References

I remember this being brought up before. However I want to bring it up specific to me.
I am very quick to respond to a reference request,out of respect for fellow providers and the hobbyists that have visited me. However since I am quick and some providers are slow or dont even bother,I have many hobbyists that continuously use me when they need a reference. I dont mind being used as a reference,but if its been 6months or more since you've actually visited me & during that time ive given references for you to see several other providers I am not going to be a forever reference. Sorry if it seems rude but I am busy and seeing me 1x does not make me your forever reference
I hate to just not respond to a provider when I get that pm,so my response will be that I am not willing to give that particular hobbyist a reference..and gents fyi,each provider will interpret that the way they want and may even see it as a negative. Please keep that in mind when choosing who to use as a re reference...xoxo

I think that is reasonable and you should do what you feel comfortable with.

Since conditions "on the ground" so to speak can change very often, imo I would not vouch for any hobbyist asking for a reference based on a single encounter that is more than, say, 60 to 90 days past.

Additionally, I suggest that every hobbyist offering a provider as a reference ought to let that referring provider know he is asking her to vouch for him.

Yes, I'm suggesting some tighter conditions (for some folks) but due to the current situations out there with real and potential jerks, LE, NCNS, and IMPOSTERS, best to take some precautions.

Ladies, imo, always ask someone (even those you know) to send you a PM so both sides of the equation have a bit of a record to go by.

Gents, as always, much better to do some thorough research, too.

And, of course, crank in enough time in advance for vouching processes to work properly.

I have noticed the same thing here...i am very quick to respond so guys use me all the time...i have not seen some of them for over a year...wtf

I think if you use someone as a reference us guys should at least see the provider every so often. Even if it's a quick visit... Js

Since conditions "on the ground" so to speak can change very often, imo I would not vouch for any hobbyist asking for a reference based on a single encounter that is more than, say, 60 to 90 days past. Originally Posted by ck1942

What a load of crap.

Agree with CK.

tpepsi why is that wrong?

Would be same if I saw a BP or ECCIE girl with no references, why take the chance?

There's guys who use me as a reference and never seen them before its annoying as hell.

What a load of crap. Originally Posted by tpepsi

2 to 3 months ago and only one encounter??? Anyone's demeanor has time to change and go bad. Not a good situation to be in. And definitely NOT a LOC. Bzzz.

Tpepsi is always all lil disgruntled. U gta ignore him..lol

2 to 3 months ago and only one encounter??? Anyone's demeanor has time to change and go bad. Not a good situation to be in. And definitely NOT a LOC. Bzzz. Originally Posted by KlassyKelliAnn

Bzzz back at ya hot stuff! If you think a guys demeanor can change in 2-3 months and you don't want to give him a reference, then we should automatically switch our YES review to NO after 3 months. Your demeanor or situation can change too. Maybe you get popped by LE and are now being used as bait for LE to spring a trap. It cuts both ways.

Anyhoo, anyone with half a brain can see this whole threAD is so Cash can drum up some business. It must really chafe at her when guys use her for a reference, knowing that someone else is getting the busine$$.

Lmao...if thts what you see,apparently your the one with half a brain. I have no problem when a hobbyist sees someone else,no chaffing here. Ask providers and hobbyist alike I have no issue with giving references...next

He's actually a great and funny guy but wrong on this one. (And yes, I'll vouch for him! Lol)

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Not giving a guy you haven't seen in 2 or 3 months and only seen once no reference is far different than giving him an all out NO. I don't mind giving a reference that has been a long time out or even a long time out on a one time tryst however, I always makes it a point to Let the requesting provider know this info. I would Never give a Good client a NO for a good visit even if the visit happened only once and long ago. Most will not give a no, they just don't verify period because of the situation.

Bzzz back at ya hot stuff! If you think a guys demeanor can change in 2-3 months and you don't want to give him a reference, then we should automatically switch our YES review to NO after 3 months. Your demeanor or situation can change too. Maybe you get popped by LE and are now being used as bait for LE to spring a trap. It cuts both ways.

Anyhoo, anyone with half a brain can see this whole threAD is so Cash can drum up some business. It must really chafe at her when guys use her for a reference, knowing that someone else is getting the busine$$. Originally Posted by tpepsi

It's been too long since our last Happy Hour so you don't get to buzzzz ME! LOL. No Buzz zone for you babe!

Humm

I dont mind being used as a reference,but if its been 6months or more since you've actually visited me & during that time ive given references for you to see several other providers I am not going to be a forever reference. Sorry if it seems rude but I am busy and seeing me 1x does not make me your forever reference
I hate to just not respond to a provider when I get that pm,so my response will be that I am not willing to give that particular hobbyist a reference..and gents fyi,each provider will interpret that the way they want and may even see it as a negative. Please keep that in mind when choosing who to use as a re reference...xoxo

Seems very reasonable. I think also that the provider should be contacted first prior to anyone submitting them as a reference. I have not been operating in SA or TX for a while and I have seen a few providers who do remember me because of unique circumstances. But it is uo to the provider. Since I do visist family in TX and will be moving back to SA for a while in May. I do try to make a effort to see someone in Texas if my schedule permits.

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