Not enough attention maybe?

Should I keep a chatty connection with clients? Isn't it understood you call I come you come I leave? Why must I develop any sort of real emotional connection? I'm just wondering, if our positions in this arrangement are totally understood and agreed upon why must we play the game? I'm sure you have no real concern or interest in my actual life outside of my purpose for your fulfillment, so why should I be expected to develop an interpersonal connection? It's mind boggling really.

It depends on the individual really, I think part of the "girlfriend experience" is familiarity between the two parties, however some guys are in it for the wham-bam-thank you ma'am. I know some guys however feel like if there isn't an intellectual connection or being able to speak with each other comfortably, then the meeting seems more mechanical, and that is not what GFE is supposed to be like. Otherwise these guys would just have sex with their SO. ;-)
If you would rather them come in, get busy, then leave, I would recommend when they do arrive, let them know what you expect. I know if I'm talking, a BJ always makes me forget what I was talking about and I'll shut up for a little while.

I think JB states it well. I understand some guys just want to have a sexual release (hump 'em and dump 'em). I don't relate to that kind of sexual experience at all. To me, that seems like "masturbation in artificial reality" - not really worth the risk and expense of a hobby date.

Great sex (to me anyway) involves a connection. Sincerity is hard to fake, a lot harder than an orgasm anyway. I repeat with ladies that seem to care about me in some meaningful way. I don't expect them to fall in love with me, but maybe they remember my name or something we talked about that was meaningful to me. A provider that treats me as an object isn't going to see me again. But one that sees our date as sexual enjoyment between two consenting adults is going to win me over. I'd like to think the lady will have a better time and I know I will.

BTW - I also don't connect "chatty" with an "emotional connection" at all. I've met lots of chatty people that talk too much because they don't know how to connect or they don't want to. That is as much of a turn-off to me as someone just going through the motions. Eye contact and body language probably mean more than chit-chat in helping one another feel safe first, interested second, and horny third!

Mandy, I agree with both JB and Captain Gus saying that I prefer talking to the provider sometimes. I don't want them to fall in love, just remember who I am.

I guess it would depend on the situation.
I prefer to have a connection with the guy during the session.
I assume that you may be talking about outside of the session though. That is a thin line that some may or may not feel comfortable crossing.
I will personally send a hi message if I see one of the guys I've seen online. I don't expect an appt just by saying hi, but it lets those guys know that I look at them as humans.
All of us like to have some kind of personal connection to make the session go better.
If you have a personal life outside of the hobby, then you need to make sure the guy understands your boundaries. Let them know that you will be as affectionate and attentive as they like during your time together but that outside of that time that they should respect your privacy.
If you feel a guy might be overstepping those boundaries that you've set forth then talk to them and let them know. I like talking with the guys both in the session and out of it, within reason, but that is my personal preference. You need to set your own boundaries, and try to stick to them.

I'm speaking as an emotionally driven person first off and a provider secondly. The guys I've met on eccie have really become a part of my life, the days I go without keeping in contact worry me as if their my family. I don't want to over step my bounds and make them think I'm crazy or anything. I genuinely worry and wonder about their well-being. I guess more or so it's me not wanting to feel as though I'm being bothersome.

I do emails or text with some clients. they like to talk dirty or role play before session. Some guys just like to say hey and make sure you are still around. It is no bother to me. I've met some great workout buddies and have made a couple of them friends. They have never seen me, and probably wouldn't now bc we know too much about each other. We are friends. There are boundary lines as most gents are married. Just remember not to text or call them unless they say it is okay. Just my 2 cents.

Forgot to mention do not do/email/text if it makes you uncomfortable. Be sure they know your boundary lines too. Also, if i haven't heard from a client in awhile I will send an email just to say Hey, hope all is going well.

I'm speaking as an emotionally driven person first off and a provider secondly. The guys I've met on eccie have really become a part of my life, the days I go without keeping in contact worry me as if their my family. I don't want to over step my bounds and make them think I'm crazy or anything. I genuinely worry and wonder about their well-being. I guess more or so it's me not wanting to feel as though I'm being bothersome. Originally Posted by MandyMinaj

Mandy - you sound like a sweet person. I'd love to meet you some time so you could worry about me too ;-) Unfortunately, worrying about me could be a full-time job!

It's great that you are big-hearted. There is a shortage of caring in the world.

If you think about it if they want to talk after the deed is done thats fine if your not over your time. Just remember they are paying for your time if that means you are sitting there talking for 45 min and they paid for an hour it should be ok. If all they want to do is the deed the full hour then that should be fine too. I like to know alittle about the men that I see. if you get to know them alittle then you will remember them when they come see you again. At least that is the way it works for me. ANd it makes them feel that you care and they like that. Just my option.

Im emotionally driven also
I cry, when aunt flo is in town
I get angry, when cim is an upcharge
I smile, when she says i gave a big peepee for a 4yr old
And i get delirious when she says, of course you can fuck my sister too!!

I personally ride both sides of the fence. There are times when I want to FUCK and there are times when I want to make romance. I have different providers for each. It is up to you to decide which road you want and what type of client you want to attract. There are different strokes for different folks.