I have trouble asking a provider for a reference

I have a hard time asking a provider for a reference. Its almost as if you are telling the provider that she is not good enough for you.

Does this insult a provider?

Just because I want a reference from the provider does not mean that I dont think you are a quality provider, its just the variety thing that makes all this fun.

But I always have this feeling that the provider will be insulted by me asking for a reference. Does anyone else have this problem.

This also causes problems at a strip club. If the first girl ask you for a lapdance and you turn her down, then 5 mins later another girl ask you and you accept, then the first girl sees that you accepted that makes me feel bad.

Same thing at an amp. If the girl that answers the door is not to my liking, I just cant bring myself to asking her to see my choices.

Anyone else in the same situation?

You could just ask the ladies prior to your first meeting if they give references? That way you don't have to awkwardly bring it up later.

Keep in mind the sisterhood of screening doesn't always apply for all providers. Meaning some ladies will give references only because they wouldn't mind seeing YOU again. Some ladies won't even use references....and will just go on p411 refs and ok's alone. In certain cities ladies are competetive......and with time if you tend to use the same ladies as references they get kind territorial and question when or if you would see them again. No always....but there seems to be an error of jealously in offering a ref...as they are losing potential dates.
So twice at the most for each reference is a safe number to use if your still seeking ladies. ATF's make it easy...but they are harder to find for each individual guy.

Typically if I use a lady as a ref.....who mind you I don't plan on seeing again.....I might use her as a ref twice to replenish my refs and start over. Some ladies patience wears thin when you use them as a ref its a constant reminder of potential income they may be losing.

I think the ladies you see semi regularly (since you like variety) will make better references. Now this isn't to discredit the providers that offer references to keep both providers and hobbyist safe. They do exist. But be aware the above may be reasons to ponder as well.

I have a hard time asking a provider for a reference. Its almost as if you are telling the provider that she is not good enough for you.

Does this insult a provider?

Just because I want a reference from the provider does not mean that I dont think you are a quality provider, its just the variety thing that makes all this fun.

But I always have this feeling that the provider will be insulted by me asking for a reference. Does anyone else have this problem.

This also causes problems at a strip club. If the first girl ask you for a lapdance and you turn her down, then 5 mins later another girl ask you and you accept, then the first girl sees that you accepted that makes me feel bad.

Same thing at an amp. If the girl that answers the door is not to my liking, I just cant bring myself to asking her to see my choices.

Anyone else in the same situation? Originally Posted by baylor

On the comment about the strip club. You are the paying customer and if you don't want a dance from a girl its your parogative. Now if you spend all you tip money on one girl then I can see the other girls getting a little upset.

I don't think asking for references is a problem at all. If she gives them, then that should be that. I, personally, don't take it like you're saying I'm not good enough. I'm not your full time girl friend, so why would I mind? I love referring a man I've seen to another lady. Besides, if she refuses the reference, then why would a gentleman go back to see her again?

Do you fell guilty going to different restaurants? Of course not... most reliable and professional acting girls in the biz don't mind references. It helps keep us safe too. I just try to provide a good enough service so that you will want to come back again at some point!

Smooch!

Lea