Paying when paranoid

Seeing another thread got me thinking about a situation I was in last week. Scheduled a provider and when she showed, she was extremely paranoid, which made me paranoid. She is verified but has been busted before. What really got me paranoid was as soon as I paid, she grabbed her phone and appeared to start texting.

First, she is the first provider I've had ask for payment upfront. Second, I was concerned she was texting her teammate so she could bolt. I quickly got my money back and asked her to leave, but felt so bad I still gave her 1/3 of the donation.

So is payment upfront typical and is kicking then out for unusual activity typical as well? I did feel bad about her time spent coming to see me, which is why I paid some, but it was definitely weird. And to top it off, got left with a round in the chamber...

Most are going to want payment up front, that's not unusual.

I am going to tell you a story TestingTheWaters. It is not a lesson nor is there a moral to find hidden.
Roughly about seven years ago before I discovered escorts listing on the web I had the unfortunate luck of fishing for my nightly companions from local bars or simply finding them staggering home from those same bars. The girl I found this one night was actually at the hotel where she was living when I picked her up and took her to my own hotel room since mine was a thousand times more comfortable. She asked for the money up front and me being still fairly new to the game gave it to her. Within a few minutes she found a way to slip out while I was in the bathroom and took with my money and my round still in my chamber so to speak.
I waited less than an hour before I figured someone got screwed and I stormed out of my room to go to her hotel and find her. When I knocked on her door a small scraggly looking man answered the door and almost pissed himself when he saw my 6 foot 4 inch frame filling his doorway with a very angry look on my face. The man backed away from the door and I quickly took control of the situation telling him to sit on the bed. I had no intentions of hurting anyone or letting myself be hurt either, so I asked the guy where the girl was. His only reply was "she is out with the dope man"
I asked him if he knew where the money she had to buy the dope with came from and he tried to play off like he had no clue. His only response to my question then was "she asked me to watch her room while she is out"
I looked around the crappy room at all her shitty clothing laying around and saw his stuff all in a single bag sitting on the table. I looked at the guy and said "well it looks like she just had a late night yard sale." I proceeded to take her laundry basket from the floor and filled it up with every scrap of women's clothing I saw in the room. This entire time the man just sat there. He did not move he did not protest me taking her clothes he just sat there like a stone. I loaded the clothes into the back of my truck and took them home where I had myself a nice bonfire to round out my night. Several months later the same girl saw me again and actually thanked me for burning her clothes because she used the sob story to get someone else to buy her all new stuff. And then she tried to talk me into giving her another try. Nine times out of ten ANY provider you may meet on this site is a thousand times better than a woman like the one I just talked about. If you decide to see that same provider you spoke of just chalk the first time up as practice.

Seeing another thread got me thinking about a situation I was in last week. Scheduled a provider and when she showed, she was extremely paranoid, which made me paranoid. She is verified but has been busted before. What really got me paranoid was as soon as I paid, she grabbed her phone and appeared to start texting.

First, she is the first provider I've had ask for payment upfront. Second, I was concerned she was texting her teammate so she could bolt. I quickly got my money back and asked her to leave, but felt so bad I still gave her 1/3 of the donation.

So is payment upfront typical and is kicking then out for unusual activity typical as well? I did feel bad about her time spent coming to see me, which is why I paid some, but it was definitely weird. And to top it off, got left with a round in the chamber... Originally Posted by TestingTheWaters

1. Maybe something set her off to where she felt uncomfortable. Paranoid men make me fell weird but I at least try to calm them down before kicking the out. It could've been someone staring at her too hard in the lobby, a weird sound coming from the room next door, you may have had a laptop open and facing the bed by accident (all of this are assumptions btw).

2. I ask for money up front. It doesn't need to be in my hand but it needs to be placed somewhere that I can see it before anything starts. Most guys throw it next to my purse or hand it to me in a white envelope. I try not to count the money in front of the guy because I see that as rude

3. At least you gave her something before kicking her out. Most guys would just take everything and leave the girl with nothing

1. Maybe something set her off to where she felt uncomfortable. Paranoid men make me fell weird but I at least try to calm them down before kicking the out. It could've been someone staring at her too hard in the lobby, a weird sound coming from the room next door, you may have had a laptop open and facing the bed by accident (all of this are assumptions btw).

