But its really hard to give a reference when people don't check them.... Lately, (and way too often) I have been hearing from past clients that they've given my name and email address as reference info to ladies they are trying to schedule with, and then I receive no reference checks. Then when I see the gentleman later, he saw her, but I know she never contacted me. If you ask for references, and they're given, why not actually check them? I asked a lady I've never met that very question and she actually told me that since she's seen my board posts she was "ok with that". Um...what? Knowing someone exists by my name is enough to decide that a guy is safe to see? Whoa. Really? So what happens when "Bob" tells you he saw me in July and you never check with me, but later you realize that "Bob" is really rough and doesn't know how to behave behind closed doors? That's information I would have mentioned IF I had been asked about "Bob". Or worse...what if "Bob" and I have PM'd but never actually met?
I don't mean to imply that references are the only method of screening, but I see no reason to ask for refs you aren't going to check. It gives people a false idea of a concern for safety that isn't actually there. And I also think that a client should want to know whether his refs were contacted. If the lady asks for them but didn't take the time to check him out, how safe are her business practices? Is she safe to see? Boys, please do me a favor...if you give my name as a ref to a lady you are scheduled to see, please let me know. Especially if I'm your ONLY reference!
Sent Lea a PM. Not sure what's up with that. Other providers have emailed me asking why there access is gone too??????
