic - small gathering organized by a courtesan I dated regularly.
Originally Posted by nudiej
After organizing a bunch of these, I am of the firm opinion that it should be the ladies putting events like this together. Ladies have MUCH more experience screening the guys. They also know where they would feel comfortable, and can arrange the event to their liking. Also, if guys are going to have to pay to attend (to cover the rent of the space or other costs), they are more willing to pay a lady than a dude.