2. I ask for money up front. It doesn't need to be in my hand but it needs to be placed somewhere that I can see it before anything starts. Most guys throw it next to my purse or hand it to me in a white envelope. I try not to count the money in front of the guy because I see that as rude

3. At least you gave her something before kicking her out. Most guys would just take everything and leave the girl with nothing Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

What about when the girl leaves? We are left with nothing. They don't leave a little BBBJ before they depart.

What about when the girl leaves? We are left with nothing. They don't leave a little BBBJ before they depart. Originally Posted by theotherguy1

Easy, you go into the man cave, start a thread about her, and proceed to ruin her business from there.

Or show up at her house demanding a blow job and hope she doesn't live with the Russian mafia.

lol the closest thing to the russian mafia I ever met in my life here in arkansas is the two semesters of russian language I took in college. The lady doing the teaching was buying blue jeans and sending them home to sell. But I totally agree with you Danielle it is about the vibe you both feel more than where/when the money comes into play. If you are both nervous just picture the other person naked until they actually are.

lol the closest thing to the russian mafia I ever met in my life here in arkansas is the two semesters of russian language I took in college. The lady doing the teaching was buying blue jeans and sending them home to sell. But I totally agree with you Danielle it is about the vibe you both feel more than where/when the money comes into play. If you are both nervous just picture the other person naked until they actually are. Originally Posted by Mikali72

The Russian mafia thing was a joke. I've spent the last week binge watching Burn Notice...

ANYWAY! Someone will always been more uncomfortable than the other. Everytime I meet a new guy I'm wondering what might happen. Will he short me? Will be I kidnapped? Am I getting robbed? What if he doesn't like me? Is my makeup ok? Is it too much? What if he's a creep?

But after the nerves are gone we can get down to business and enjoy ourselves.

1. Maybe something set her off to where she felt uncomfortable. Paranoid men make me fell weird but I at least try to calm them down before kicking the out. It could've been someone staring at her too hard in the lobby, a weird sound coming from the room next door, you may have had a laptop open and facing the bed by accident (all of this are assumptions btw).

2. I ask for money up front. It doesn't need to be in my hand but it needs to be placed somewhere that I can see it before anything starts. Most guys throw it next to my purse or hand it to me in a white envelope. I try not to count the money in front of the guy because I see that as rude

3. At least you gave her something before kicking her out. Most guys would just take everything and leave the girl with nothing Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

I typically leave the money under a bottle of water on the tv stand...both of which are for her. For some reason, I didn't get a water bottle that night.

The money should just be put in an envelope and left out until she collects it....I will not do a date until I collect upfront. Nothing comes off until the money comes out...& some girls will text to who ever is making sure they are ok and she was letting them know she collected. When I work with my new girl I always tell her to text me once she collects just so I know everything is safe and ok.

When I'm in a new town doing outcalls I always let whoever I'm traveling with that I'm safe. If they don't hear from me then they worry. It's not like they are outside the door waiting to bust in and rob you. I have too much put in to this business to ruin it on $200

When I'm in a new town doing outcalls I always let whoever I'm traveling with that I'm safe. If they don't hear from me then they worry. It's not like they are outside the door waiting to bust in and rob you. I have too much put in to this business to ruin it on $200 Originally Posted by Danielle Reid

I'm the same exact way....it's too risky to not have someone not know where you are when we are seeing complete strangers. And I don't trust a complete stranger to pay me after the date...got to stay safe

I appreciate all the comments and will consider this all great advice. Thanks.

If you are paranoid and nervous, keep talking and touching her. Get comfortable with her before you pull out money or anything else. If your paranoia is justified, you should be able to just leave, given that you've not made an incriminating statement.

It all depends on the kind of girl you see. There are plenty of girls out there who are looking for a way to scam you. Most of them have habits they should not have. If you see well established ladies, such as those on Eccie with good reputations, you won't have to worry about them bolting out the door, or trying to rip you off.