Great sex.. is it technique, or mental?

I have read a few sex guides and they seem to always talk about “technique”, positions, toys and so on.



In thinking back to past sexual encounters, I often find myself thinking about my most favorite sexual experiences. I think about what were the main things that made my experience so awesome. It was a wonderful amount of seducing prior to the actual act that often times lead me to the incredible experience. None of it actually had to do with technique as much as the passion and energy that the man put into for me. So I guess my question is how much of sex is mental versus technique for you? Do you men put a considerable amount of time into working a woman up with seduction techniques before getting handsy? Or is it just straight to it? LOL

Well, with my past SOs, I just went straight to it!

I think the greatest asset to great sex is first and foremost you have to really like who you are with. Notice I did not say love. There is difference.

My preference is strait to it, fast and furious with lots of postitions. If there has to be talking then afterwards is best.

I think the greatest asset to great sex is first and foremost you have to really like who you are with. Originally Posted by Jackie S

Either I am too old or I have been hobbying too long... My greatest sex have been with people I don't even know, let alone liking them!

(Actually, most can't even speak English! )

I've constantly seen four factors that matter: Patience, technique, enthusiasm and chemistry.

I've constantly seen four factors that matter: Patience, technique, enthusiasm and chemistry. Originally Posted by blowpop

If you keep pushing the boundary, your factors are irrelevant!

I've constantly seen four factors that matter: Patience, technique, enthusiasm and chemistry. Originally Posted by blowpop

Definitely chemistry! Without a doubt. I was thinking about a gentleman who I had been dating. The first time was incredible, during the whole evening at dinner he would talk about how incredibly beautiful and smart I was, and would make subtle touches to my hair, and face. Occassionally he would wrap his arms around me when we went out walking in the moonlight. During that first encounter with him, well.. we were sitting on his couch at his place and after some sensuous kissing, he gently picked me up off my feet and took me to the bedroom! OMG it was so exciting, and had me so sexually aroused! He was incredibly gentle and his foreplay was out of this world. I think for women it is a good portion of mental foreplay as well as physical foreplay.

Your right blowpop he was very patient with me and he was well rewarded!

Ok, I will be blunt. The truth hurts. So, here goes...

So I guess my question is how much of sex is mental versus technique for you? Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

If I am hobbying, neither; as long as you are young, hot, and don't mind BBBJ-CIM.

If I am dating, are you young and hot?

Do you men put a considerable amount of time into working a woman up with seduction techniques before getting handsy? Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

No, if I am hobbying.

Yes, if I am dating.

Or is it just straight to it? LOL Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

Depends on quickie, 30 minutes, 1 hour, or multi-hours sessison!

I try not to thinck about it.

For some (me) I think great sex is a work of art both mentally and physically... or maybe I'm just thinking of BJ's.

Ok, I will be blunt. The truth hurts. So, here goes...

If I am hobbying, neither; as long as you are young, hot, and don't mind BBBJ-CIM.

If I am dating, are you young and hot?

No, if I am hobbying.

Yes, if I am dating.

Depends on quickie, 30 minutes, 1 hour, or multi-hours sessison! Originally Posted by Dad

Hmmmm.... interesting. Do you think your habits and attitude unintentionally affect non-escorts your seeing? Just curious. I know it is easy to get into the habit of lazy selfish sex (done it myself), LOL

Please don't take this offensively I am really interested in knowing. Do you get use to just ignoring the foreplay and seduction involved when seeing escorts and do you find that it becomes habitual, thereby affecting a civilian woman who you might be seeing on an intimate basis?

When I look back at past experiences I feel the need to jack off.

Going forward I thinck that scheduling the appointment and laying down the envelope should be foreplay enough.....But then again, I'm a romantic. That's just how I roll.

Definitely chemistry! Without a doubt. I was thinking about a gentleman who I had been dating. The first time was incredible, during the whole evening at dinner he would talk about how incredibly beautiful and smart I was, and would make subtle touches to my hair, and face. Occassionally he would wrap his arms around me when we went out walking in the moonlight. During that first encounter with him, well.. we were sitting on his couch at his place and after some sensuous kissing, he gently picked me up off my feet and took me to the bedroom! OMG it was so exciting, and had me so sexually aroused! He was incredibly gentle and his foreplay was out of this world. I think for women it is a good portion of mental foreplay as well as physical foreplay.

Your right blowpop he was very patient with me and he was well rewarded! Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange

Can we hear more Bebe? I could use some of that chivalry right now.

Can we hear more Bebe? I could use some of that chivalry right now. Originally Posted by latnremedy

LOL

How much more hun? hee hee..

You like all this talk of knight n shining armor stuff do ya? Or did you just want to hear more of the graphic goodstuff?