Opinions needed

Being new to this I can't decide which provider to go to, what rates should I do? Since I'm new should I go for the bng? Or the hh or hr. I can't seem to make up my mind on how to go about this. Ladies and gentlemen your opinions would be well appreciated.

Go to Request/ISO section, look under Newbie friendly providers and take your pick!
Always do a little research to make sure the gal you pick is your cup o tea!
Good luck!

Ask yourself first: why am I here? Are you looking for a particular kind of woman, or a particular kind of experience? Do your research, starting with the "Newbie Friendly Providers" list in the ISO section. The great thing about this site is that you have the opportunity to discuss your preferences with the provider before you knock on her door, thus increasing your chances that you will feel that your money was well-spent.

Do your research. Others can't really decide what session length, rates, and providers work best for you. How often would you like to book a date with a companion? What activities and experiences are high on your list? Do you prefer many shorter dates with beaucoup ladies, or are you inclined to cultivate a connection with only a couple or few? There is no right or wrong answer. Just what's right for you.

I'd suggest you move beyond some of your tentativeness before getting in touch with someone you really want to book with. And be sure to check-in about the communication boundaries of anyone you'd like to reach out to which will often times be included in the showcase on here or on a "Etiquette" page on a website. Some ladies might be fine with chit chat, talking about "menu options," etc. Whereas that may land you on others' DNS list. There is a very fine line between asking questions to clear up your curiosities and time wasting.

Happy searching!

Take your time and research before you jump in. You will be glad you did. As others have said, check the newbie friendly provider list first. I would advise to get a P411 account to make the verification and screening process easier. I think they even have a deal for new members that you may want to ask about.

Think about what kind of lady really turns you on and what you are looking for. You may be the kind of guy like me who's here to try a little bit of everything. Or you may be the kind of guy that likes one particular kind of woman. You may prefer PSE over GFE. Once you figure out what kind of woman you want, that will help narrow down the women in the newbie friendly provider list. Contact them and try to work out an appointment time and place.

Because of the fact that they're newbie friendly, I'm sure they run across a lot of guys that will be nervous their first time hobbying. If they're good, they'll know how to work with you and make you feel at ease. I know I was scared shitless my first time. But I had a provider that took her time with me.

Hope everything works out for you! Happy hobbying!

Thanks for all the input everyone. I've done my research on etiquette, newbie friendlies, menus, even put some thought as to what I would really want. It's just hard picking, you know? So many great looking providers. The. I run into horror story's from hobbyists, and to some extent it almost keeps me from partaking. So I have a few reservations you could say, but all the good bios/story's/reviews make me want to dive into the deep end lol.

Yeah, I wish I could help you further but with me not being in San Antonio I don't know much about the ladies there. Maybe the guys in SA can point you in the right direction if you tell them what you're looking for.

There's a lot of great advice in this thread.

When researching the girl that you are interested in make sure you read plenty of the REVIEWS and review COMMENTS! Put on your reading comprehension glasses and you'll be able to weed out the girls that are hit-or-miss, have safety issues, have habits you rather not be involved with etc.

Get familiar with what the acronyms mean and check to see if the menu you want is listed across several reviews. That will negate the need to discuss BCD fun with your companion. Why risk getting put on a DNS list when a little reading will avoid it?

Anything is not inherently sexual can still be asked like a request for a outfit you saw in her showcase or making sure she has a shower you can use. Specific outfit requests are generally ymmv depending on how easy the request is....yoga pants and a sports bra is generally super easy and most ladies will be happy to accommodate you but if you want a purple velvet merry widow with fishnet thigh highs be prepared to buy the outfit yourself and gift it to her.

Do your research. Others can't really decide what session length, rates, and providers work best for you. How often would you like to book a date with a companion? What activities and experiences are high on your list? Do you prefer many shorter dates with beaucoup ladies, or are you inclined to cultivate a connection with only a couple or few? There is no right or wrong answer. Just what's right for you.

