When to bail on a Provider when she goes silent

Had a NCNS today and I knew it was going to happen. I got a PM via P411 from a provider a couple of weeks ago saying she would be hosting an incall today, so I set up a P411 appointment. She responded with a confirmation and her phone number. Said she would give me the incall location the day before. Two days ago I PM to confirm, no response. Yesterday and today I left her messages on her phone to confirm and get incall location, no response. Of course, the appointed time comes and goes and its a NCNS. Had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago. I hobby in KC and STL, each are a 2-2.5hr drive each way for me.

Today I didn't have time to put a plan B into effect, if I had more time I could have. So when is it OK to bail on the provider? I always seek to confirm the day before and again the morning of the appointment. If its been over a week since the appointment is made I will seek to confirm 2 days prior.

If I just bailed on her this morning (the appointment was for 1:30PM) I could have gotten a plan B setup. Since I'm driving 2 to 2.5hrs to the appointment, is it acceptable to bail on her if she doesn't respond before I start my drive? Or should it be at least a couple of hours before I have to leave so I can setup plan B?

I usually wait until the appointment time and then try to get someone on short notice because there might be the slim chance the original provider will contact just before the appointment time. Hasn't happened yet, every time they go dark its a NCNS.

These aren't BP girls, but ones well reviewed and usually a little north of $350/hr (though price alone is no guarantee of future performance). I almost exclusive use P411 providers as well.

BTW, the best luck I've had with plan B is to get a traveling hottie. They seem to be very reliable and many times can work with just a few hours notice.

Why you persisted from yesterday to today is beyond me. One voicemail followed by a text message should be sufficient. After that it's just wishful thinking.

I am sorry that happened to you. I recommend bailing if she does not confirm with you 24 hours prior do the engagement if it was set up in advance. If it is something set up 24 hours in advance its a good bet that if she hasn't answered an hour before the date she will be running late or potentially a NCNS.

Hope this helps.

I feel for you, I went through the same thing today, a provider I have had a very enjoyable time with b4. She was late, had trouble checking in, then was going to jump in the shower & give me the all go! After 2+ hours of no response, I finally gave up. I still haven't heard anything 7 hours later. A very reputable provider, so I will reserve the right to call her out. Cooling off period, I am hoping there was a legit explanation?

10 minutes and then I'm gone.

So when is it OK to bail on the provider? I always seek to confirm the day before and again the morning of the appointment. If its been over a week since the appointment is made I will seek to confirm 2 days prior. Originally Posted by Fsn57

yes
I have a prebooked made for this friday and i cannot reach the gal, but I'm not driving
It takes1 minute to respond to a text to confirm
they don't confirm, bail

...I am hoping there was a legit explanation? Originally Posted by ii10

Do you really care what her explanation is, after all she NCNS'd you. The explanation, if there is one will probably be a fabrication anyway, Here are a few I've heard:
1. My dog died
2. My Son's dog died
3. My car died
and my favorite:
4. My mother died. That exchange with a local Houston provider went something like this:
Her: "I'm sorry I couldn't make it, I had a family emergency. My mother passed away"
Me: "I'm very sorry to hear that, I hope she gets better soon"
Her: "Me too, thanks for understanding"

Thanks for the feed back, I think I'll being doing more cancelling and suffering less NCNS

Time Warner's latest commercial states they have a page on their site of excuses to get off work instead of "waiting for the cable guy to show up". Might be a good resource for some ladies to get a few GFIs.

My 2¢

MAy be you should have the ladies come to you for outcall... fuck if I'm going to drive over 2 hours for some poonany. and You don't even know if it will be any good before you get there. Such a set up for major disappointment. ANy OTHEr OBjective besides pussy when you drive out to KC or STL? Like you have any other stuff that you go to these places for? If nothing else, I would seriously reconsider the traveling. But that's my humble opinion.

But if you enjoy doing things this way and this way works for you, more power to you.

I think if she doesn't answer the by the day of, just forget it and start setting up for plan B....

I do that all the time. Works better that way. Sometimes the original plan comes through just in the nick of time and you just send your apologies to plan B girl or see her later on in the day/night... whatever floats your boat man.

Make yourself numero uno..... She is definitely thinking only about herself. Make no mistake about that.

If the provider had a serious problem in her RW life, I hope she contacts you with an apology and an offer to reschedule.

If the provider had a serious problem in her RW life, I hope she contacts you with an apology and an offer to reschedule. Originally Posted by scorpio31

I don't expect to hear from her, if I do she probably will say its a serious problem in RW life. Call me skeptical but I believe most of these serious problems in RW life are fabrications. I'm not interested in any NCNS and won't reschedule since its too far for me to drive on a hope they won't NCNS again with and even more creative fabrication.

I don't understand the idea that a good story 24 to 48hrs after a NCNS somehow excuses them, when all it does is just encourage them to come up with a good line of BS to get a pass. Especially on appointments scheduled in advance with unreturned communications 48hrs or more before the scheduled appointment.

MAy be you should have the ladies come to you for outcall... fuck if I'm going to drive over 2 hours for some poonany. and You don't even know if it will be any good before you get there. Such a set up for major disappointment. ANy OTHEr OBjective besides pussy when you drive out to KC or STL? Like you have any other stuff that you go to these places for? If nothing else, I would seriously reconsider the traveling. But that's my humble opinion.. Originally Posted by A2theb2thec

Its harder to get the girls to drive the 2hrs here, not to mention more expensive. Most of the time I try to arrange it when I have other reasons to be in KC and STL, but it doesn't always work that way. That's the price I pay for living in an area with limited options.

Its harder to get the girls to drive the 2hrs here, not to mention more expensive. Most of the time I try to arrange it when I have other reasons to be in KC and STL, but it doesn't always work that way. That's the price I pay for living in an area with limited options. Originally Posted by Fsn57

I hear ya.... always a thought to ask the visiting providers to see if they'll make a stop in Columbia. I'm sure there are probably quite a few you fellows who would make it worth her while.. It never hurts to ask.

But sorry to hear about the situation in Columbia... Thought more people would go there since it is a college town. Gainesville, florida is I think filled with providers not sure how great they are but they have a selection.. SAme thing.. out in nowhere but a party college town.