I'd suggest you move beyond some of your tentativeness before getting in touch with someone you really want to book with. And be sure to check-in about the communication boundaries of anyone you'd like to reach out to which will often times be included in the showcase on here or on a "Etiquette" page on a website. Some ladies might be fine with chit chat, talking about "menu options," etc. Whereas that may land you on others' DNS list. There is a very fine line between asking questions to clear up your curiosities and time wasting.

Happy searching! Originally Posted by Lena Duvall

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There's a lot of great advice in this thread.

When researching the girl that you are interested in make sure you read plenty of the REVIEWS AND COMMENTS! Put on your reading comprehension glasses and you'll be able to weed out the girls that are hit-or-miss, have safety issues, have habits you rather not be involved with etc.

Get familiar with what the acronyms mean and check to see if the menu you want is listed across several reviews. That will negate the need to discuss BCD fun with your companion. Why risk getting put on a DNS list when a little reading will avoid it?

Anything is not inherently sexual can still be asked like a request for a outfit you saw in her showcase or making sure she has a shower you can use. Specific outfit requests are generally ymmv depending on how easy the request is....yoga pants and a sports bra is generally super easy and most ladies will be happy to accommodate you but if you want a purple velvet merry widow with fishnet thigh highs be prepared to buy the outfit yourself and gift it to her. Originally Posted by SA Angel

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Lots of good advice already on the first question, but the second one seems unaddressed ...

Since I'm new should I go for the bng? Or the hh or hr. Originally Posted by 8o88arker

It depends on your preferences, stamina, and sociability ...

The BNG has a very limited menu - one activity, no warm-up, no chatter afterward. You're expected to be in an out in ten or fifteen minutes. There's also a QV option where CFS is the main activity, but it's otherwise similar: no warm-up, no warm-down, just hit it and hit the road. I tend to be a slow starter and my preference is a more leisurely and sensual encounter, so I've never tried either of these - just seems very mechanical/impersonal and trying to "beat the clock" would make it less pleasant - but some prefer it that way, particularly if you're asocial or antisocial.

The HH gives you a little time before the festivities to get comfortable, get in a few activities at a more leisurely pace, and relax a little while after before you hit the road. With the HH session, most providers will offer you a shower before you go should you need it - that generally does not happen (and it would likely be rude to ask) for the short sessions.

The full hour is leisurely - you'll be able to take your time, chat and relax, engage in a lot of warm-up activities, try a few different things. If you're a bottle rocket you might be able to go for MSOG, otherwise you can take it slow and easy then hang out and relax a while before you go back to the world. It feels a bit more natural all in all, slow-paced and social.

Thus considered, I'd suggest starting in the middle - do the HH session. If it feels a bit rushed, go for the full hour in future sessions. If you "peak" early and feel you're hanging around an awkwardly long time afterward, then you can downgrade to BNG/QV the next time.

Thanks SA Angel, Enticing orchids, and john. With everyone's opinions and advice I think I've narrowed down a few of the choices I was facing. His new world with MANY options is exciting and taboo. I'm thinking maybe a hh just to get the experience and possibly a reference to have, if they agree of course. I've got to say y'all have been awesome, in the few months if been on this site I've seen plenty of good comradely.

Which provided would any of you hobbyist or providers suggest? I have a few in mind, but I am open to suggestions. Who better to ask than the professionals right? And yes I do know most of this is up to personal preference but a little input never hurt...or has it?!? Lol

Which provided would any of you hobbyist or providers suggest? Originally Posted by 8o88arker

Of the wonderful ladies currently on the Newbie Friendly list, I can personally recommend SS Yvonne (she popped my ECCIE cherry), babykins, Little Miss Cuntcakes (L1 massage only), AdventurewLinda, Camille Fox, SA Angel, KlassyKelliAnn, and Purrrsia. They are all caring and attentive professionals and are highly skilled and great GFE providers who will usher you into Playland with a bang.

Pardon me 808 but how shall I put this...stop sitting at the house licking your nuts and get out there and hook up with one of the lovely SA ladies!!

Yo Cover, I agree with most of what you post but a couple of names on your list left me perplexed. I'm sort of feeling like the chicken who saw a card trick. The chicken knew it saw something but just wasn't quite sure what it was.
Yo, peace & love, Doc